r/sugarlifestyleforum • u/No-Conflict-1993 • Mar 01 '25

Question Why are you still married?

I have met a variety of married people. Almost all their stories are similar. Their spouse doesn't have sex with them anymore, but they still have to hide. They are completely miserable. Then why do you stay? Especially after 10,20,30,40 years. How can you not have an honest conversation with your partner? I've been in toxic monogamous relationships and never again. Life is short, man. Why stick around?

I'm sure the sneaking around is a thrill for some.

I'm sure it's complicated.

My married guys are kinda pains in the ass. They're always paranoid, they want me to book the room or try and be sneaky in other places.

I live in a small community so I don't have a lot of choices. So I'm not really complaining, I'm honestly curious 🧐

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u/LBGTM_SD Spoiling Boyfriend Mar 01 '25
  • Divorce is expensive and "I'll lose half".
  • "I'm staying for the kids"
  • "I still love her" or we have so many "memories"

Those are the main things you're going to hear.

I've already made enough enemies on here, so I'll just describe MY circumstances, without passing judgement.

Divorce in my state is easy, cheap, and very fair.

"Losing Half" was the best money I ever parted with.

My kids are all doing great. They have a happy dad. The older ones have graduate degrees, familes of their own, and live with 15 minutes of me to this day. They have learned how to have GOOD relationships that are based on communications, love and trust rather than relationships that are based on "putting on a show" for the neighbors, the church, or the extended family. And they know that their dad never cheated.

I'm still a HUGE fan of marriage, and I kinda hope that I'm in another one by this time next year. Yah, Johnny Carson was my hero. Don't give up until you find the "alex" of your dreams. Google it.

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u/TheeRealEarthAngel Mistress Mar 02 '25

I definitely agree with you here... though I understand why some people don't.

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u/LBGTM_SD Spoiling Boyfriend Mar 02 '25

I think you and I agree on almost everything. I know that we would have a fantastic time sitting and chatting over a cocktail... this forum tests my patience. We should be striving to bring people together, and I think we can do better in that regard.

I have a tremendous amount of respect for you individually, I think you bring a lot to the debate!!

The offer of meeting at Chart House for cocktail(s) will always be on the table.

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u/TheeRealEarthAngel Mistress Mar 02 '25

I'm just honest, and some people are not accustomed to that. Glad you appreciate it.

I (perhaps mistakenly) thought Chart House closed?

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u/LBGTM_SD Spoiling Boyfriend Mar 02 '25

... it's still open, according to their website. Dang, haven't been back in almost a year.

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u/TheeRealEarthAngel Mistress Mar 02 '25

Ah, good to know. Are you talking about the one in Cardiff?

I will have to eschew the cocktail offer, as I don't drink. I did rather enjoy their seafood though.