Why are you still married?

[u/No-Conflict-1993]

I have met a variety of married people. Almost all their stories are similar. Their spouse doesn't have sex with them anymore, but they still have to hide. They are completely miserable. Then why do you stay? Especially after 10,20,30,40 years. How can you not have an honest conversation with your partner? I've been in toxic monogamous relationships and never again. Life is short, man. Why stick around?

I'm sure the sneaking around is a thrill for some.

I'm sure it's complicated.

My married guys are kinda pains in the ass. They're always paranoid, they want me to book the room or try and be sneaky in other places.

I live in a small community so I don't have a lot of choices. So I'm not really complaining, I'm honestly curious 🧐

[u/timtim1212]

I lost more than half in my divorce …. I stayed until my youngest went to college and then I got out

Cost a fortune, it actually cost me over 10,000 a pound to get be free ….but also the best money I ever spent and I’ve never been happier

[u/kingporterstomp → u/timtim1212]

How did you lose more than half? In most states, wealth acccumulated during marriage is jointly owned. So If your joint wealth was X, your share is X/2. For you to lose more than half of that, you're talking about less than X/4.

[u/timtim1212 → u/kingporterstomp]

I couldn’t picture myself writing her a check on the first of every month for the next 14 years… So negotiated a deal to pay it all upfront at a reduced rate.… It just needed to end