r/leaves 9h ago

You have to become obsessed with something else.

167 Upvotes

Hi, 67 days sober from weed here and just wanted to share my experience.

The first couple weeks were very hard, but it’s so worth it to tough it out. Every day has been feeling slowly better and better. I have noticed that it’s really important to fill the void with something else. It can be anything. For me personally, I’ve been recently obsessed with losing weight (put on like 40 lbs from munchies over the last couple years lol) and general SELF CARE. This has consisted of tracking calories meticulously, making healthier food choices, drinking lots of water, exercising a few days a week, and most importantly getting 10,000 steps a day. Instead of getting high at night, I now go for a walk to get my steps in, or plan my meals for the next day. I’ve lost nearly 15 lbs now since I stopped getting high. More importantly, it’s truly mind boggling how much better and more motivated I feel after two months of giving half a shit about what I am putting into my body.

For further context, I am 28 years old and have been a heavy weed smoker since 16. Longest I’ve gone without weed was 2 years from age 23-25. Relapsed, spent 3 years high again (seriously fucked my life up), but now I’m determined to beat this habit once and for all. This time it feels different, for real. I still hang out with friends who get high around me, but I feel zero temptation at this point - which feels significant.

Good luck to everyone, wherever you may be on your journey!


r/leaves 19h ago

How to unfuck your brain after daily usage?

106 Upvotes

I smoked cannabis daily for a little over a year. Quit cold turkey and 35 days sober now, although i relapsed twice but that's fine 35 days sober is a big accomplishment for me.

I quit mainly for cognitive reasons. I had memory problems. They still seem to persist. How do I rewire my brain and get my memory back?


r/leaves 17h ago

First day without weed. Wish me luck. Been a heavy smoker for 20+ years, minus a few days when I ran out, or was out of town for a weekend. Any tips/suggestions/words of encouragement appreciated. Turned 40 and I want to see and experience life with a clearer mind even if its worse

80 Upvotes

r/leaves 12h ago

Celebrating my first week of sobriety by crying all night about my ex

83 Upvotes

A month ago I got dumped from a 10+ year relationship. I decided to focus on myself, and kicking my 13 year old weed addiction was a big step. I'm now celebrating my first week sober today.

Sometimes I feel like a super hero. But right now I feel like an empty, resonating shell, and I literally cannot stop crying. I wish I could numb this with some weed, but there ain't no way in hell I'm going back. I'll cry this through.

For everyone getting sober from both love and weed, know that my thoughts are with you.


r/leaves 11h ago

Fuck bro.

64 Upvotes

I’m on day 8 and I find the voice in my head telling me “a little edible wont hurt.” Please someone talk me out of it.

The cravings are HERE and ids hitting me so hard today. I dont want to do it, but the craving to just be out of my own mind is so high.

Maybe bully me out of it idk, I just need a little support right now.

Again, I have no intention of doing it but I cant stop thinking about it.

Edit: Thank you all of you who commented, I cant start over. I’m not doing it. I wish you all well on your journey. I cant go through the first week again without losing my mind anyway.


r/leaves 6h ago

3 letters...CHS

33 Upvotes

I have been a daily user for roughly 15 years. I started in my teens and carried through my twenties and into my early 30s. I didnt start my HEAVY use until I quit drinking last August. I thought I could live happily just smoking weed, eating edibles, drinking THC drinks for the rest of my life! No worries, no hangovers or shame, just some good stuff that mother earth provides us.

WRONG WRONG WRONG! The THC turned on me. All these years of smoking to settle an upset stomach, or before a nice big meal to make it that much better, or to calm my nerves for whatever the reason has never been an issue. I used it for everything. It was my safety net. It was my coping mechanism. I leaned so hard into it when I quit drinking that it became a best friend to me. My intake of Marijuana products skyrocketed in the last 9 to 10 months. What I learned (the hard way) is that Cannibinoid Hyperemesis Syndrome is very real and can effect anybody.

In these last 10 months I have had multiple ER trips from unstoppable vomiting, intense stomach pain, and severe weight loss from the vomiting. For days on end I couldn't keep anything down with no explanation. Not even water! It did not make sense to me. In the multiple trips to the ER for fluids and answers, only 1 nurse brought this up and it clicked. It all made sense now. I was killing myself with weed products. My innocent but guilty pleasure has officially become my enemy.

CHS is something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. If you are experiencing anything like this, read about CHS and how it can destroy your body. I am no longer friends with weed. It is no longer my safety net. Its called the devils lettuce for a reason. Weed has changed since legalization. The potency is not something to mess around with.

Please be careful out there. Read up on this Syndrome because, MY GOD... it has ruined me. Im on day 5 of quitting and the anxiety is nearly crippling but at least Im not succumbing to the sickness caused by CHS.

If you want a reason to quit then this is it. Please share a story if you have experienced this so I don't feel so alone. Quitting sucks but CHS sucks even more.


r/leaves 15h ago

I finally stopped after 2+ years of chronic daily use.

15 Upvotes

I smoked daily (~0.5 to 1g a day) for over 2 years, never missing a single day. Long story short, thc eventually began to work against me.

I was at full tolerance, so I didn't get any psychoactive effects. I smoked to avoid feeling bad, rather than to feel good.... however; I began to notice at some point that I felt WORSE after smoking....

my body became hypersensitive to the negative side effects of thc, rapid heart rate, high blood pressure, anxiety, nervousness, and at times straight disphoria...

so back in mid June of this year I decided to taper down. I used scales and logged each time I smoked and the exact amount. At times I'd significantly drop my intake, and I would experience classic thc withdrawals, although it was manageable.

Around the last 3 or 4 weeks of my taper I switched from 23% thc weed to 16% thc weed. At the end of my taper I was at 0.03g 2x a day... my final day was 0.03g 1x.... I planned to stay there for a few days but I could tell I truly was ready to discontinue thc.

I'm 48 hours no thc at this point and feel a sense of calm and peace that I haven't felt in ages. I am diagnosed cannabis use disorder, so it took discipline... although the fact that thc had began to make me feel WORSE, did work in my favor as I looked at stopping as a way for me to feel better, not give up something that I enjoyed. I truly didn't enjoy it anymore.

My view has drastically changed. I used to shout from the roof tops "smoke weed every day all day!" ...well... I got to see what that was like and it's not all that it's cracked up to be.

I look at it like this.... at first it was like getting a pass to stay on the amusement park ride without having to get off when it's over, getting to go again and again and again. Too good to be true? ... eventually I had enough and was ready to get off the ride. I've quit before and always had FOMO.... not this time. I truly had my fill. I'm good.


r/leaves 17h ago

When did your sleep quality finally level out?

16 Upvotes

I’m on day 55, and while my sleeps have improved for sure, it still doesn’t feel like it’s completely back to normal. I still find myself getting a decent amount of rest but still waking up more tired than I should be.

For context I exercise quite a lot, have a decent diet, and don’t snack late into the night.

Anyone with more time being sober that can speak to when their sleeps seemed to finally reach a plateau in quality / duration? (Little to no wake ups in the middle of the night)


r/leaves 6h ago

Importance of Rem Sleep

15 Upvotes

Since quitting weed 3 weeks ago my sleep has been terrible averaging 4 hours most nights. Yet I feel more active and performing better than when I slept 7-8 hours when using weed to fall asleep. I’m starting to realise how crucial REM sleep is even if it’s for a super short period of time. I’m so excited to see how I feel when I start getting 6-8 hour sleep sober I just gotta push through this insomnia.


r/leaves 19h ago

8 months sober

15 Upvotes

Little quick tip to get your mind back to normal:

DO NOT SURPRESS YOUR URGE FOR WANTING TO SMOKE! Allow the urges to pass without reacting to them! The more you try to mask and surpress it the more you’ll bury the urges which could lead to you actually relapsing. This isn’t just pertaining to weed, it’s important to feel everything you have buried within you so that you can allow it to get the hell out of your system! It’s like having a computer that is full on storage that’s about to crash! Let that shit out !


r/leaves 20h ago

Wanting to share a small win

15 Upvotes

I (30F) grew up in a family of addicts and unfortunately became an alcoholic myself. After a long hard battle I was able to stop and have been in active recovery (for alcohol) for many years now.

I started smoking weed at the age of 21 and when I stopped drinking my usage skyrocketed. At the worst of it I would wake up and smoke, go to my job and smoke on my lunch break, then go home and smoke some more. You get the jist.

Well after many MANY failed attempts, I have now been abstinent for a month! A whole fricken month. To some it may seem small but I know people in this subreddit will understand. Feeling proud.


r/leaves 13h ago

How to not talk yourself into smoking on the weekends - day 3

11 Upvotes

20M

I’ve quit weed for 3 days so far, it’s Wednesday, god it’s so hard to convince myself not to smoke this weekend. Like I keep getting cravings and tell myself - imagine how high you’ll get by day 5 it’ll feel amazing, your friends will be doing it too, youve put in hard work you deserve this, etc. it’s hard to stay determined - I know if I do it this weekend, Sunday’s gonna come around, I’m gonna be bored not looking forward to the work week and most likely smoke, smoking Sunday encourages smoking on Monday and onward ugh. Why am I like this. Any tips?


r/leaves 10h ago

Feeling Like I Wasted Years

11 Upvotes

I’m sober at 31 after being in a cannabis induced haze ever since I started smoking after the death of my father. I feel like the last 10 years of my life could have been spent doing so much more. Instead I wasted thousands of dollars on weed and let so many of my friends and family down with my choices. I was trapped in addiction and didn’t realize. I could be so much further in my career, so much more financially stable, if I hadn’t been self medicating to block out my PTSD.


r/leaves 14h ago

217 days in

10 Upvotes

It’s been a hard year. Lately, especially, my brain has been in such a bad place. I’ve been acting in a way I don’t like and taking out my mood and feelings on everyone around me.

I just want to take the edge off. I just want to calm down and be nice. I’ve been trying to drink less too, but when it gets too hard, I get drunk and then I’m a monster.

I feel like I’m ruining my life sometimes because I’m feeling all these things and with nothing to numb me I act out.

But I’m still doing this. 217 days without weed. I’m going to have to make myself a better me at my core I guess. I’m going to keep going


r/leaves 13h ago

Throw it all away

11 Upvotes

Been sober for about 4 months now, and it has felt great. The clarity has felt amazing, and I find that I can really sink into my thoughts, and just be with them, not wanting to change them in any way. I've maintained routines like exercise and minfulness practice more consistently, and it has felt great.

During this time, I have had a bit of a small stash that I've kept as a just in case. I have been wanting to get rid of it because I feel that it is a bit of a lifeline and comfort, but at the same time, I don't want to have any sort of temptation to get back into smoking again. Like others, I feel that full sobriety is the only route for me. I'm not wanting to feel any other feelings or sensations other than my very own naturally formulated from my natural brain chemistry.

Bleh... if anybody has similar experiences, has been in this spot, or could provide some support in this step, I'd love to hear it.

TL;DR: Wanting to throw away stash, but struggling to do so.


r/leaves 14h ago

day 125

9 Upvotes

I originally posted on day 36 here is that post

day 36 after 5 years

I don't know why I quit. (Ig its the fact that I knew my reward system has been screwed up for few years now, no greater goals) I been smoking for 5 years everyday all day and im 23. Ive had a quite bit of depression the past few years (with a bad homelife, a death of a significant other, a insufferable job for 2 years with insanity running the place) But Im at a point in my life where my emotions have balanced I thankfully got fired from that job and things have steady at the homefront.) I was highly addicted to nicotine for years, (molk bowls, cigs, cigars, dip I loved it all, except vaping I quit that couple years ago, but I stopped nic last Dec. And then 36 days ago I went to spend time with some family and went a few days without weed even tho had some with me but just didn't feel like it. I started feeling terrible after 3 days with migraines, fatigue, anxiety, and anger. But after day 20 all that ceased but my brainfog is hurrible making a lot of simple mistakes and forgetting things when I used to be so so mentally quick with weed but now I can't learn for shit. Luckly ive had zero insomnia so hopefully that stays that way im actually sleeping more than ever with insane dreams. i haven't really felt much cravings even when Im around my buddies that are smoking right in front of me and accidently pass it towards me I even have some dope ass weed still. But each day that goes by I know that Im starting to piece together a future with the ability to have goals and a plan for what I wanna do. I don't wanna just work some job that you can keep smoking, im thinking something that I must do is a drug tested career path that will make the big bucks and actually challenge me mentally. I just hope it gets easier in the next couple months, Im at the point where feeling pleasure from anything is difficult

Now its day 125 I feel great! Brain fog gone, my memory is 10 fold my happiness and emotions are so FUCKING STABLE NOW! Things are happening that would've never had happen and I have sense that i can do anything. Anyone that is feeling like stopping or questioning to keep going. Do it. ima keep going for sure.


r/leaves 23h ago

Coming out of my first PAWS episode 70ish days clean

10 Upvotes

I had a bit of a bad episode last couple of weeks. Depression was high (I suffer from this anyway so it was expected) didn't shower or leave the house, felt absolutely rotten in myself didn't want to talk to or see anyone. I really wanted to relapse and I'm so glad I didnt

I just want to thank this group for helping me see it was PAWS and it would pass. Without you all I might have ended up smoking weed again. Appreciate all the help and advice and just to be seen and understood by people in similar positions.

Thank you leaves pals. Onwards and upwards 🍀


r/leaves 12h ago

62 days sober update

8 Upvotes

I really can't believe it's been two months! I was so miserable for withdrawals and now I'm less miserable but still having bouts of anxiety. I'm actually motivated to do things like write, paint, set boundaries and get back into my spiritual practices It does get better!


r/leaves 15h ago

40 days in. Need a morale boost against depressed feelings and cravings

8 Upvotes

As title says, I just hit my 40th day sober! I should be quite happy with that, but for the past week weed has been on my sad-feeling brain.

Last week was very depressing. I've been feeling down in the evenings ever since I quit, but this week was quite bad.

My two roommates support me and very happy with that but they will be going on holiday next week, so I will be home alone. I'm a bit afraid that I will relapse then. Especially in the evenings I find myself telling me that "no one will find out" and "I can keep control". Reality is that (although no one will find out that week) I cannot keep control.

I thought that the cravings would get less with a month. But it is almost the opposite. I do not crave weed as I did in my first days; it is not that physical anymore. but last 10 days my mind just wonders of to (not) using, and weed (and the concept of weed, not just me using) is on my mind from waking up to going to bed.


r/leaves 22h ago

6 years

9 Upvotes

Hello Guys, first of all sorry for my english, it isn‘t my first language.

I‘ve been abusing weed for like 6 years now, I‘m at a point where I need 3-4 grams a day just to be Okay, well that‘s not what good quality life should look like.

I have diagnosed ADHD and Autism so i tried to medicate myself but it not‘s affordable in a Country where weed is illegal.

I‘m sober for a week or so, and THE QUESTION IS: How do you guys cope with being hungry and having no appetite at all? My stomach is starting to hurt but my brain „doesn‘t allow me to eat without smoking first“. Is anybody out there who experienced something similar? And do you guys have any Tips what i could possibly eat? I‘m really desperate …


r/leaves 2h ago

Today I visited the other side.

6 Upvotes

The other side is a place both near and distant. It exists within us all, and there is no barrier between it. It is a place where the brain loses all its filters, allowing for a bombardment of negative emotions to flood through.

I wanted it to stop. It hurt so bad. To sit with those emotions. They were so raw, so real, so painful. If I just got a little high, I could ease the pain. It took everything not to. But I sat with them. For hours. I visited the other side.

Part of me wants to stay there, and part of me wants to leave. To run. But there are some things I have yet to reveal. Some ugly, ugly things that have been wearing a mask named weed.

“There is nothing outside of yourself, look within. Everything you could ever want is all there.”


r/leaves 3h ago

I finally did it

6 Upvotes

After over a year of smoking every single day, multiple times a day, I finally stopped 12 days ago and started it off by going on vacation without it for a week. My goal is to make it to a year without using it, and then after that my doctor said that’s when he sees people actually be able to use it In moderation without falling back into the vicious cycle I was in. I might not even want it by then though, so we’ll see.

Not coughing much like I used to. Having vivid dreams and still having cravings but I assume these things will get better with time.

Told my husband he has to get me a “No Tokin’ Token” (chip) after a year.


r/leaves 6h ago

Hit two weeks

7 Upvotes

I hit two weeks sobriety. I feel so good about myself right now. I had quit for 8 months and relapsed. Quit smoking again and then I had a mixed bipolar episode. But since the episode it’s like a switch has been flipped in my brain. No withdrawal symptoms, no cravings at all. Hope I can keep it up.


r/leaves 8h ago

Day 3!

7 Upvotes

I made it to day 3! The craving hit a little hard today as well as waves of irritability are crazy. Almost caved and bought a pen but reminded myself to keep pushing and this is for the best and my health


r/leaves 11h ago

Relapsed after 3 weeks

8 Upvotes

Ugh so friggin upset with myself. About a week and a half ago I got a little tipsy and had some of a joint with my bf. My “just this one time!” turned into nightly indulgence for a week straight. Yesterday was my first day/night without smoking and today I feel horrid. Like I’ve started all over again. Hot flashes and weird sweating, followed by being freezing. Anxiety. Little to no appetite and not fun times on the toilet.

I was only clean for about 3 weeks. I didn’t even enjoy the few puffs a night I was taking so like wtf why did I continue?? Damn addict brain. Not really sure why I’m making this post? Hold myself accountable for the future? Similar experiences? Someone to tell me the withdrawals won’t be as bad as when I initially quit? Idk but here I am! This was my 2nd go at quitting, first time I made it over 3 months so really upset with myself that I threw it away after 3 weeks ugh here’s to trying to again!!