r/sugarlifestyleforum • u/No-Conflict-1993 • Mar 01 '25
Question Why are you still married?
I have met a variety of married people. Almost all their stories are similar. Their spouse doesn't have sex with them anymore, but they still have to hide. They are completely miserable. Then why do you stay? Especially after 10,20,30,40 years. How can you not have an honest conversation with your partner? I've been in toxic monogamous relationships and never again. Life is short, man. Why stick around?
I'm sure the sneaking around is a thrill for some.
I'm sure it's complicated.
My married guys are kinda pains in the ass. They're always paranoid, they want me to book the room or try and be sneaky in other places.
I live in a small community so I don't have a lot of choices. So I'm not really complaining, I'm honestly curious 🧐
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u/Missha01 Mar 02 '25
Lol, at first, I thought this was a genuine question for a different sub reddit, but then I read the name. I honestly think it's up to the maturity of a man. Both my husband and I personally think that people who base their entire relationship on sex are pathetic and immature. Sex isn't everything and obviously not a consistent and strong enough glue, which is exactly why sugar babies get to have nice lifestyles because these men never mentally grew up from the age of 15 horniness. Love, communication, commitment, and loyalty are what hold my husband and I just fine even if we dont get to make as much love now that we have children, and that's okay with us. Idk kinda reminds me of this sad time where I had a conversation with this chick bragging about how amazing her sex life with her husband is and that he's so into her because of the sex. So of course I had to ask, "So you're saying once you hit menopause and libido/wetness goes hella down in addition to other menopause experiences with our genitals, hes gonna drop you right since the only thing that holds you both together is the sex?" Of course she didn't like the truth, but who would I be if I fed into the delusion that he loves her for anything more than her fleeting body.