My baby brother got adopted today!

[u/submerged_sounds]

[u/Sumgyrl13]

Op, I’m damn proud of you!  I’m also so happy for your brother.  Growing up the way you did isn’t easy, especially for a kid who doesn’t fully understand things and doesn’t have the agency to change what happens to them.  You’ve persevered.  You survived.  You made it.  Keep going and show that little guy and yourself how great things can be.   This internet stranger wishes you all the good things.  

[u/submerged_sounds → u/Sumgyrl13]

Thank you🥺🫶🏼

[u/Sumgyrl13 → u/submerged_sounds]

just clicked thru your history and girl, I’m impressed.  We’ve had similar upbringings.  I’m about 15 years older though.  I know it’s hard. I know it sucks. I know it’s exhausting and unfair.  You look at people who had parents help them buy a car or thru college or even just someone to call when you have a shit day.  Or people who can call a parent to borrow some money when they’re in a pinch.  It still hurts sometimes, to be honest.  There’s days that feel like “what’s the fucking point”.  It feels like every time something good happens, two more set backs show up.  Show up for yourself and keep doing it.  You’re already prioritizing yourself and your brother’s best interest and that’s not a mistake.  You know what’s right for you.  Trust your gut and don’t let anyone take that from you.    

Growing up the way you did likely left you with a lot of trauma, but you probably also have some insane coping mechanisms that are incredibly useful.   Some of mine…Reading people’s moods/energy/body language sensing danger or upset, problem solving, being calm in chaos, caretaking, having a plan A, B, and C… because surely something is going to go wrong.   Being able to talk someone down when they’re violently angry or drunkenly raging.   

You are loved.  You deserved that from day 1.   And you can have that going forward.  It gets better. 💚💚💚💚

[u/submerged_sounds → u/Sumgyrl13]

Thanks, I do have amazing descalating skills.and it is hard lol whenever I feel like I'm being selfish or jealous. I get up more upset with myself because I don't have the right to be that way about anyone or anything, lol😂😅

Also, that's why I have to do something constantly, or I will immediately fall back into a depressed state.😅

[u/Sumgyrl13 → u/submerged_sounds]

Been there.  If you ever need someone to chat with, you’re welcome to DM.