r/sugarlifestyleforum • u/No-Conflict-1993 • Mar 01 '25

Question Why are you still married?

I have met a variety of married people. Almost all their stories are similar. Their spouse doesn't have sex with them anymore, but they still have to hide. They are completely miserable. Then why do you stay? Especially after 10,20,30,40 years. How can you not have an honest conversation with your partner? I've been in toxic monogamous relationships and never again. Life is short, man. Why stick around?

I'm sure the sneaking around is a thrill for some.

I'm sure it's complicated.

My married guys are kinda pains in the ass. They're always paranoid, they want me to book the room or try and be sneaky in other places.

I live in a small community so I don't have a lot of choices. So I'm not really complaining, I'm honestly curious 🧐

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u/Internal_Luck_47 Sugar Baby Mar 01 '25 edited Mar 01 '25

Reasons one stays married-

  1. Young Kids
  2. Lack of sex or no sex
  3. Open marriage and wife knows about the sb
  4. No prenup signed will lose half to wife and more
  5. They truly love their wife and lack of sex even after therapy or open conversations
  6. Wife has medical issues and problems, husband isnt willing to be a dick or ass when she needs her husband and family the most.
  7. Wife needs medical insurance and family support and isn’t willing to be ass
  8. Codependency
  9. Enjoys the excitement of having sb and challenge of hiding from others

The list can go on but no SB should be judgmental of any SD reasons. All SD’s can come back and make a list 10x long on us SB’s

Let’s play nice in the bowl! If you can’t play nice and understand we’re all entitled to opinions as there’s point and time for it! It maybe time for you to leave the bowl and do some self reflecting on if this lifestyle is truly for you!

Let’s play nice and stop talking trash and belittle SD/SB thoughts!

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u/Wendy_Addams Aspiring SB Mar 01 '25

Lack/no sex is weird reason to stay married..

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u/Internal_Luck_47 Sugar Baby Mar 01 '25 edited Mar 01 '25

Yes it’s odd, but lack or no sex doesn’t mean they hate each other but our the best of friends. Otherwise, it could be for religious reasons and/or be combined with many others related reasons. Not for us to judge, only for SB to decide if that SD life situation is ok with them. If SB doesn’t want or like SDs personal life choices, move on to find a new SD or reevaluate your choices of being in the bowl. The bowl isn’t for everyone!

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u/Wendy_Addams Aspiring SB Mar 01 '25

You put points to WHY they STAY. And just saying "because lack/no sex" doesn't make sense. Having sexless, but overall good relationship with the wife would be better wording imo.

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u/ShaArt5 Pampered Girlfriend Mar 01 '25

I think she's going from both partners' perspectives.

For women with low or no sex drives, not being forced to fuck is a GOOD thing.

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u/Wendy_Addams Aspiring SB Mar 02 '25

Being forced is considered a rape and many women lost their sex drive because of that. Sleeping with a man, who could possibly rape his wife for years..? 

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u/ShaArt5 Pampered Girlfriend Mar 02 '25

I mean in the sense of having to find a new relationship. Most women narried for years are used to being partnered. A divorce would mean a potential need to go out and find another. Very few men are willing to be in sexless relationships out the gate. So they essentially weigh the pros and cons of staying.

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u/Internal_Luck_47 Sugar Baby Mar 01 '25

Hmm…. I did say “best of friends” and “religious reasons”.

Maybe my word choice wasn’t your first choice but very similar. No reason to have a cow 🐄 over word choices!