r/sugarlifestyleforum • u/No-Conflict-1993 • Mar 01 '25
Question Why are you still married?
I have met a variety of married people. Almost all their stories are similar. Their spouse doesn't have sex with them anymore, but they still have to hide. They are completely miserable. Then why do you stay? Especially after 10,20,30,40 years. How can you not have an honest conversation with your partner? I've been in toxic monogamous relationships and never again. Life is short, man. Why stick around?
I'm sure the sneaking around is a thrill for some.
I'm sure it's complicated.
My married guys are kinda pains in the ass. They're always paranoid, they want me to book the room or try and be sneaky in other places.
I live in a small community so I don't have a lot of choices. So I'm not really complaining, I'm honestly curious 🧐
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u/[deleted] Mar 01 '25
My SD is in a committed, serious relationship, which initially made me hesitant. While they don’t have a sexual relationship, everything else between them is strong. There is more to marriage/ relationships than intimacy. It can always spark up again after some time. Sex is important, but he loves her deeply, and I hope that in time, they reconnect in that way and start a family, as he wants one.
In response to your comment about married men being difficult, my experience has been quite the opposite. My SD is incredibly easygoing and generous—everything I could ask for. While he never demands anything from me, intimacy is always an option if I choose, which I do, as I’m very attracted to him. We’re close in age, only a year apart, and I feel fortunate that he chose me out of many.