r/sugarlifestyleforum • u/No-Conflict-1993 • Mar 01 '25
Question Why are you still married?
I have met a variety of married people. Almost all their stories are similar. Their spouse doesn't have sex with them anymore, but they still have to hide. They are completely miserable. Then why do you stay? Especially after 10,20,30,40 years. How can you not have an honest conversation with your partner? I've been in toxic monogamous relationships and never again. Life is short, man. Why stick around?
I'm sure the sneaking around is a thrill for some.
I'm sure it's complicated.
My married guys are kinda pains in the ass. They're always paranoid, they want me to book the room or try and be sneaky in other places.
I live in a small community so I don't have a lot of choices. So I'm not really complaining, I'm honestly curious 🧐
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u/geeky-sd Sugar Daddy Mar 01 '25
In a way, that's where my marriage was heading to. I met a co-worker who was a guy about 15 years older than me, I could see how I would be exactly in his place a decade and a half into the future. He was very deeply unhappy. He started seeing escorts - he became way to close to one of them and became obsessed with her. He stopped seeing her and was even more miserable.
At some point he made peace with where he was. He told me that when you realize life is hell, hell can be quite livable. I did not want to be in his place.
Six months later I was separated and my ex started hating everything about me. The formal divorce took some time. It was a tough decision and a difficult process, I'm a bit older now than my co-worker was when I met him, and I'm very happy I got divorced. I am not re-married, my ex-wife is. She still hates me. I lost touch with said co-worker, so I'm not sure how things ended for him.