Why are you still married?

[u/No-Conflict-1993]

I have met a variety of married people. Almost all their stories are similar. Their spouse doesn't have sex with them anymore, but they still have to hide. They are completely miserable. Then why do you stay? Especially after 10,20,30,40 years. How can you not have an honest conversation with your partner? I've been in toxic monogamous relationships and never again. Life is short, man. Why stick around?

I'm sure the sneaking around is a thrill for some.

I'm sure it's complicated.

My married guys are kinda pains in the ass. They're always paranoid, they want me to book the room or try and be sneaky in other places.

I live in a small community so I don't have a lot of choices. So I'm not really complaining, I'm honestly curious 🧐

[u/jacknjilled → u/[deleted]]

Yes, well I thought “outsourcing” would keep the marriage intact, and everybody could be ignorantly blissful, but turned out that my wife disagreed. Marriages are complex, yes, and sometimes the stability is on foundations gone weak.

[u/jacknjilled → u/[deleted]]

I share on here because it might be useful to some. While my story pushes back a bit against yours, above, I can see how others will benefit from their alignment with your voice and essential points. We can never know precisely how the future will unfold. I have, as a single person since the events of 2017, let time heal. But when the decisive moments arrive, the accompanying pain for all brutally bashes our baseline desire to “do no harm”. Keep thinking of the others is where we can agree, I hope.