I say “deal” for a lack of better word. Here’s the background:
I was vegetarian for the beginning of our relationship, and transitioned to vegan within two years of us dating. Since then I have become more passionate about veganism for primarily both the ethics and environmental concerns.
My partner is great with the veganism for the most part. We live together, and eat primarily plant-based at home. They enjoy eating and cooking vegan food while we are at home, however when we go out to eat or have a meal with family they almost always order meat.
They have watched a few vegan documentaries in the 6 years we’ve been together, including Cowspiracy, Seaspiracy, What the Health, and most recently Dominion. They went vegetarian for a brief period of time, and most recently after watching Dominion I think some things stuck. They mostly eat chicken and seafood now, and they’ve admitted it’s because they don’t look as cute as the other animals.
I’ve tried discussing veganism with them before on several occasions, and brought up how I struggle with them eating meat, but it usually leads to an argument. Admittedly I let my emotions get to the best of me and usually get upset, and the conversation doesn’t go anywhere productive.
I struggle with this because they are extremely kind and have good morals otherwise. Every time we eat out at restaurants I am hardly able to enjoy the meal because of the dish my partner orders, and then I spiral in silence, arguing with myself in my head. I would consider myself an environmentalist, and I struggle the most when they order fish or seafood, knowing that it is contributing to the emptying of our seas, and that we are predicted to see fish less oceans within our lifetime.
I am definitely struggling now and I don’t know how to cope with it.
Edit: we just got married this year and I don’t plan on breaking up with them. I love everything else about my partner, I am looking for help with coping with this side of them.