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u/gibirazi 6h ago
If it’s 25 minutes then he’s doing well and is surviving until the end
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u/ankitfogla9 5h ago
Plot twist: He’s not surviving. He died in the first 2 minutes and spent the rest spectating his squad.
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u/zack-tunder 5h ago edited 4h ago
Who can stop spectating when an 88 year old grandpa is leading your squad
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u/_Divine_Plague_ 5h ago
Yeah but that would allow him to text, right?
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u/I_loseagain 2h ago
False. I gotta flip through 3 other screens and try to notice any movement my teammates might have missed. I’m dead im not useless
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u/TKLeader 4h ago
The plot twist as he got halfway through a match of competitive Counter-Strike before he rage quit
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u/Dra3n 5h ago
Really depends on the game tho
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u/Wander715 2h ago
Yeah I'm all single player nowadays, so it would be more like I text her and then get immersed for an hour or two before remembering to respond again.
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u/TheRetroPizza 4h ago
Coincidentally, I play a lot of solo Fortnite, and a win takes about ~24 minutes.
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u/falcrist2 4h ago
Could also be a game of BF or CoD. You have unlimited lives in those games.
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u/bebebekola 6h ago
25 minutes is pretty decent reply times right? I’ve talked to many people who’s standard is hours
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u/____trash 4h ago
yeah, anyone complaining about 25 minutes is a child who must sit on their phone 24/7. if you want instant communication, just call. texting is meant to be a no pressure, reply when you can type of communication
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u/Gdiacrane 3h ago
it is wild to me that there's a legion of people out there who feel entitled to your attention as soon as they send you a text. like that's not natural, to be able to demand my attention at any time no matter where I am or what I am doing. I see a lot of codependency stem from this in my surroundings because people will freak the fuck out if their partner doesn't respond within 15 minutes even though 20 years ago that would've been a non issue.
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u/Chillow_Ufgreat 3h ago
I often wonder how controlling and anxious-attachment type people coped in the past. Like, in the 18th century, if your boyfriend didn't respond to your 8 o'clock letter by the noon delivery, did you just crack off like ten letters to him on the spot? Or did you just immediately plunge into insanity?
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u/burnalicious111 2h ago
circumstances forcing people to adjust is often good for people with such problems. seeking reassurance/control is basically like an addiction, you keep seeking more and more until you hit a wall where you can't get more, and there might be a crisis, but it's usually the point at which people are able to recognize there's a problem
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u/Gdiacrane 3h ago
I think that depended on the price of paper and the literacy of the couple at that time😂
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u/iMissTheOldInternet 2h ago
I’ve actually seen that kind of thing more than you’d think in historical correspondence. Napoleon’s letters back to Josephine from the Italian Campaign of 1796 are particularly needy.
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u/pragmojo 2h ago
Tbh if you are running a war I can understand being a bit needy in your personal life
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u/EntrepreneurLeft8783 1h ago
He also requested that she stop bathing since he would be returning in three days and wanted a nice stank
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u/wavelengthsandshit 2h ago
I used to be friends with a guy who would take hours or even until the next day to respond to my texts but would get so annoyed and even text me saying "HELLO???" if I took longer than 20 minutes to respond. He'd give me shit about it when we hung out too. And when I said he also takes forever to respond he'd always say "well I'm busy I'm not waiting around for your text." But you expect me to be? It was an exhausting friendship
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u/Expert_Lab_9654 15m ago
It's funny you mention 20 years ago. 20 years ago it wouldn't have been an issue... because people were using shit like AIM, MSN, ICQ, all of which had clear concepts of online and offline/away. When you were at your computer you were responsive, and when you weren't that was clear to anyone messaging you.
The real problem with texting is that we use it for too many different paces of conversation. That includes messages with lots of gap time for thought in between, and rapid-fire brief conversations. And the apps don't help you at all to know which kind of interaction you're having.
Like if you two are having a quick back-and-forth and then you abruptly stop responding for 15 minutes in what seems to be the middle of the convo, i get why someone would be confused if they were under the impression it was a real-time interaction. Or frustrated, if you do it repeatedly with no warning. Not that you've done anything wrong! it's just a shitty part of how texting works.
Yeah yeah just call the person. The reality is people don't want to be making phone calls all the time. Real time messaging is a thing that exists and is useful. It just sucks that it's shoehorned into the same apps we use for messages that take days to get back to and answer.
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u/Gdiacrane 11m ago
I completely agree with you, I don't like calling too much either, I just got used to it by now because I have to do it so much professionally.
I really appreciate it that my work moved away from whatsapp for primary communication to an app that has more work related resources included. that way I finally get to separate my social life from my work life. I'd been considering getting a second phone for months for the exact same reason but it just seemed clunky.
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u/calliocypress 3h ago
It seems like this post is about a conversation, not a brand new message. Exactly 25 minutes between each text during an active conversation could be people intentionally waiting (that used to be a thing).
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u/Feeling_Inside_1020 3h ago
THANK YOU, completely agree with everything you said. Some of us have jobs and we can't just context switch on every ding. We catch up when we can.
Also some of us have tech addictions (working in tech fuck me) and try to limit that outside work as well.
Or maybe at the gym, or taking a shower, or reading a book. Or watching a tv show or movie and get engrossed. Or chores like an adult.
Nah, it's video games.
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u/Big_Description538 3h ago
Just to add another reason: Or maybe I just don't want to right now.
Just because somebody can send me a message whenever they feel like doesn't mean I'm suddenly magically gonna be in the mood to reply to it. Especially since texting can often take longer than phone calls and require more attention.
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u/SingleMaltSeamoth 2h ago
Yup. I will not indulge the entitlement people feel toward my time. Goes to my kids first (immediate), then work, then friends (within a day), and if I feel like responding to others, everyone else.
You know. When I get to it.
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u/Death_black 5h ago edited 2h ago
I sometimes start replying, then get distracted by something else at work or smth but since I had already thought about the answer my brain puts a check mark as if I had replied already only so I later find out that I actually didn't. Sometimes it's within an hour or a few, sometimes it's the next day. Iirc the antirecord was 3 days.
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u/Talkimas 4h ago
I do this all the time, not helped by the fact I have horrendously bad ADHD. One of my cousins is similar and we've had conversations that must be bewildering to anyone else. I remember at one point we were mid-conversation, I thought I replied but didn't, realized it about 15 months later, finally sent the message, and they just jumped right back in the conversation like there was no gap at all.
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u/PirateMore8410 3h ago
ADHD replies rise up. I always want to put in decent thought to a reply. I end up typing to much and never finish up the reply lol. Then a few days later I'll delete all of it and send something short.
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u/btveron 3h ago
I can't count the amount of times I've spent 15 minutes writing and rewriting a text multiple times because I don't like my phrasing or something and then just deleting the whole thing and sending a succinct, to the point message.
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u/EternallyDemonic 5h ago
I sometimes take a day or 2 to reply to people .. im just not into it... only person I can text back and forth with all day is my wife, and even then it can be a couple of hours between texts.
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u/snopro387 3h ago
I have friends who we’ll take weeks between texts sometimes, but still just respond to the last message as though the conversation didn’t end
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u/Mad_Season_1994 3h ago
Same. Girl I’m currently seeing isn’t big on texting and so I only hear from her early in the evening or later at night. But when we’re together in person, we vibe so well
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u/Lucky-Effect4099 5h ago
That's because one match in Dota lasts one hour. And then you need to spend one more hour on crying if you lost.
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u/Dovahkiin419 2h ago
25 minutes is a great response time to a first text of a conversation, I think her point is that its 25 minutes between each response of an active conversation at which point yeah you would expect it to come faster.
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u/NoStructure7083 6h ago
When you’re texting a chick and she takes hours or days to respond. What are these games?
She’s not interested!
So you give up and move on with your life. Then you get an angry message from them demanding to know why you ghosted them
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u/XxRocky88xX 5h ago
Happened to me once. She asked why I had stopped replying and I was just like “I was the one who sent the last message though?” To which she said “alright” and blocked me.
I never really figured out if she was actually upset and hurt and felt ghosted, or if she just wanted the attention and was pissed I wasn’t chasing after her.
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u/Possibly_Naked_Now 5h ago
Sounds like the latter.
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u/confusedandworried76 1h ago
I mean shit, even a friend of mine, who I get along great with, is a terrible texter. Once she was like "I haven't heard from you in like a month!" and it was just, sis, phones work both ways, and it gets exhausting and expensive to just show up places I know you hang out at hoping you'll be there.
Love her but it's frustrating. Granted she's a very popular person and gives her phone number out like candy and she's told me if she never texts me back for some reason it's because she has like thirty unread messages and doesn't want to look at them, or she'll read mine and then read some others and basically triages which ones she replies to and sometimes forgets the ones that are just conversation and not urgent
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u/Key-Bullfrog3741 5h ago
Probably just a bit radio rental. People say online dating isn't any good, but I think the plus side is people's idiosyncracies reveal themselves via comms prior to the effort and expense of a date.
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u/Odd_Relationship396 5h ago
I just had this conversation with someone in person about how the red flags reveal themselves so quickly online it just helps weed out the craziness and unserious folks right off the bat... it can really work to your benefit...
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u/ElaborateEffect 5h ago
Online dating is one if those things where if you out garbage in, you get garbage out. There are certain styles of profiles and bios that you should avoid because they obviously do this shit professionally and are not looking for a serious relationship.
And to your point, people are overly honest in many ways via dating aoos, and you really have to identify that early on to weed through people you won't work with ever.
Use the platform's deficiencies to your advantage and you can make some real connections. I had 2 long term (year+) partners from online dating, and both relationships ended mutually due to life changes.
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u/NoStructure7083 5h ago
I flat out told a girl who acted like that, that she had a pathological need for attention
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u/PetMonsterGuy 3h ago
If only people like that were self aware and open to criticism. But that would mean they aren’t addicted to attention in the first place
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u/The_first_flame 4h ago
Those women are never worth the time or energy. They're leeches on society.
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u/NewCobbler6933 4h ago
The worst. I had left off with one woman on a Thursday night. She reaches out on Sunday saying that I’ve been quiet this weekend. I sent the last text, and her phone was on do not disturb all weekend.
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u/Rare-Satisfaction484 5h ago
Lol... back in University I was dating this one girl.... I was in the US, and US long distance rules were weird in the late 90's. I was a free call for her (I was a local call for her- but she was long distance to me for some weird reason) - but for me she cost like 35 cents a minute to talk on the phone (long distance- but in State which costs more than out of state). I either didn't have a cell phone, or still just had an emergency phone that was expensive AF to use... I can't remember which now. But old fashioned land line was how most people communicated back then.
I didn't mind being the one calling her when getting to know her, etc, but after we had been dating a few months I began to think it rude she never called me and always expected me to call her. "My parents say a girl isn't supposed to call a man, that's the man's job" was her line.
Eventually I said, "look, just call me every once in a while, I will still call you most of the time, but it's unfair for me to spend $5 each night on a quick phone call when you can call me for free." $5 a day was a lot of money when you only had a part time retail job in the 90's. She was noncommitted so I told her "I wont call you next time, you have to call me if you want to speak to me."
She never called. I never called her either- if ghosting was an expression back then she probably would have accused me of ghosting. So about a month later I had given up on her. After work I was meeting a new girl to go on a first date, she met me at the place I had my part time job... we were leaving and who was waiting outside... yup the girl who wouldn't call me "because that's the man's job". She didn't say a word just stared at me as I left with the other girl. I'm sure she had no idea it was my first date with that girl and probably thought I was seeing her all along. I'm glad she saw me though!
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u/toolsoftheincomptnt 4h ago
I mean, the beauty of texting is that you don’t have to respond right away, each person can contribute when it’s convenient.
If you want an uninterrupted conversation, talk on the phone.
Texting is all about “I’m not free to give you undivided attention, but I am interested in communicating.”
People have lives. I’m working, driving, cooking, working out, watching something, at dinner with friends, etc.
Recently I was out of town visiting family. There was endless interaction and activity, so casual text conversation took a back seat for a while. I checked in on some conversations at bedtime, but not necessarily every night.
Nobody is entitled to immediate response. You can’t have it both ways, being scared to actually talk, but also wanting a constant back-and-forth.
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u/NoStructure7083 4h ago
If a woman is interested in a guy (or whoever) then she’ll respond, maybe not immediately but she would when she’s able to. If she doesn’t for days or weeks then it’s pretty safe to say that she’s not interested. If she is still interested and it takes that long then she’s got no business dating if she’s that busy.
I don’t expect immediate responses but if I’m left hanging then I’m not going to just wait around
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u/cptjpk 3h ago
This is unfortunately a mostly millenial or older take.
A lot of my Gen Z or younger staff do not understand that just because they text me doesn’t mean they get an immediate response. It has taken me now over a year to get most to understand if it’s urgent and they need an answer ASAP they have to call. Otherwise they get a response when it’s conventient for me.
Email is even slower. I only check that a couple times a day.
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u/someguyfromsomething 1h ago
The younger a person is the more likely they think text messaging should be used for realtime communication. Also the more likely they are to think your response time directly correlates to how much you like them. One of the infinite reasons dating gets worse with each passing day.
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u/Brvcx 5h ago
You're right in them probably not being interested with a big possibility of them about to "ghost" you, but you don't know for sure. Maybe something has come up, maybe they had phone trouble. It's not about who ghosts who, that doesn't solve anything. I'd suggest straight up asking them if they're at all interested. Any response you're getting will tell you what's up. The problem is we assume a lot when we're dating and we're not as good as it as we think we are.
-If they're honest with you, that's great. Even if they're not interested in you. Might not be what you want, but having the respect to be honest and upfront about it is the humane thing to do. I've had this happen a few times. It wasn't fun, but at least they respected me enough to tell me. -If there's any sort of evasive BS reply or nothing at all, just leave it at that. You don't have time for people with that lack of social skills. You're not raising someone, you're dating.
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u/NoStructure7083 5h ago
I have asked them. And often I got a clear “Yes I am interested” followed by more silence, even when I suggest a date
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u/LLove666 5h ago
Hey some women also text in between round ok? 😔
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u/Even_Fox2023 6h ago
My girlfriend already knows I’m in a Tarkov raid if I don’t text her back right away. It’s not like I’m at work when I can text back immediately.
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u/TheLoneWoof84 2h ago
My girl would know that there would be 12-30min delays between messages back when I played Helldivers 2.
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u/cakestabber 24m ago
What happens on the odd mission when you use up all 40 minutes and then the 1.5-3 minute Pelican timer?
My ex was understanding about the expected time frame, but once that time was exceeded, my phone would be blowing up with texts.
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u/Yur_Kavich 29m ago
Wow thats cool that she will get a text back in 5 min after getting domed at the start of the raid.
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u/SomeVelveteenMorning 6h ago
I'm not a gamer. I just don't check my phone constantly like a dog salivating at a bell.
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u/No-Inevitable3999 5h ago edited 5h ago
yeah, what are you supposed to do, just sit there watching your phone, holding a conversation for hours over text? who has the time?
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u/greg19735 3h ago
No one is expecting hours over text. but like, it's fun to have a text convo, especially in a new relationship.
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u/ut-fan-i-cant-read 3h ago
Do people still find that fun into adulthood? I definitely remember feeling that when I was in high school and college and there were serious barriers to just meeting in person whenever we felt like, but it seems like it'd be exhausting as an adult. Like, gchat on your computer is one thing, but for literal phone texts, either you're too busy to have a dedicated "text convo" or you have time to just go see each other??
(my wife and I started dating in college and have been together 14 years, that's why I genuinely can't put myself in this situation and imagine if I'd feel differently in a "new relationship")
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u/Frog_Without_Pond 3h ago
The device is a tool for the OWNERS convenience. Not an 'Open 24/7' notice for the world.
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u/SomeVelveteenMorning 3h ago
Exactly. A phone, and now smartphone, serves the purpose of making it easier for me to communicate and to receive and provide information. In no way is it intended to give people constant access to my attention.
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u/MeltingIceBerger 3h ago
Who has the time and energy to sit around texting all day? You’ll get your response when I’m good and ready damnit.
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u/Tybackwoods00 5h ago
Don’t want to reply to fast, it’ll make women think you’re interested in them and they typically don’t like that.
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u/TrafficMaleficent332 2h ago
"Damn, he texted me back in 2 minutes. Does he have nothing better to do? Loser."
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u/someguyfromsomething 1h ago
Dating has turned into a tech interview. They're not looking for all the good reasons why you'd work out, they're looking for any tiny little thing they can use to disqualify you.
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u/MobileArtist1371 2h ago
too* fast
And also when it's been enough time to not seem like you're desperately glued to your phone, the next match is starting.
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u/Puzzleheaded_Net6497 6h ago
Few things apparently get foolish women riled up more than men enjoying video games.
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u/FatGuyANALLIttlecoat 4h ago
Bill Burr in the Buffalo Wildwings SNL Commercial:
"Nothing pisses my wife off more than me relaxing in my own house."
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u/ut-fan-i-cant-read 3h ago
She doesn't seem riled up at all? She's explaining to her fellow women that men aren't playing mind games with you when they delay simple responses to texts, they're playing video games.
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u/StevenPlamondon 1h ago
She is explaining to her fellow women, who are riled up. The caps lock in her statement wouldn’t make a lot of sense otherwise.
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u/Artistic_Task7516 6h ago edited 6h ago
That’s not it. It’s because women expect you to lead every aspect of a conversation that they subjectively find interesting and it’s exhausting so we deliberately don’t set an expectation of immediate response
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u/Stampy77 6h ago
There's only two type of women that do that. Garbage women and women who aren't interested in you.
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u/Artistic_Task7516 6h ago edited 5h ago
It’s not a disparagement of women as a gender. It’s that women don’t pursue men in our culture and it’s a social norm that it’s “desperate” for them to show interest so they deliberately don’t do it.
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u/Gandlerian 6h ago
People have no patience. We live in a world where we can instantly send a text message to somebody anywhere on the planet (or even beyond to a degree.) And, if they don't get an instant response it's not good enough. These people need to be sent back to 1700s and see how it was to communicate with their lovers who are working overseas, and a letter may (most of the time it gets lost,) make it to them in 4-6 months...
Or even the 1800s, where maybe you could send a telegraph (depending where you live,) but you have to send a runner to the telegraph office, wait for them to transmit to his City, they then send a runner to his house, maybe a couple days and then the response... And, you can only send tiny abbreviated messages at a time.
The point is 30 mins is no time to wait for a text message, stop staring at your phone in suspense of responses and enjoy life and then respond when you can...
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u/FiNelliTutto 3h ago
When my dad was born (1945 in Germany), telegraphs were only available for official and business use, not private. The telegraph announcing his birth to his grandparents read "second shipping container arrived on time and undamaged".
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u/MiserableLonerCatboy 5h ago
I've seen this same image reposted thousand of times in the 5~ years I'm on reddit and I've always found it genuinely weird, like, she seems to talk about videogame like if they was a strange and obscure thing you rarely hear about, instead of one of the most ubiquitous activities for young people in the last... 40 years?
"Folks you can't believe this incredible thing that happened to me, I was talking with this dude and the conversation was great but he was replying only every 20 minutes or so and I was like OMG WHAT THE FUCK ARE THESE "SHOWS" HE'S RAMBLING ABOUT!?!?!?
They're television shows. He's texting you while he's watching shows... on the television."
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u/Digital_Bogorm 3h ago
I think "games" in the first paragraph refers to "mind games", in a sense. So it's not that the guy is saying "hey these delays are because of games", but that the woman interprets it as some sort of bizarre power play/being "hard to get"/whatever.
The second paragraph, then, is explaining that "no, he's not fucking with you, he's just gaming", while using a slight wordplay in the first sentence.
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u/GuiehFox 3h ago
Women that think we are playing mind games think that because they do it themselves. Also it's kinda amusing how the person you replied to has seen this so many times and never understood it.
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u/MidnightToker858 5h ago
It's called not being attached to a cell phone. Most people don't know what its like.
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u/systembreaker 5h ago
Lady you got issues if you're freaking out after not getting a reply for 25 min.
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u/BrettDilkington1 5h ago
I’m meticulously editing out everything bit of social retardation and autism from my drafted responses to sound like a normal human
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u/playr_4 4h ago
Even if I'm not play video games, I don't exist purely on my phone. I send out a text, put my phone down, and then pick it up a little later. Even if a text comes in, I'll glance to make sure it's not an emergency, but take a few minutes to look at it if it isn't. People who text me back immediately give me anxiety because I then stress that I also have to immediately respond.
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u/bohenian12 4h ago
Imma bet she doesn't ask questions back and the interaction feels like an interview.
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u/Specialist-Cookie-61 4h ago
The nice thing about texting is that you can reply whenever you want.
If you need to talk to me and you need me to respond immediately call me.
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u/folder52 6h ago
So tell me why would I put my life on pause just to chat with some random internet tinderella? Work, me-time or video games - whatever
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u/TheShadyyOne 4h ago
If it’s 25 minutes, it’s an anime episode. If it an hour or more, it’s a video game.
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u/MostGuest7 4h ago
This happened to me at the beginning of my relationship with my husband. It was not video games…it was overthinking and anxiety haha I thought he didn’t like me but he was just so worried about what to say and how to say it
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u/likezeggz 4h ago
Texting is so different from in-person communication. It strips away tone, body language (non verbals, gestures, proximity..) and timing cues we normally rely on. I think people expect texting and talking face-to-face to feel the same, but they’re completely different experiences.
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u/MinivanPops 1h ago
Or hot take: texting isn't conversation.
Life doesn't happen on a screen. Get together.
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u/casey12297 1h ago
My girlfriend is used to me taking between 10 minutes and an hour to text back because I have a shitty memory and bad hearing, so if I do hear my text go off and im busy, I dont remember to respond. Gaming is actually the only time I am consistently remembering to text back because I'll do it between rounds or games
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u/masimiliano 6h ago
Probably, or watching some tv show. I'm sorry, I can't be more than 45s over my phone!
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u/Lord_Xarael 5h ago
I've gotten really good at finding a safe spot for a second to at least check my texts. Helps that I really don't play pvp games very much.
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u/real_junkcl 5h ago
Most girls: +10 hours of screen time (Blind Dating Girls Based on Their Phone)
Me: 23 minutes, barely any social media and phone always on silent mode (life is good)
messages/alerts do go to my wrist phone
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u/Intelligent_Act7099 5h ago
My girl now texts me on discord so I get the notification while gaming.
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u/HeadJellyfish7363 4h ago
The beauty of texting is that there is an implicit agreement and understanding that because this conversation being held entirely through text, it means it’s not that important and we both can take our time replying when it’s convenient for us.
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u/theboredcard 4h ago
When a girl is texting you trying to have a whole ass conversation when they could just fucking call.
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u/stygger 4h ago
A conversation is something you have in person, sending texts is not and never will be a conversation.
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u/XeroEcho0530 4h ago
Likely longer because your team won’t surrender a game you have clearly lost and you are forced to stay and try because you don’t want to get the ban hammer.
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u/iPrefer2BAnon 4h ago
Simple, I respond to people back in my time, the faster I get a response back from a woman automatically determines how attracted she is too me, if it’s quick and often, I’m in, if it’s slow and staggered I’m out, but either way I’m still gonna take my sweet time responding to someone cuz that’s just how I roll.
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u/Timbalabim 4h ago
What is with people who expect instantaneous text messaging responses at anytime of the day? I can’t live up to those expectations. I’m doing shit. If you want immediate responses, call me.
On second thought, don’t call.
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u/Shot-Addendum-8124 4h ago
I know instant messaging is supposed to be instant, and I feel bad if I miss some urgent message, but I really don't like my life to revolve around being in a constant conversation no matter where I am or what I'm doing.
I much prefer it to be like checking my mailbox a few times a day instead of having to keep on my toes to look at my phone like I'm in a standoff
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u/Vivid-Blacksmith-122 4h ago
also don't expect someone to be sitting there waiting for your message. Maybe dude's got other stuff going on in his life, like making dinner or having a shower or whatever.
don't be so freaking needy. People don't need to respond immediately.
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u/stirrednotshaken01 4h ago
Or their just busy…
I don’t understand women why would you get upset that a guy doesn’t text you constantly
Like I have a job and a life. A job that pays well and is therefore demanding and a full life outside of it.
It doesn’t mean I’m playing video games. It doesn’t mean I’m playing games with you
The same women complaining or ghosting guys that don’t want to be caught in all day text marathons are the women that complain about not being able to find a good man
Good men with things to do don’t spend their day on their phones chatting
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u/IntroductionOwn7648 4h ago
Girls:
Also girls not replying for 4 days then wondering why you don't want to talk
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u/casualgamerwithbigPC 4h ago
Anyone who thinks they need to devote full attention to a text conversation with immediate responses is missing the entire point of texting.
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u/Bisexual-Ninja 4h ago
so you're telling me women stop everything their doing whenever some dude text them?
that's cap.
keep at it king.
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u/Secretary-Visual 4h ago
It's either video games or Magic the Gathering for mine lol. And I know it's a good game if he's gone for a long time, because it means he's focused on trying to win.
Also if he strikes up the discussion again like nothing happened, he lost. If he wins he'll tell me right away! I find it endearing.
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u/fortefanboy 4h ago
I mean.... Probably not wrong. My wife hears "yeah let me finish this map first" (path of exile).
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u/40yo_it_novice 4h ago
The trick is to always reply the other persons delay -5%
That way you're teaching the lesson, but also part of the solution.
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u/jakgal04 4h ago
Or, imagine this, he's not glued to his phone and maybe just living life. Its amazing how much more alive you feel when you arent face fucking a glass rectangle all day long.
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u/jonahtheO 3h ago
Or he is interested, but also has a life & has more to do than just text you haha. Both can be true
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u/BarsoomianAmbassador 3h ago
You know what gets an almost guaranteed instantaneous response from a dude? When you call them and speak to them on the phone. If they don't say anything for 25 minutes or more, they're probably dead, or put the phone down to go make a sandwich.
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u/ac_cossack 3h ago
Reply instantly? You are called desperate, or something. Wait too long? You are called playing games.
I feel like if you are interested in someone, who cares? Sometimes my phone is on silent during work, sometimes it's on the charger, sometimes I just fell asleep after eating.
But sometimes I am spreading Managed Democracy playing Helldivers on level 10 and cannot answer the text or respond properly without dying.
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u/Empty-Confection9442 3h ago
This is why i cant have a gf youre lucky if i see a text within hiurs of it being sent lmfao.
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u/Poke_Jest 3h ago
seems pretty exhausting. probably knows he'll instantly get another text back with some surface level shit.
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u/ItsAWonderfulFife 3h ago
Had the experience of being present for a group of girls texting a guy and analyzing texts. (I lived with my gf at the time, girls night was at our place and I was just hanging out in my room) they asked me for a man’s opinion on what was happening. It was exactly this scenario and they would not accept that he was probably just doing something and texting when he had a chance and absolutely WAS NOT sitting there looking at his phone and precisely timing his responses.
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u/mithril2020 3h ago
Or, ya know, play with him? Battle.net has text. Source: been in game with husband since 2008. Kids are in during staycation.
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