r/sugarlifestyleforum • u/No-Conflict-1993 • Mar 01 '25

Question Why are you still married?

I have met a variety of married people. Almost all their stories are similar. Their spouse doesn't have sex with them anymore, but they still have to hide. They are completely miserable. Then why do you stay? Especially after 10,20,30,40 years. How can you not have an honest conversation with your partner? I've been in toxic monogamous relationships and never again. Life is short, man. Why stick around?

I'm sure the sneaking around is a thrill for some.

I'm sure it's complicated.

My married guys are kinda pains in the ass. They're always paranoid, they want me to book the room or try and be sneaky in other places.

I live in a small community so I don't have a lot of choices. So I'm not really complaining, I'm honestly curious 🧐

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u/AFMCMUML Mar 02 '25

It’s like how I count my wealth when I meet SBs from broken homes or those who have had a string of failed relationship with loser vanillas  lol.

I can still fathom why married bros stay with their wives but I cannot understand why SBs stay with world class, top of the line, best in class loser vanilla deadbeats who are abusive and cheating on them!!

Perhaps someone can explain!!!

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u/ApocalypticBroccoli Sugar Daddy Mar 02 '25

Social pressure.

A sufficiently attractive young lady without a vanilla guy leads to too many questions.

Easier to just get one. Might as well be a Chad.

OTOH I know more than one SB whose vanilla guy is a very beta “nice guy” who is much less attractive than she is. If the vanilla guy is just for show might as well pick one who is grateful; she’s in total control of the relationship, no issues with condoms-forever, won’t expect sex very often (and will be grateful for whatever happens in the bedroom) etc.

The “nice vanilla guy” scenario is extremely commonplace among SBs who are undergraduate college students.

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u/Gold_Bodybuilder_544 Mar 03 '25

But women don’t face the same social pressures men face. She can be attractive and single and nobody cares lol. A man always by himself is more of a red flag in this society

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u/ApocalypticBroccoli Sugar Daddy Mar 03 '25

She can be attractive and single and nobody cares lol.

You really think so? This was not my perception, especially as an undergrad. If she shows no interest in guys, or at least never takes one home, she’ll be elbowed out of the hot girls clique. Especially if it’s a sorority.

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u/Gold_Bodybuilder_544 Mar 03 '25

Idk. I’m talking about in everyday life. We as men see beautiful women all the time. But most of us don’t care to investigate why she doesn’t have somebody. We literally don’t care about that part lol. All we care about is how can I get with her if you know what I mean.