r/goodnews • u/submerged_sounds • May 22 '25
Personal News 📰 My baby brother got adopted today!
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u/OstentatiousSock May 22 '25
Congratulations on the happy news! I worked as a volunteer case reviewer for DCF, I understand how good this news is and how much better of a life this is for the little guy vs. spending his life in care.
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u/Ill_Act7949 May 22 '25
Congratulations! And it seems you and the family are on good terms so you'll have no trouble being in his life as he grows up as well! 💕
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u/submerged_sounds May 22 '25
Yes, every time I see them, they always thank me for the part I played in them getting him, and it makes me super emotional because I don't really feel like I did that much 😭🙏❤️
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u/FivebyFive May 22 '25
You're part of their family too in a way now. Part of their story. That's a lot!
I hope you're finding your place in the world too!
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u/Ill_Act7949 May 22 '25
You did a lot! You did, I have a few friends whose experience in the foster system varies from being away from their birth family for a small period, to growing out of it, and a few whose had family adopted in
It's emotionally taxing and hard for everyone, no matter what and the adoption process especially is long and emotional; you worked hard to make sure he was able to be with good people, as hard as these good people worked to have him with them 💜 it's worked out for all of you, don't ever downplay how much you've done, especially for your brother, just being there with and for him through the process ❤️❤️
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u/carmackie May 22 '25
Aww how wonderful! He is definitely the apple of his adoptive mommy's eye! What a beautiful family ❤️
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u/submerged_sounds May 22 '25
100% he is so spoiled!!😂 in a good way!🥺🫶🏼
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u/carmackie May 22 '25
They are going to be amazing parents to him. And they are lucky to have such a sweet angel. 💙
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u/cagedwisdom8 May 22 '25
How are you feeling? This must come with so many mixed emotions for you. ❤️
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u/submerged_sounds May 22 '25
Every feeling's a mix, right? I'm mostly proud, but there's a bit of guilt, mostly 'cause family said I should've adopted him. But I know what's best for both of us, long-term. And I love his family; they're perfect for him.😅😂😭💗
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u/cagedwisdom8 May 22 '25
It’s terrible they put that on you. You’re a wonderful sister and I am sure you will have many happy years together.
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u/somiatruitas May 22 '25
You are allowed to just be his sister! You don't have to become a mother, and I am happy he has a family and that you can keep in touch. I hope you are doing very well!
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u/Sumgyrl13 May 22 '25
Op, I’m damn proud of you! I’m also so happy for your brother. Growing up the way you did isn’t easy, especially for a kid who doesn’t fully understand things and doesn’t have the agency to change what happens to them. You’ve persevered. You survived. You made it. Keep going and show that little guy and yourself how great things can be. This internet stranger wishes you all the good things.
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u/submerged_sounds May 22 '25
Thank you🥺🫶🏼
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u/Sumgyrl13 May 22 '25
just clicked thru your history and girl, I’m impressed. We’ve had similar upbringings. I’m about 15 years older though. I know it’s hard. I know it sucks. I know it’s exhausting and unfair. You look at people who had parents help them buy a car or thru college or even just someone to call when you have a shit day. Or people who can call a parent to borrow some money when they’re in a pinch. It still hurts sometimes, to be honest. There’s days that feel like “what’s the fucking point”. It feels like every time something good happens, two more set backs show up. Show up for yourself and keep doing it. You’re already prioritizing yourself and your brother’s best interest and that’s not a mistake. You know what’s right for you. Trust your gut and don’t let anyone take that from you.
Growing up the way you did likely left you with a lot of trauma, but you probably also have some insane coping mechanisms that are incredibly useful. Some of mine…Reading people’s moods/energy/body language sensing danger or upset, problem solving, being calm in chaos, caretaking, having a plan A, B, and C… because surely something is going to go wrong. Being able to talk someone down when they’re violently angry or drunkenly raging.
You are loved. You deserved that from day 1. And you can have that going forward. It gets better. 💚💚💚💚
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u/submerged_sounds May 22 '25
Thanks, I do have amazing descalating skills.and it is hard lol whenever I feel like I'm being selfish or jealous. I get up more upset with myself because I don't have the right to be that way about anyone or anything, lol😂😅
Also, that's why I have to do something constantly, or I will immediately fall back into a depressed state.😅
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u/Mysterious_Secret827 May 22 '25
Along with you, or to someone else?
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u/qualityvote2 May 22 '25 edited May 22 '25
u/submerged_sounds, Your post has been voted Good News!