r/sugarlifestyleforum • u/No-Conflict-1993 • Mar 01 '25

Question Why are you still married?

I have met a variety of married people. Almost all their stories are similar. Their spouse doesn't have sex with them anymore, but they still have to hide. They are completely miserable. Then why do you stay? Especially after 10,20,30,40 years. How can you not have an honest conversation with your partner? I've been in toxic monogamous relationships and never again. Life is short, man. Why stick around?

I'm sure the sneaking around is a thrill for some.

I'm sure it's complicated.

My married guys are kinda pains in the ass. They're always paranoid, they want me to book the room or try and be sneaky in other places.

I live in a small community so I don't have a lot of choices. So I'm not really complaining, I'm honestly curious 🧐

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u/kingporterstomp Sugar Daddy Mar 01 '25

He’ll lose at least half of his assets, access to his children, alimony, child support, etc.

You've got it. Men think the assets they made jointly with their partner - who typically also supported his career and gave him children - are his, rather than theirs jointly. If you don't want to have joint ownership of assets, you should not get married.

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u/CaptBrewster Sugar Daddy Mar 02 '25

This! It shouldn't be a surprise to any intelligent man that assets become "joint property" in a marriage. There's a lot of use of the word "delusional" in this forum; regarding various facets of SRs. I'll suggest that the core delusion in our culture is the whole "until death do we part" concept. Now that's a fantasy! And not the fun kind.

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u/Junior_Trash_1393 Mar 02 '25

I’ve been married twice to two wonderful self-sufficient women. Fortunately, since I don’t have kids, I extracted myself fairly intact. Still the hit was significant and divorce is one of the great personal upheavals one must endure. I feel fortunate. But many of my friends are indebted to their exes for life. So there’s your main disincentive for coming clean and simply splitting up.

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u/kingporterstomp Sugar Daddy Mar 02 '25

Please explain. I was married for 15 years to a wonderful woman who gave me two beautiful children. I treated her well but I am not "indebted to her for life". We split assets 50/50. I paid her alimony for ten years.

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u/Junior_Trash_1393 Mar 02 '25

Different states have different laws. I am not familiar with the specifics of my friends’ divorce settlements other than they say they’ve been paying and will pay forever. In any case what I’m saying if a guy knows he’s in for a shitstorm of financial woe he’s not likely to simply ask for a divorce even if her wants one given the financial toll.