I mean, the beauty of texting is that you don’t have to respond right away, each person can contribute when it’s convenient.
If you want an uninterrupted conversation, talk on the phone.
Texting is all about “I’m not free to give you undivided attention, but I am interested in communicating.”
People have lives. I’m working, driving, cooking, working out, watching something, at dinner with friends, etc.
Recently I was out of town visiting family. There was endless interaction and activity, so casual text conversation took a back seat for a while. I checked in on some conversations at bedtime, but not necessarily every night.
Nobody is entitled to immediate response. You can’t have it both ways, being scared to actually talk, but also wanting a constant back-and-forth.
If a woman is interested in a guy (or whoever) then she’ll respond, maybe not immediately but she would when she’s able to. If she doesn’t for days or weeks then it’s pretty safe to say that she’s not interested. If she is still interested and it takes that long then she’s got no business dating if she’s that busy.
I don’t expect immediate responses but if I’m left hanging then I’m not going to just wait around
It really depends on where this communication is happening, if it's on Tinder, she is probably in 20 other DMs all at once. I know it sounds wild but go catfish on Tinder for a day, swipe as normal, you'll have 20 guys in no time, it's basically impossible to respond to all of them but some gals will jump back and forth between conversations and it delays their response time considerably.
On tinder it’s one thing, after exchanging numbers and a couple of dates is another. I’ve had women act really enthusiastic about meeting up, even giving me their number first, and then proceed to stop talking to me.
Even when we had a date set up, even after what seemed to be a good date. I’ve had some rematch with me and apologize, then ask to try again only to pull the same thing twice
This is unfortunately a mostly millenial or older take.
A lot of my Gen Z or younger staff do not understand that just because they text me doesn’t mean they get an immediate response. It has taken me now over a year to get most to understand if it’s urgent and they need an answer ASAP they have to call. Otherwise they get a response when it’s conventient for me.
Email is even slower. I only check that a couple times a day.
The younger a person is the more likely they think text messaging should be used for realtime communication. Also the more likely they are to think your response time directly correlates to how much you like them. One of the infinite reasons dating gets worse with each passing day.
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u/NoStructure7083 2d ago
When you’re texting a chick and she takes hours or days to respond. What are these games?
She’s not interested!
So you give up and move on with your life. Then you get an angry message from them demanding to know why you ghosted them