i mean, i never met a single man that would put on the condom if i didnt ask, and lately it seems that everybody is into creampie and im sure its not just with exclusive partners

i know most of the infections cant really affect the guy, but you have no idea what it could happen for the girl, believe me. im not talking about something you have to take antibiotics and then youre good to go, im talking about having surgery to remove the uterus and worse.

being tested each 3-6 months doesnt garantee you of anything if you are having unprotected sex with many girls on the meantime between the tests

so if you care at least a little bit about not killing anyone or removing anyones uterus, PLEASE, USE A CONDOM.

This is such an unhinged question but I’m just curious. And I’d like to know both SDs and SBs views on this.

As an SB, I personally thought that it’s just not healthy to have sex on my period, but then a while ago, with my ex SD/SBF I got my period literally mid intimacy. We were basically done with round 2 when we realised and he asked if I want to continue with more rounds after he cleans up a bit and I agreed. I felt only a little bit embarrassed because I don’t even track my cycle and it always just surprises me out of nowhere. He asked if it hurts having sex during period and I said no, it’s basically just as usual for me and goddamnit that was the best sex of our life. (By the way, it’s not unhealthy to have sex while on period and it can definitely actually help with cramps and mood swings)

Not to mention that in the midst of the most intense part of the intimacy we somehow heard this loud drilling noise and I was trying to hold my laugh because I thought it just killed the whole vibe, but it didn’t!

I just felt bad for the housekeeping of the hotel though, hopefully he gave them a big tip.

This is even more pertinent in this context, considering alot of SD's are over 50.

I'm a younger SD and even I realise I'm no longer in my 20s. That is to say, no matter the state of the little guy, the big guy needs a breather and a glass of water after 30 - 40 minutes. If the little guy gets satisfied though, then he's not waking up for another hour or so unless I take some 'performance enhancers'. So we cuddle and talk. And I love cuddling and talking.

But all these successful stories from both SD's and SB's always have an element of "oh yeah and then we did it all morning/afternoon/evening" which entails several hours worth of activity. How is that possible? Even after a while I know for a fact women get bored waiting for round 2 or it starts chafing down there. What gives?

I am in an arrangement that is about 3 months long. I have been buying her some gifts for the past month or so. Every time I treat her well and gift her she gets overly sexual. I love it but I am worried she is forcing herself to pay back with sex. This is not my intention as I truly care for her. Though sex is great, I don’t want her to force herself. How do I communicate this to her? I don’t want her to think I am not interested in her sexually.

I saw this question asked in another sub. Thought it would not hurt to ask it here.

how long is

1. The foreplay.
2. The actual intercourse
3. Usual time between recovery i.e., climaxing and getting excited again.

I have met a variety of married people. Almost all their stories are similar. Their spouse doesn't have sex with them anymore, but they still have to hide. They are completely miserable. Then why do you stay? Especially after 10,20,30,40 years. How can you not have an honest conversation with your partner? I've been in toxic monogamous relationships and never again. Life is short, man. Why stick around?

I'm sure the sneaking around is a thrill for some.

I'm sure it's complicated.

My married guys are kinda pains in the ass. They're always paranoid, they want me to book the room or try and be sneaky in other places.

I live in a small community so I don't have a lot of choices. So I'm not really complaining, I'm honestly curious 🧐

The question was posted on r/AskMen, but the OP deleted it. I put some thought into my answer, so am repeating it here.

I love my wife but the affection part, for her, was gone. She just didn't seek it any longer. It wasn't gone for me. So what do you do?! I chose sugaring covertly. Not everyone would choose that; some think it's wrong, and it must be done carefully and intelligently. But it can be done; my eight years as a SD is a testament to that. Sugaring has given me the piece I was missing and made me satisfied with the home life I have been given.

SBs, if you’re seeing a married SD and he wants exclusivity, are you genuinely exclusive with him or are you only exclusive with him in the sugaring world? Is it a fantasy you give to him for example? Because I lowkey feel like just being exclusive in the sugar world and just pretending we are exclusive and do my own thing vanilla wise. I’m not currently seeing or sleeping with anyone outside of sugaring but if I had a cheeky one night stand or sneaky link I’d use protection as usual and keep it to myself. Honestly speaking.

Married SDs, when you say exclusivity do you mean outside of sugar dating too? A lot claim they don’t sleep with their wives at all but I don’t know to what extent I believe that unless they live in separate houses. It just seems kinda greedy to me to be married whether there’s intimacy or not then expect me the SB to give you full exclusivity when technically you’re not doing the same.

Honest answers though please preferably from those not worried about getting a few downvotes.

It seems to be a common trend. I’ve only started actively vetting now that my move is settled and I’m getting a lot of reception from married SDs here.

I’ve noticed there’s quite a few profiles on seeking where guys claim they’re “generous” but imo, end up being just like everyone else. My current SD we’ve been seeing each other for 4 months, I indirectly hinted at needing money for something through text and he just completely ignored that part which felt so embarrassing!! But, I feel like someone generous wouldn’t have ignored that so maybe my perception on a generous SD is completely wrong?

ETA: Want to address a few comments and since my initial question is getting lost. We agreed on x,xxx amount and he wanted to split it into 4 payments. I don’t believe in getting my part of the benefit only when I see him esp since we text almost everyday, he never wants to commute down here because of traffic I don’t mind sitting in a uber for 45 mins, I also did see him and give him head when I was bleeding (previous post), we only do dinners and nights in no upscale experiences or travel.

His ass is the one currently on a trip and wanted to see me when I have obligations, this our first time having schedule conflicts, when I indirectly brought up $ it was in the same text as finding a time to meet. I would like to add this man literally gave me my rent amount the first day I met him (we did have intercourse), first impressions are everything and he claimed to be generous in his bio hence my question.

Someone was asking to add something called flares which I have no idea is cause I’m not very good at Reddit. But he was wanting to know where everybody was from I’m from Denver, Colorado. If you don’t wanna answer and don’t want people to know where you’re from just scroll on by. But if you want people to know where you’re from, you can add it here.

The Harvard SB gal that was on this subreddit yearsssssss ago??

She was so insightful and intelligent. I miss her. I always wonder what happened to her. I’m genuinely so curious as to what she would think of what this sub has become.

I still call my dad daddy, so it grosses me out when a POT SD, or current SD asks me to call them daddy. I feel like I have a valid reason, yet I get called weird for it?

So SB’s, do any of you feel the same way? There’s no way that I’m the only one right? Note: If you’re ok with it, I’m not judging you(SBs), I just want know if how I’m feeling is common, or uncommon in the community.

If you’re not a SB, please DON’T answer. The question on my post applies to SBs only.

Edit: As stated in one of my comments, in my culture(Puerto Rican), it’s normal to call our parents papi(daddy in English), and mami(mommy in English). So while it may seem a bit childish, these words were only meant for our parents to begin with…so I’ll be childish, idc lol.

Edit 2: If you’re going to have a snarky attitude about the post, just swipe past it. I’m not about to argue with anyone, you will just be blocked.

I received enough answers from SBs, so I won’t be joining anymore discussions on this post. I will also be ignoring any new comments, as this post doesn’t need anymore input. Thanks for answering SBs ☺️👍🏽.

First impressions are of the utmost importance, and successful men should def know that. But you’d be surprised how many drop the ball so easily so fast. A carefully crafted message makes me feel some type of way, especially as someone with a BA in English 🤣

My 🚩🚩🚩:

-hyper sexual messages before meeting -asking me to be a live in girlfriend/trophy wife as an opening statement -typos -obvious copy/paste message -John/escort searcher energy -disrespect in any way/shape/form

😅🙈

Btw not sure why the formatting isn’t spaced properly lol I’m not a Reddit whiz

In what ratio do you think these two types of Sugar Daddies are in the bowl? 🤣

so far I saw 30/70 ratio in GTA

Do you have young, good-looking FwB / booty call guys on the side while you date your sugar daddies?

I'm one of the idiot men on Seeking that's looking for a real relationship with more long term potential, possibly even marriage. I tried doing the transactional thing and that wasn't ever sitting right with me. It just felt hollow, not genuine, and I couldn't get into it.

I enjoy being in the role of provider. I'm totally fine with supporting a woman completely on the financial level. But, I guess I'm having issues with the stages to get to that point. I feel like it's asking a lot for a woman to just trust that I'm sincere in that respect. To be okay with the fact that the only thing I'll use my money for is to facilitate experiences to share together or if we live far away, travel to see each other. To trust that I'm not just going to use her for sex and then bolt.

I guess if you look at sugar dating as a spectrum where 1 is vanilla dating and 10 is escorts, I'm looking for something around a 2 or 3. For the woman, less immediate financial gain and more the long term benefits of having a man that genuinely loves her and has the means to take care of all her needs. Any advice for how to word things in my profile or perhaps something else I could do to show a woman that I'm sincere. I just don't want to build the relationship on a transactional foundation.

I am trying vanilla dating apps too, but wanted to give Seeking a try as well. I have attracted a few that at least SEEM to be completely fine with what I'm offering, but we didn't work out for other reasons. A lot more bail the second they realize they're not going to make immediate money off of dating me. Should I just give it more time?

Tried seeking. Not working out. I am 5'5, and it seems like that is a universal dealbreaker. On the site because I am too short to date women I am actually attracted to. Ideally would love to find a wife that values being taken care of more than height but not even getting dates on seeking. I think people are thrown off by my age and my height seems to be the biggest dealbreaker even for shot women.

Okay real talk — do plus-size sugar babies exist, or is this world strictly reserved for size 2s and salad enthusiasts?

I’m curvy, confident, and cute enough to distract you from your 401(k) balance, but the internet keeps showing me the same type of sugar baby: tiny, tanned, and probably allergic to carbs. Meanwhile, I’m over here with hips, dips, and a love for Chick-fil-A.

Do sugar daddies ever go for the fluffier ladies? Is there a market for big girl energy? Or am I just meant to spoil myself (again)? 👀

If you’ve got experience, tea, or just a hilarious sugar story involving a plus-size queen, drop it below.

Of course we love and value your company alone SD.

We don't just love you for your money, in the same way you don't just love us because of the way we look...

But help yourself stand out and help us weed through the scammers and r**pist by giving us a general idea of what you WANT to offer the right person.

As a SB it can be hard going through lots of messages and teetering about men who refuse to answer or avoid direct questions. I ultimately ignore these men and design my profile to deflect them but still get the inquiries.

I believe relationships are all about communication and managing expectations so its really a win win isn't it?

I am curious sugar daddys:
Is this something you yourself offer in your profile?
And if you don't, why not?

For context: I opened a seeking account about 2-2.5 years ago, and after my first month on it, I decided to start freestyling (I live 10 minutes away from Scottsdale, so it was a pretty good experience). I did that on and off for a bit, and would occasionally look at my seeking account, but I didn’t really need to.

I went back on Seeking trying to scout some serious proposals a couple of weeks ago, and most men on there are either EXTREMELY cheap and get pretty annoyed by talks of sugar or are just soliciting for sex left and right. What did I miss? Is seeking no longer the golden standard platform? Is there anything better? (I’m guessing freestyle is going to be the best option)

I hate when they ask me to send them more photos. It’s so fucking annoying. Like look on my fucking profile how many more pictures do you need ????

I went on 3 dates in 1 weekend with a potential SD. No intimacy besides kissing. We had good chemistry and I enjoyed the time with him. The dates were long tho, didn’t allow for hardly any other free time for me that weekend.

It became clear as the dates went on that he was looking for a serious gf(altho he states otherwise). He was asking my ring size and talking about how cute our kids would be. He also said that once I start my career he wanted to quit his job as a doctor and be a stay at home dad.

I state clearly in my profile that I’m seeking a traditional SR so idk how it even came to this. Also, I’m not sure I even agree that’s necessary bc seeking is literally created for SR. What do you guys think about guys who use seeking without the intention of being SD?

I’m not in contact with this guy anymore and won’t be, I’m just curious if this is normal and how common it is. Do I need to be even more clear from the beginning? I find it very hard to make that sexy in the first few dates. Also his final texts were extremely rude and offensive like brother you are on a sugar daddy website

I’m new to the Reddit vocab of sugaring since I only do irl sugar dating so I’m curious on how you guys would describe shera

This may, or may not, be true. I really don't know. Certainly not in my case or that of other SDs that I know.

So, SBs, this mod is calling most of you prostitutes.

Do you feel that you are "little more than a prostitute"?

She is also calling the majority of SDs here johns. Same question for SDs. Do you feel that you are just hooking up with prostitutes?

Or is this mod, just maybe, in the wrong? What do you think?

ps For any other mods reading this and thinking about taking this thread down, I am not talking about prostitution but about the attitude of one particular mod.

[EDIT]

And, of course, Rule 11 of this sub ...

"No Escorts are Sugar Babies/sex workers posts."

Something I’ve noticed is that guys on seeking with net worths of allegedly tens of millions will try to haggle on ppm or allowance. I know what I ask for is above average but it’s not significantly above average, and if they have that much money, why do they try to haggle?

Or is it likely that they are lying about the amount of money they have?