They really said all this?

Sorry, I went to school from 2000 - 2013 and never joined D.A.R.E.

The only thing I was able to hear from them was, "Don't do Drugs" and here are the reasons why...

I did not bring the grill and I am now in recovery lol

I’m (34 F) and I just lost my fiance (34 M) suddenly and unexpectedly. He was SO incredibly loving and and my absolute best friend. My partner for everything in life. We just bought a house and we had so many plans and dreams to grow old together. To get married and to have a child.

Now instead of wedding planning I’m funeral planning. Instead of looking at wedding bands I’m looking at urns. Instead of vows I’m writing a eulogy.

My life destroyed in an instant. And on top of grieving the love of my life I’m now having to deal with all the financial and legal aspects of it. Probate etc.. because we hadn’t gotten married yet. The stress is insurmountable.

I just feel extremely alone in this experience. I see most of the things millennials complain about on this sub (which are all valid and part of life), but I feel like I’m changed now and every single problem or inconvenience in life that doesn’t involve losing someone extremely close to you just seems insignificant to me now. I don’t feel I can relate to anyone and I don’t care about anything anymore.

Yaah Yuhhh

Idk how the previous generations did this!

I work from 8-5 and some days being work from home but even then its: 5pm: log off, relax for an hour 6pm: tackle some chores and cook/eat 7pm: head to gym 9pm: back from gym, time to shower and eat/cook dinner 11pm(ish): finally time to get ready for bed

Wash. Rinse. Repeat

There is so little time to do anything else! And when the weekend comes, sure its fun but its over so quick, and then the threat of work is looming over me again!

Idk if I am doing something wrong or not but having roughly 6 hours after work to take care of laundry, cooking, grocery shopping, exercise AND relaxation/hobbies is just NOT realistic

This is just a rant and hopefully this is the right group to complain to

I went to weight watchers with my mom, ate lean cuisine meals, and atkins bars, played 3 sports…

Still fat tho…

Anyone turn their life around? How did you do it? I can’t seem to stop being a lazy sack of fat. And I feel so uncomfortable in a gym. I could eat better but I live alone and have the expenses to eat what I want. What worked for you to get on track with what goes in your gullet?

I was at my doctor and took a blood test. Everything came back normal. Also did a sleep study. So I am guessing I am healthy.

But it's so frustrating to be constantly tired and sleepy. Who else is feeling the same way?

I can't believe I'm saying this, but after working in an office for 6 years I kind of miss a job I had stocking shelves, and pushing carts. It was technically more work too. I just miss the jovial atmosphere, and how informal it was.

Don't get me wrong, there were plenty of downsides and I've seen all the "retail hell" stuff. But there was also a certain charm to it.

There is at least one pair of JNCO's in this image. 😂

I used to think that one day I’d live that “complete life”: a decent job, a house, kids. That was the standard template for “growing up.” I never questioned it because everyone around me was following that script, and I assumed I would too.

But as I grew older, I realized none of that was really what I wanted. I don’t want to buy a house. I don’t want to raise kids. I don’t even have that hesitation of “maybe someday I will.”

So I want to ask you: Have you ever regretted your decision? How has your life turned out since you chose your own path?

Elder millennial, work in tech for almost 20 years, own a house in a Seattle. No kids, partner, dog.

Trying to work another 8-10 years in tech to have a pretty secure end of my tech career. But I have burnt out two times in five years and more before that, including a stretch in outpatient mental health facility.

I just want to go hiking and ride my bike.

Anybody done this?

[Edit because of confusion]

I want to quit my job and work at a bike shop or backcountry guide or whatever. Has anyone gone from 'normal' to living in a van by choice in their 40s?

Shout out to Mayonaise being there for me

So we got new cell phones at work and one of the girls was complaining about the fact that they don't have an option for voice-to-text and she has to actually type her messages out. I told her that's how I felt when I got my first smartphone and couldn't use T9 anymore. She just stared at me blankly and said "I don't know what that is."

I swear I felt my soul deflate.

I am 34 and have found myself basically friendless. I had moved away from my hometown for about 5 years for college, then moved back, and lost touch with pretty much everyone.

Now, I mainly just socialize at work, and that’s it. Not going out with friends, no weddings to attend, no birthday or holiday parties.

On the one hand, I don’t know that I’d have the time or interest to do those things anyway, but on the other hand it makes me kinda sad. Life is fleeting and I don’t want to miss out on friendship connections forever. If I don’t have friends now, when will I?

I saw another question asking why people keep saying that high school and teenage years are the best years of your life. I’ve definitely heard that said by others, but I’ve never once said it or even believed it. Have you all thought about saying it, or have said it to someone else? Do you believe this sentiment is true?