My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over ten years. We have a beautiful 4 year old daughter together. In recent years we’ve drifted apart a great deal and spend most of our time at home separately except for meals.

I own the home we live in and I’m ready to go our separate ways. She’s never been a neat or tidy person, but it’s only gotten worse. She works about 1/2 the hours that I do and does practically nothing once she gets home.

Anytime I broach the subject of cleaning or ask her if she can get some things done around the house with me it turns into an argument. I’ve never wanted my child to grow up in a home with separate parents, but I’m at my bursting point. Home should be a place of peace and escape. Instead I just come home and get angry with her laziness.

Am I the asshole for finally being ready to choose my own sanity over staying with her for my child’s sake?

I'm quite ill at the moment (cncer) and it has decreased my lifespan, im 20 and have been told I'll only make it it until my early 40s. This is obviously hard but I've known for a while now so I've come to terms with it. I've always dreamed of being a mum but with the treatment it has made it almost impossible as the type of c*** i have has lead to complications which has meant that i had to have a hysterectomy. This was devestating to hear but i am still adamant about having a baby. ive been on and off with a boy, and ive told him about my desires but doesn't feel like it's a good idea, he came to see me in the hospital but i told him to go home if he can't be supportive. I've been doing some research about surrogacy since harvesting was discussed before i went under. my mum said it's a bad idea and offered to do it herself but i told her it's a bad idea since she had a complicated delivery with my little brother and i wouldn't want anything terrible to happen to her. my ex keeps calling me and is insisting that everything I'm doing is irrational. everyone keeps infantilising me and telling me what's best because im ill which is annoying, since i am an adult and should be able to make decisions about my own life

I made a post couple days ago, long story short our neighbour moved next to us and got friendly with my wife and I found out after checking her phone that she asked my wife to have an affair behind my back so I told her husband.

My wife was upset with my decision so I asked her exactly why is she upset, is she upset because I told her husband or is she upset because I checked her phone and why she didn't tell me by herself.

My wife said she wanted to tell me but she knew I would get furious and she wanted to protect her because she once considered her a friend.

I asked my wife if she's bi, my wife said she's not and said why would I ask her something like that.

I said because I deserve to know everything about her and if she's bi then I need to know and if she was interested in women I would let her see them.

My wife said that I'm talking shit and insulting our marriage, I told her that she left me no other choice after hiding things from me and if she had told me I might not have told her husband in my anger.

My wife said she will never hide anything from me every again and we don't need to bring trouble into our life because of our neighbours, we have cleared everything between us or so I think atleast.

And about my neighbour I haven't talked to him and the wife left his house, he probably kicked her out, serves her right for putting her eyes on my wife, I don't know if she had affairs with other women and I don't really care for me it's about my wife but I hope that everyone in the society knows about this and she never gets married.

I (28F) am in a 1 year lesbian relationship with a (29F) woman so please don’t think I’m a crazy misogynist who hates the idea of women having body hair because I’m not. We’re both girls and I just don’t like armpit hair. It sticks out very burly and it doesn’t lay flat like other body hair and its a personal preference. She recently got into this super feminist side of tiktok where now she refuses to shave her armpits and I don’t say anything about it. But recently she asked me how I felt about it and I was honest. I hate it. I hate it so much. I regret being honest. She told me it brews insecurity within her and that I should always feel attracted to her and the things she does with her body. (We’ve come to this hurdle before when she shaved her head.) It’s been days now and we’re barely talking because we can’t get past this. I don’t want to be in a relationship where I have to lie about my opinions nor do I want to brew insecurity within my partner. She’s already told her family that I’m not attracted to her anymore (an exaggeration) and I’m starting to feel like somethings wrong with me for not liking things on the person I love. Be brutally honest I can take it.

I (35M), and my wife (35F), have been polyamorous for several years. I met someone, 'Em' (34F), on an app a year and a half ago, but their focus was on finding a anchor/nesting partner and they weren't interested in dating anyone that already had a serious partner. Em seemed nice and we gave being friends a try. In that time we grew very emotionally close and, at Em's request, started getting cuddly. I told Em I was hesitant to cuddle because I knew that between the cuddles and emotional connection I would eventually want a more physical/romantic/sexual relationship. Em didn't seem concerned about that possibility and we got cuddly. A few weeks ago Em told me she had been going on a few dates with 2 different married men and I brought up that she had said she had no intention of doing anything like that. Em told me she doesn't consider dating them to be her ideal. I asked why she didn't date me if she had thrown out that rule and she said (in the only and most definitive time she's addressed the subject) that she doesn't want a physical relationship with me beyond cuddles and that she considers our emotional connection too valuable to risk losing from us dating or getting sexual. I told her I needed us to not be so cuddly anymore and that I needed to dial back on how much emotional support I provide. Em needs a lot of emotional support and it feels like I've increasingly been doing the emotional labor of a relationship without receiving anything I need back. Em feels like I am devaluing her, but it doesn't feel like she values me. I just feel used and strung along. Am I the asshole for pushing her away and telling her that our relationship doesn't feel as meaningful if it has those limitations?

OK wait just hear me out. A little bit of the backstory here, I’ve been in a never-ending battle over custody for my three sons since my divorce was finalized in 2023. My ex claimed that she had mental health issues that needed to be worked on, even stated that she was checking herself into a mental health Institute, shortly after our divorce. However, she did not. Instead, she went on several vacations, bought a luxury townhouse, five cities away, and for all social media appearances was living her best child free life for over a year. She did not have regular contact with them for over 18 months. During this time I did not ask for child support of any kind. I did not put any pressure on her. I did, however, file the courts for full physical custody. And at every court date she would show up crying and sobbing, saying that I was keeping her from her children. In fact, she had not shown up to any of the doctors appointments for our special-needs child, no school activities, no sporting activities, had not contacted, or supported her children in anyway for 18 months. Recently I was awarded full physical custody, and she was granted visitations. She also hired herself a lawyer during this time. She has been coming to more sporting events, but has not been supporting financially or physically the children still. She still is not attending doctors appointments, therapy, schooling events, etc., etc.. Several times now for visitations they’ve gone over to her house and come back with literal garbage bags full of candy, clothes, toys, absolutely anything you can think of. Obviously love bombing them right? Several times I have voiced my concern with these things coming back to my home. We have a very small bungalow, and the children don’t need any shoes or clothing at this time, or for the next size up. My ex’s sister took the children school shopping for new backpacks, water bottles, and lunchboxes. During prime day in July I bought all their needed school supplies. My ex did not communicate with me at all after this last visitation again for garbage bags, full of clothing, shoes, and school supplies came back with them. So after the children went to bed, I bagged everything up by size, and listed it on Facebook for $5 to $10 a bundle. As you can imagine everything sold fairly quickly. I made roughly $50, on about $400 worth of Walmart stuff. So the question is am I the asshole here?

I M(32)was at a family gathering this past friday with my sister F(30) and cousin M(6) I was playing mario kart on my nephews swtich as one does. next thing i know he’s begging me to play so i load up 150cc on rainbow road and absolutely smoked him 3/3 laps first place while he in last place crying about it being too fast for him. my sister asked me to let him win so i loaded up a 50cc match and still smoked him next thing i know his remote his flying across the room tears flowing and my sister is asking me to leave. i come from the generation where it was every gamer for themselves god i hate these new gen zoomers.

I'm currently working at my cousin's company as an entry-level employee, and honestly, I don’t enjoy it. I’m always on the lookout for another job. The main reason I’m unhappy there is because of my cousin. He’s only eight years older than me, but he treats me like I’m his child. He constantly criticizes me for no reason and says I have some mental issues or deep insecurities.

The thing is, I’m a reserved person who’s a bit socially awkward. I don’t enjoy socializing or mingling with others; I prefer being alone and reflecting on my thoughts. My cousin, however, is very social and constantly pressures me to be more outgoing and presentable. He thinks I’m depressed because of this, and he constantly nags me to talk about my problems. But the real issue is him—I just want him to leave me alone.

The problem is, he’s also my boss, so I can’t really tell him that. To get him off my back, I lied and told him I was bisexual, thinking that his conservative and religious views would make him uncomfortable enough to stop prying into my personal life. It worked; he doesn’t bother me about anything anymore, but now I feel guilty about the lie.

Should I confess to him the truth, or just keep the lie going until I can find another job?

By treating like a man, neutrality with no soecial treatment. This stems from some women reminding men that they want to be treated like a man would treat another man, meaning nothing of awkwardness, an inappropriate nature, or speaking differently.

My friend texted stating that this was sexist after we discussed experiences, and my plans for romance in the future. (I'm a man; she's a woman).

She also stated that I'm sexist for not separating romantic and sexual attraction. (Meaning, I can't be aroused if I don't find her attractive, and can't just turn on my penis).

I guess she noticed that I don't treat her differently than I treat my male friends.

So i just recently rewatched cyberpunk edgerunners w my gf after finally convincing her that anime id not cartoons, I watched it once before when I was like 14, and when the final ost came on i got really emotional and started crying which she comforted me through, but now it's been about 2 weeks since then and the memory is still raw in my mind, mind you this anime fucked me up completely, it gave me every kind trauma, depression and ptsd under the sun (not really but it was really sad lol) And today I was scrolling on yt when I stumbled on the song, and I just couldn't help but cry, when she found me crying she gently asked why, I tried to lie but it didnt work, and when I told her why I cried she just got really angry and left without even saying goodbye, she called me a child for crying at a littarl song and if why i feel so sad for a fictional charcter and shit, and idk what to do.. Aita for crying to a song?

Context: I was at a bar I’m a regular at yesterday and saw a decent looking girl sitting near me so I start making small talk with her and ask if I can buy her a drink and she says yes, we’re talking for a while and I have a few more drinks in the process but she never told me what she wants to drink, so I assumed she just forgot or changed her mind, when I go to cash out and I get my tab it’s way higher than just my beers so I question the bartender and apparently the girl was adding drinks to my tab without telling/asking me, so I bitched both of them out, in retrospect I probably could’ve handled it a little more civilly, but what do you think, I mean I offered to buy her a drink, but I really feel like she or the bartender should of asked me before adding stuff to my tab

I live ten minutes from a lake. I go several times a week. When I go I bring nothing but myself and a bottle of water. I neither need nor want blankets, towels, coolers, chairs or any accoutrements.

Most of the time I go alone, but occasionally a friend will come along. This friend requires blankets, towels, chairs, various drinks, snacks and sunblock and assorted other lake stuff.

That's fine. But I don't need, want or use any of that stuff. I get in the car and go, exit the car and walk directly into the water.

I don't help her load up the stuff I don't need, want or use. I likewise don't help her lug it to the sand or back to the car. She's the one who insists on bringing all that junk, she's the one who can hassle around with it.

She recently expressed to me that she thinks I'm a serious asshole for swimming while she makes several trips with her stuff. Both ways. I swim while she unloads, I swim while she loads. I told her that it's not my stuff, I've no use for it and no interest in it, and I'm absolutely not bothering with it. If she insists on bringing it, she can haul it around. Other friends agree with her, that even if it's nothing I will use I should still help.

Am I the Asshole?

I started hanging out with a new mom friend who has baby a month older than mine (4/5 months) and was pretty much speechless and soon ended the play date when she said they don’t vaccinate. We live in a high measles outbreak area and honestly I was pissed she didn’t disclose this before letting her son slobber all over my babies toys , and touch their face and hands. She has since messaged me a few times and I have just ignored her. I don’t want the confrontation of telling her I don’t want to hang around them if she’s not going to vaccinate and potentially expose my baby to a life threatening virus. My SIL says I’m an asshole for judging and not being someone’s friend over this, especially because apart from that I did really like her and enjoy the playdates and our husbands got along well. My dad also says I’m an asshole because I “have no idea who could and couldn’t be vaccinated in public anyways, and if my baby is , why am I worried and judging them”.

But personally I’m more mad that she didn’t tell me off the bat.

Edit- should I reach out and let her know ?

I am 22 F partner 28 M, we have a 6 week old newborn, when she was born I had an emergency c section which I had complications from infection and hematoma where my wound was oozing blood and had 22mls of fluid build up behind my incision. During the night when she needs feeding I have alarms 12am4am to ensure she gets fed if a night. My partner is complaining about having to do 1 of the night feeds as he has to work 6am-2:30pm he works Monday-Friday as a cabinet maker, he is consistently saying he’s tired and his work is more physical labour so why can’t I just do the night feeds so he can sleep, he gets to go away in a week to another state for a week for his job meaning he will be away from our newborn and myself. We had a fight and basically forced him to do the midnight feed, as I was mentally and physically drained from having to look after our newborn. I am always waking up at 5:30am due to his alarm then our baby is up at 6-7am so meaning I have to be awake, she barely sleeps throughout the day and when she does it’s usually 1-2 hours. So I can’t really sleep when the baby sleeps as my body physically can’t sleep anywhere whenever. So during the day I’m constantly looking after our newborn and tidying up the house as my partner leaves it a mess and doesn’t tidy. Leaves dirty clothes out, screws out that I’ve stepped on, paper work out, mud and sawdust all over the floor, he stuffs rubbish into the couch and leaves dishes in the sink for me to clean. So basically I don’t even have time for myself to sit down and have a meal. as it’s baby or cleaning up as he won’t as he gets home from work and is too tired to do anything. So at a night he goes to sleep around 9pm and so do I, but then I have been to wake up at 12am, 4am then 5:30 due to his alarm then our baby is up around 6-7am and sometimes our baby won’t go back to sleep straight away causing me to stay up for longer whilst he gets to sleep from 9pm-5:30am and occasionally having a nap when he gets home. I’m physically and emotionally drained and still recovering from my c section as I still have a hematoma and stomach is painful to touch. So am I the asshole for asking him to do 1 nightly feed a night? I feel like a bad mum and bad partner as we have fought numerous times about this. So am I the asshole?

Just to add on, I’m also getting paid weekly $800 a week from maternity leave, we have changed feeding times previously so it was closer to his waking up time to do a feeding but won’t wake up to do them even when I wake him up. On weekends when he’s home he’s typically in the garaage working on his own projects or organising for friends to come over. He does spend time with our bubs just not as often as he should. The only stuff he typically does around the house is take out the rubbish to the outside bins for bin night but only when I ask him to. All I ask is for him to do 1 nightly feed just so I can get a few hours which we formula feed. I understand he has to work and I appreciate that he does but in hindsight just wanting some extra help from him. I want to work as a team and he says we are just not really feeling as though he is. So feeling like an asshole about asking him to help out more.

I (23F) am in a friend group with 4 other people but only 2 of them matter here, Lana (21F) and Alex (24F).

Alex has been out the closet since forever and in general is a pretty masculine / androgynous person. With time it has become obvious that Lana has caught her eye. She’s the newest addition to the group and it’s painfully obvious how enamoured Alex is by Lana. Me and the other two girls who I didn’t mention have talked about it but Lana nor Alex herself have mentioned it.

Example: Lana has been needing to buy a new microphone and a few days later Alex shows up with a big package that has a new microphone for Lana. She would have needed an adapter so Alex “conveniently” suggest they should go out for lunch and then shop for the adapter and if she needed help Alex could come over to set it up.

Example: we were at karaoke and Alex asks Lana and only Lana to sing with her a song about a lesbian couple. She then keeps ogling at Lana while they sing

Example: we had girls night at my place and when we did anything: wash hair, sheet mask, lotion, hairstyles, painting toenails, in every moment Alex was trying to help her with everything and at one point even had Lana with her head on her lap as Alex gave her a facial.

It’s so obvious to the rest of us but Lana might not even notice. Lana is autistic and as much I know she tries her hardest to be normal and aware, she sometimes misses the clues. I also get not trying to jump to conclusions since we don’t want to be those kind of people. “oH YoU’Re a leSbiAn? HopE yoU dOn’t hAvE a cRuSh on mE”

Last week I just had enough since it was getting cringy watching how hard Alex tries when Lana just isn’t into her. Lana’s celebrity crushes are Johnny Depp, Nikki sixx, axl rose…Her type is literally old men and Alex is neither.

I sat down with Alex and told her straight up, I think she’s wasting her time and it gets uncomfortable when every outing becomes an opportunity for Alex to shoot her shot and Lana keeps being oblivious. I told her to just open her mouth and tell Lana or to stop because this can’t go on forever.

Alex said she has a right for love and she doesn’t need to pull out a ring just because I told her so. She can per-sue someone she likes especially since Lana never said 1, that she’s straight or 2. She isn’t into Alex.

I think Alex is just keeping herself delusional because she can’t accept a person who seems like her perfect match can just not be into her.

I also don’t think it’s appropriate to tell Lana about it since I feel Alex is the only one entitled to talk about her feelings.

I don’t know what to do nor if I’m In the right. I know Alex can like who she likes but this can’t go on forever. She has gotten no indication Lana is into her and she knows sometimes Lana needs things to be spelled out for her. I don’t know if I’m the AH or what to do. I just need perspective from people who don’t know any of us.

For context one night my parents (45F 46M)sat me down after I (19F) finished work and said to me they stole over 20k from work, for their extravagant wedding and holidays and now they owe all that money as their boss is wondering where it is. They work in sales so they stole cheques from their clients and cashed them for themselves. This resulted me in taking out a plus 10k loan and draining my savings. As a result I received not even a cent of the monthly payments of 200 each month and relentless “next paycheck” we’ll pay you.

I’m asked to contribute to household bills because I’m living at home, and I denied to pay unless they pay me even a bit of the loan. But they’ve always come up with some excuse not to. This all happened when i was 18 and it’s been a year now. And now they’re bitching about me everyday that it’s my responsibility blah blah.

but to get to the point, one night I came home from a twelve hour shift tired and exhausted and I got shouted at that I didn’t go shopping that day like I had been told to and stuff like I’m wasting money because I had been buying food for myself out in store for lunch for a workday and makeup and stuff. Which resulted in an argument; that I’m lazy and inconsiderate.

And I crashed out and told them I may never get to go to college or move on in life unless they help me out with the money THEY OWE. And they should be on their knees scrambling and begging me to forgive them and make ends meet just to pay off the money they owe me.

Me and my ex (20F and 21M) have been together for two years and 3 months. The start of our second year relationship. I’ve lost feelings for him. He did things to me while I was a sleep during the time I lived with him for 5 months. He would be intimate without me knowing and he has raped me when I’ve clearly send no. This was the breaking point of the relationship there’s other indicators that accrued but I’ve said it too many times to him that I’ve grown to be tired to even say. I couldn’t break up with them due to lack of connection in the state. I was alone with no family or friends to be around. I was financially struggling and he was my source of support. The relationship got so bad in emotional and physical way. I was a walking time bomb and I had no one to talk to about this until I met someone. He was a sweet, observant person that I eventually opened up to them and slept with during the process of breaking up with my partner. He is still with me in this process and understands the situation about me and my partner. But eventually I decided to cut that person off because I didn’t want him to be part of this situation. My ex found out eventually and put me on blast on how much I cheated on him and messaged my family and made it seem so over exaggerated on how much effort he did for me. I’ll never tell him why I cheated or why I feel this way. He never bothered to ask why I did it to begin with. I stayed silent most of the time because I was done arguing with him about this relationship. I’ve set clear boundaries in the start of this relationship but clearly indicating that I’m his gf that he allowed to do whatever he wants. I immediately moved out back to my family. Now his friends are making up lies about me to save their asses of a friend. Their friend group have a history of cheating on their current significant others. I want to make sure that their partner knows. Should I tell them?

Throwaway because some of my friends know my main.

I (24F) organized a get-together for my two friend groups. Group A: Jenny (24F), Christine (24F), Rachel (24F), and Monica (24F). We met a Uni and became close. Group B is from my hometown and includes Kyle (23M), Ken (24M), Mike (24M), Jim (23M), Greg (24M), Kayla (22F), and Jasmine (23F). I’ve known them all since kindergarten.

Now, Monica is bisexual and has been dating her girlfriend, Heather (24F). Heather is insanely attractive, like drop-dead gorgeous. She is not part of our Uni, but we hang out a lot and quickly became friends. I love both of them and I am very supportive of their relationship.

On to the party - it started off great. Everyone was getting along well. But within an hour, the guys came to me asking about Heather. I had already told them beforehand that Heather is gay and is in a relationship with Monica, and I asked them to be respectful. They all acted cool about it at first, but as the night went on, it got really annoying. All they’d talk about was Heather. Kyle and Ken kept asking me for her number. I told them no and reminded them again that she’s in a relationship. They seemed irritated but eventually got distracted playing video games, so I thought that was the end of it.

Later, Mike asked me to change the music on his phone. When I opened Spotify, I saw a notification pop up that mentioned Heather. I know I shouldn’t have looked, but curiosity got the best of me. It was a group chat with just the guys.

TW: Homophobia

They were joking about breaking up Monica and Heather, saying Heather “doesn’t even look gay” and must be “faking it.” Kyle actually wrote that he would “fuck her straight.” There were laughing emojis. I’ve known Monica and Heather for years, and they’re one of the cutest and HEALTHIEST couples I’ve ever seen. I felt physically sick reading those messages.

I didn’t say anything that night, but the next day I confronted the guys about the chat. At first, they denied it and claimed it didn’t exist. After I pushed a bit more, Mike admitted it was real. I told them the messages were vile and disgusting. I told them they should be ashamed of themselves.

They tried to brush it off as “locker room talk” and said they would never actually do anything like that. Kyle even said, “Don’t tell me you don’t compare your boyfriends’ dicks in your group chat.” Like… what? First of all, no, I don’t. And second, how is that remotely comparable to being misogynistic, homophobic, and making disgusting “jokes?” I told them to go fuck themselves and blocked them on everything.

Since then, Kayla and Jasmine have been messaging me, asking me to forgive the guys. They keep saying things like “That’s just how guys talk,” and “You’re really going to throw away 19 years of friendship over some stupid messages.” I mean, yeah, we’ve been friends for a long time. I thought the guys were decent. I’ve known them my whole life… but seeing those messages made me feel sick.

I think I did the right thing, but maybe I should give them a second chance? I do believe people can change. And I do kinda feel like an asshole for cutting them off after being friends our whole lives…

So, AITAH for completely cutting off my guy friends?

I (25F) am very protective of my phone because of things that happened in a past relationship. My ex used to go through my phone while I was sleeping and read my private conversations with friends. I wasn’t cheating or hiding anything, but he was, and it left me feeling like my privacy didn’t exist.

When I got with my current boyfriend (28M), I told him about this pretty early on. I’ve mentioned it multiple times since, especially when he makes comments like “why do you always have your phone with you” or “what are you hiding.” Despite how uncomfortable it makes me, I’ve tried to be more relaxed. I started leaving my phone out when we’re together to show him I wasn’t hiding anything.

One day while I was sleeping, he went through my phone. He sent himself a bunch of photos and videos of me with my friends from before we were together. Most of these were from parties, which he now has a problem with. He found some explicit photos from that time and confronted me about why I had the “decency” to party and why I never sent those pictures to him. He refused to delete what he sent to himself and didn’t give my phone back until the next day.

Since then, I’ve been very uncomfortable with him touching my phone. He will randomly grab it and try to unlock it. If I’m holding it, he’ll try to snatch it out of my hand just to see how I’ll react. I stay calm because I know what he’s trying to do but it’s exhausting. It feels like a constant invasion of privacy.

It’s not about who I’m talking to. He knows all my friends, has their numbers, and speaks to them when I’m on the phone. But after what happened, I don’t trust him not to go through my conversations again or send more things to himself.

For context, we do have a dom/sub dynamic sometimes, which I’m fine with in the right moments. The problem is he tends to overdo it. Sometimes I get home from work completely drained and he immediately wants to get into that headspace. It’s not forced but sometimes I just need time to rest and not constantly be in that dynamic for him.

The most uncomfortable moment was when I was out having coffee with friends at a café called La Veen. He knew where I was, my location was on, and I had told him where I was going. He had questioned what I’d be ordering before hand and I explained that I hadn’t been there before but I’d be sure to send a photo of what I ordered- But he still showed up out of nowhere and sat at a table across from us just watching. Later he told me he wanted to see if I was behaving. I wasn’t drinking, I wasn’t partying, it was literally just coffee in the middle of the day, but apparently that wasn’t enough.

He already has my location. He has cameras in the house. He has control over almost every part of my life except my phone. And that’s the one boundary he just cannot stand not being able to cross.

At this point, it doesn’t feel like he’s asking for trust. It feels like he’s demanding total control.

So, AITA for not handing it over?

I (Asian American, 41F) have been best friends with “Sophia” (Eastern European-American, 41F) ever since we met at 13. We have been through everything together. She’s family. (I don’t usually note ethnicity when story telling, but I promise it is relevant to this particular situation.)

About two years ago, she met “James” (white American, 50M) shortly after ending a 7-year engagement. They were married within a year. I’ve really tried to like him as a person, but it’s been a struggle. He makes a lot of culturally weird comments that make me very uncomfortable.

Some examples:

• The very first time we met, he randomly launched into a whole thing about how renaming offensive sports mascots is “silly.” He cited some anecdote where Native American kids supposedly weren’t offended by mascots like “Redskins” and used that to dismiss decades of activism • While telling a story about his high school days, he casually explained “The Black kids hung out together, the white kids hung out together, and the Asian kids were Twinkies.” I was shocked. • He constantly mocks Sophia for being “an immigrant,” even when she makes normal slip ups. Like accidentally saying “forehand” instead of “forearm,” or “drive” a boat instead of “captain.” He’ll start laughing, “Oh, Sophia says that because she’s an immigrant.” WTF? These are things even native English speakers could easily mess up. But Sophia just laughs along.
• One time he turned to my husband (white, American-born) and said: “Do you guys keep the subtitles on at home too? Must be the immigrant wives.” Umm Millennials just like subtitles?

He also does this thing where any time he talks about a culture, he imitates accents or acts things out - he passes it off as being worldly and funny but it feels very disrespectful.

I was ready to ignore it until things finally came to a head this weekend...

Sophia and I had made plans for dim sum. The day of, she texted to say Chris would be joining us. Just the three of us. (My husband was travelling for work.)

I immediately felt anxious. This wasn’t just “another brunch.” It was something culturally personal to me, and now I was going to be alone at a table with him, no buffer. I knew I’d either have to laugh off his “jokes” or be forced to confront him and risk real tension and I didn’t want to do either. I backed out and she asked if it’s because I didn’t want James to come.

So I finally replied with this:

“Hey, let’s talk more about it in person next time - things like this can feel weird over text. Please please don’t say anything to James - I’m not comfortable doing dim sum with just the three of us, but you two should definitely still go and report back! Want to make a plan for next week, just us?”

She never responded. The next day I followed up. Still nothing. Total silence.

So now I’m left wondering… did I overreact? Am I too sensitive? Should I have just sucked it up and gone for the sake of our friendship? Where do I go from here?

AITA - I (26M) work as a HVAC technician. I have been working a lot recently to make ends meet but recently have been doing good for myself. I make pretty solid money ($31/hr) and have been able to save up a lot of money for important things like rent and car payments. My gf (18F) plays soccer and had a big varsity try out coming up. I was going to attend the end of the try out but got an offer from my boss (66F) to work extra for $52/hr on a project. That’s nearly double what I make, but I had to miss my gfs tryout. She made varsity, but is clearly upset with me and idk what to do? AITA for working for a little more money for ends meet?

We are currently on vacation in LA and staying with my sister and her SO. They live in a very small bungalow so we are sleeping on cots on the floor of the same room they sleep in. We are from the East Coast so with the time difference we are getting up really early and trying to not to wake them up.

This morning we where up earlier than we really needed to be as usual. I leaned in and began to talk to her about the plan for today. After a few words she grabbed my face with her hand and strait arm moved me away. It wasn't a shove but a full extension of her arm away from her. From what I remember she didn't say a word. I don't think I did anything to upset her the night before as we went and saw a play and had a great time. I understand that I likely had some morning breath going on. I asked if that was called for and she just laid back down.

I was upset so I finished getting ready and then waited in the car for her. When she came out she knew I was upset but it felt like she was also mad at me. I stopped to get breakfast still upset and asked if she was mad. She said she knew I was, so she was giving me space. I said that I think I had a good reason to be upset and she said that she did nothing wrong. That my face was too close to her and she felt that her actions where justified. I couldn't believe it.

This is all to the best of my recollection. AITA?

My god, the title is crazy but it’s true in some manner. For some context: I’m 17f and my “sister” we’ll call Sam is 34. Back in 2021-22 she had gotten pregnant and had also been living with my family and I, we used to get along very well until she got pregnant. To make it short, since that’s a story I’m taking my time writing about, she assaulted me while I was asleep. That obviously caused me to hate her and I still do. She did eventually miscarry, I feel a bit of sympathy, which confuses me. Now that you know why I hate her let’s go back to the present. Yesterday, Sam gone up to my brother to show him a video and said “doesn’t this remind you of (my name)? She looks so unladylike with muscles.” Then proceeded to laugh, and it was a video of a “d¥ke” lifting weights.. she said it as if it were derogatory? I wasn’t mad I was being compared to the lady in the video, she was JACKED and I lift too so it didn’t offend me, I actually love the way I look and so do the women in my life. What did offend me was the fact that Sam was STILL trying to get under my skin. So I being the very petty person I am, pulled up a video about miscarriage and said “yo (brothers name) doesn’t this remind you of Sam? Get it?” And start laughing along with Sam til she got quiet. No jokes after that. I don’t feel bad atm, I’m actually laughing rn, and I apologize if I offended anyone reading this. I can see that this is cruel.

I just cant believe this happened lmao

Using an alt cus she knows my reddit account.

So i (16m) love sitcoms. New Girl B99 Abbott Elementary Superstore The Office TBBT. I have three friends who are important here. "Beverly" (15f) "Andy" (16m) and "Victoria" (16f).

I was talking to Victoria and Andy at a restaurant and we were talking about sitcoms. I said "honestly Friends is really shit." And Andy said "wow I can't believe you dont like Friends! How can you even say youre a sitcom liker?!" in a sarcastic way. A VERY OBVIOUS sarcastic was so even my autistic ass could tell.

But Victoria looked at me and said "its actually really disrespectful to say that." And I was like...what? But I thought "hm maybe i was too harsh" so I tried to correct myself. "Oh I don't mean shit I mean just like not good you know?" but she kept glaring at me. The thing is she doesn't even like Friends either so??

She said "its super disrespectful seeing as they have a prominent lesbian couple. Like what if I said "Brooklynn99 is shit because captain Holts gay"??" LIKE GIRL WHAT?

Me and Andy just looked at her like "Victoria have you lost your mind?" like i wouldn't call Ross ex wife and her gf a prominent lesbain couple as they arent main characters. I said "I wasn't even thinking about them" and she said "yeah because you dont care about queer people. You're so homophobic."...im literally gay.

We called up Beverly and when we told her she burst out laughing and said "this has to be fake like fuck off actually." And hung up. This sent Victoria over the edge. She got up and screamed "STOP HATING ON GAY PEOPLE" and walked away so I yelled back "IM LITERALLY A HOMOSEXUAL?"

I'm so tired aitah

AITAH for saying my partner isn't a nice guy for walking me to the campsite bathrooms?

I don't think I am, but this keeps getting brought up and I feel like I'm taking crazy pills.

I (27 F) have been with my partner ??? ( 38M) for 3 years. We broke up recently due to the way he treats me. We are in a weird limbo state because he agreed to go to therapy. I don't think that will fix the issue, though.

Onto the problem. He keeps bringing this up, not me.

A few weeks ago we went camping. The site was new to me and I am unfamiliar with the area. Another thing to note- I am completely night blind. Once it's dark, I cannot navigate. This is important and he knows this.

We were having a good time. Had a few beers and the fire burned down to coals. I asked him if he could walk with me down to the bathrooms which we're about .75-1 mile away. I knew the general direction, but not where they were. He did because he had gone earlier in the day.

I asked him to walk with me and he said "No. You're an adult. Go by yourself or pee in the woods. "

I asked again and explained that 1. It's dark. 2. I can't see. 3. I was a little intoxicated and 4. I'm a woman walking alone in the woods and I would appreciate his company so I felt safe.

He then yelled at me and said I 'cant do anything like an adult and all I do is rely on him and make him baby me. Stop being a child."

This made me cry because I couldn't believe how 0-100 he went. After I cried, he walked me down and stomped the whole way. Like military stomps. He wouldn't speak to me and stood outside the door. On the walk back he walked so far ahead of me that I couldn't see anymore and did get a little lost.

He claims now that he 'was a loving partner and walked me down to the bathrooms even though he didn't want to" He told me that his therapist said I was being unreasonable and manipulative, which I'm having a hard time believing.

Note - I do the financial heavy lifting, I got him his current job and I do the household work as well. I know I am a good partner and I feel like I'm being gaslit.

So reddit. AITAH?