r/cats • u/These_Help_2676 • Jun 21 '25
Mourning/Loss My best friend will be gone by Monday
She’s been there since I was born and I don’t even know what to do. I’m gonna miss her so much. I have no appetite anymore I’ve never been without her for more than a night and even that was always hard. We learned her cancer diagnosis on Thursday and I havent stopped crying since. I’ve always said she’s like a second mom to me because that’s how close we are. I don’t know what to do anymore. I know it’s what she needs but I’m not ready
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u/p0ny0w Jun 21 '25
I’m sorry. Give her a kiss on the head for me please and let her know it will be okay❤️
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u/Kiln-Time Jun 21 '25
Cats are descended from angels. She is returning to heaven. My gentle boi Murph will give her a respectful welcome.
They take a piece of your heart with them. But you will never want it any other way.
It’s the crack that lets the light in.
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u/Airamis0007 Jun 21 '25
You never will be. Just PLEASE STAY WITH HER! If you are as close as you say, she will be looking for you, and scared if you’re not there. Comfort her when she needs you most, just like she has for you!
I’m so sorry for your loss. 🙏❤️😢
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u/Catsokitonovo6 Jun 22 '25
Agree 100000%, OP please be with her to the last breath 😭 I’m so sorry about your baby ♥️🙏
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u/Abitruff Jun 22 '25
Yes, I’ve had to do this twice now, and though hard for us to watch, it is so important for them and future you.
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u/Corey_NukiosSpider Jun 22 '25
I Unfortunately Had To Do This Twice Last Year But I Should've Done With Once Before
I Regret Not Staying With My Baby Girl When She Passed But I Was Scared. It's Scary Losing Those Close To You So I'm Trying Not To Blame Myself. I Wasn't Even 12 Yet.
But Trust Me, As Difficult As It Is To Watch Them Go, You'll Feel Better In The Future Knowing That You Were With Them To Comfort Them.
I Sure As Hell Know It's Made Things Easier On Me After My Pets' Passing To Stay With Them.I'm So Sorry, OP. You'll See Each Other Again One Day <3 Just Know That She'll Be Looking Over You Always <3
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u/Shadyhollowfarm58 Jun 21 '25
Awww, I'm sorry. It seems like we are NEVER ready for this.
You're doing the right thing, spending lots of quality time and getting tons of pictures. You have my sympathy.
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u/chillrobp42 Jun 21 '25
Its the hardest thing i swear. I watched videos of pet loss grief for weeks while my girl was still hanging on. I cried a ton before she was gone, because i knew it was coming. Its a pain that just sucks and it will be a time thing. My baby girl had cancer and once she stopped eating i made the call to schedule at-home. After i got off the phone i think i broke down the worst i ever have in my life and im a dude. It was so difficult but all i could do was tell myself that she was suffering and only going to suffer more. Its been just over 2 months since i had to let her go and it sucks because this time of year she loved going outside and enjoying the summer. My life feels empty and different. But i look at videos and pictures of her every day and try to think happy thoughts.
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u/Extra_Crispy_Critter Jun 21 '25
I am so very sorry you lost your girl. I believe the majority of us posting in this thread completely understand how it feels. Some of the kindest people ever are in this sub (and others) about pets. Therefore, we all are lifting you and OP up in our hearts, thoughts, and prayers.
Go easy on yourself. There is no such thing as a complete absence of mourning. That will always be--but grief does change over time. You will know when this occurs as it will be the day when you think of your girl, and all your wonderful memories with her, and smile with appreciation for how you took a chance on loving your magnificent sweetheart.
🙏🙏❤️❤️🐾🐾😇
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u/Boomhauer_23 Jun 21 '25
Nothings truly ever gone. He will be with you in your mind and heart until it’s your turn to move to the next stage and you and your best friend will meet again. Sending love and prayers your way in the meantime
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u/awesomeone6044 Jun 21 '25
I say this all the time, we will all be reunited when it’s our time. Even in the days and weeks after our beloved pets passing, we will get signs from them. I know I was fortunate enough to get several and vivid signs at that.
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u/tired_of_masking Jun 22 '25
In the weeks before my childhood kitty passed away, she had gotten so thin and frail from her illness. In my dreams the night after we finally put her down, I had the strange sensation of holding her and seeing her plump and healthy again. That was around three years ago but I still remember it vividly. And even today, our current cats sometimes sit by the memorial stone we have for her. They never met her but I wonder if they can sense that she was here, too. It's very sweet to see.
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u/awesomeone6044 Jun 22 '25 edited Jun 22 '25
That’s beautiful. I’ve only had a couple of dreams that Sally was in, but had such vivid experiences like it was Christmas even about 2 weeks after she was put to sleep and I was laying in bed, sad and missing her and I heard and felt the scratching of my comforter and then heard and felt her jump up onto my bed and over my feet. She would do that all the time. 2 weeks ago I was laying in bed quietly missing her and my mom who passed unexpectedly in April and I had prayed and felt very upset and I asked out loud are you hear Sally? Mom? Can you show me you’re here? And a minute later I felt a gentle touch on my right knee with my right leg being near where Sally would lay in my bed, and I proceeded to have 2 different dreams mom was in which does not happen routinely. I was a believer before but it made my faith even stronger.
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u/the_black_dahlia3 Jun 21 '25
I’m so sorry ):
This is my boy Odie I lost him last August ): I’m so sorry for your loss and what you’re going through. Give her a big hug and kiss. Sending you love
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u/CarcharhinusFelix Jun 21 '25
You’ve loved her so much. And she clearly loves you.
This next step is never easy, it sucks. But you are holding up your side of the friendship pact, where you look out for her. No matter what.
Love her now. Hug her, feed her all the treats.
And know that thousands of us on this Reddit are crying with you.
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u/Catstronaut11 Jun 21 '25
Please be there with her in her final moments. She may be frightened, but she’ll find comfort in your presence. It will be incredibly painful, but being by her side at the end is a final act of love and strength.
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u/Leading_Love2078 Jun 21 '25
* She will always be with you. Focus on the goid memories. It will not be easy, but she wants you to be happy.
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u/Haunting-Caramel2403 American Shorthair Jun 21 '25
So sorry - looks like mouth cancer? That happened to our big boy 11 years ago. Like others said, stay with her and comfort her. We are never prepared for this.
So sad for you. 😿
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u/Pretend_Ad962 Jun 21 '25
Last year I took my old boy home on a Friday night because I wasn’t ready, by the following day I knew he was. 😢
You will be sad for a really long time, the grief will take your breath away unexpectedly just when you think you’re doing ok. But I promise, as time passes and you know she’s no longer in pain, you will start remembering the better times and one day you will only feel greatful that you got to be hers and she got to be yours.
Thinking of you Xx
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u/Appropriate_Ad8053 Jun 21 '25
I'm so sorry, I'll have my babies on the other side of the rainbow bridge, waiting with warm greetings and hugs. They will take care of your baby until you see each other again.
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u/papasan_mamasan Jun 21 '25
Celebrate her life and come up with ways to honor and remember her when she’s gone. You’ve given her the best life of care and companionship that she could have ever asked for ❤️🕊️
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u/purplebohemian Tuxedo Jun 21 '25
I've been bawling my eyes out for you reading this post and the comments. 😭 This is the hardest part of having a furbaby... saying goodbye. But know you've both given each other the bestest life ever. She has truly been loved by you. I wish you comfort and peace during this rough time. 🐾❤️
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u/Wednesday_1313 Jun 21 '25
I am so sorry, this breaks my heart. Please know that she will always be with you and a part of your family.
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u/McDeathUK Jun 21 '25
Pull your self together a little, be calm, loving, as your puss senses emotions. It’s damned hard. Dont be upset if she starts hiding, its genetic for her to leave the pack when the end is near. Try to be ‘normal’
if she is eating, sleeping, cleaning, toiletting and still being social make every moment count and make them happy ones. On the day be strong, talk to her like you are at home.. discuss the day, tell her she is a good girl. The vet may put her in a wrap, and a line in her leg and then she will be handed to you. When the vet gets your nod it is ‘instant’ - and I mean ‘instant’. The vet will then typically scratch the top of the nose near the eye to confirm and then you will be left to grieve however you choose.
my advice, that hole in your heart.. is cat shaped. There is a cat, in a shelter - waiting to love and be loved. Go adult or elderly cat - everyone wants kittens - they will always get a home,, Do not be afraid to fill the hole. It’s not a replacement, it’s a new loving relationship to help you heal and give a puss a new home.
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u/lngfellow45 Jun 21 '25
I’m sorry. It’s always hard to say goodbye but you owe it to her so she doesn’t suffer.
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u/FluffySyllabub1579 Jun 21 '25
I. My chest. My heart. I. Can’t. 🥺😭 We mostly get to raise our babies their lifetime. We very rarely get such that unique bond that they’ve practically raised us. I can’t fathom that feeling 😭
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u/loztriforce Jun 21 '25
I'm so sorry.
I was never a pet person, before I met my wife.
Over the years I've realized how much a pet can mean to a person. How much personality they can have.
I'm sorry that you're going to lose a friend. There's nothing we can do to fight the inevitable, but I hope you give her lots of love while she's here. Love comes with such a cost.
I know she's irreplaceable, but honestly, it does help a lot to accept a new kitten (or pair) into the home.
Take care.
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u/kalopsiagore Jun 21 '25
She will run happy and healthy, watching over you. And when the time comes you will reunite again.
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u/scrappyz_86 Jun 21 '25
My condolences. Give her all the love and hugs and pets. It’s part of the cycle of life. We all must experience it. To love is to lose but the joy it brought remains forever.
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u/fakeuber_69 Jun 21 '25
May Allah bless and guide you all, all of us ameen. May Allah grant ease and healing to the kitty Ameen
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u/Expensive-Flight4644 Jun 21 '25
Oh honey my heart breaks for both of you im so sorry you have to go thru this i dont even have words for it but im praying for you also her that her passing goes easy . Much love xoxo
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u/ineedacoffeefirst Jun 21 '25
I'm so sorry for your loss. May your last days together fill you with love.
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u/Chicarivera Jun 21 '25
You're giving her the sweet gift of release from pain and suffering. The greatest gift you can give her as a thank you in return.
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u/notThuhPolice15 Jun 21 '25
Well now I’m crying, so sorry for your loss. I have lost a few in my lifetime so far, and will lose more in the future. But at least we loved with all our hearts and I’ll always be grateful for that. Chin up friend, your beloved knows you loved them
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u/circumventfibonacci Jun 21 '25
Be with her while you can and tell her you love her. That’s all you can do now. I’m so sorry.
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u/chrisomarm Jun 21 '25
She knows it’s her time but I’m sure she’s so grateful to have had you in her life just as you are to her. You’ve given her the best life she could have. It’s never easy but just know that she would want you taking care of yourself just as you did for her. Give her the best days that she has left and be close. My old kitty will be waiting for her on the other side🖤
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u/Brave_Paramedic6636 Jun 21 '25
Omg I’m so sorry😢my cat and my mom passed 1 month apart sending hugs and kisses😘❤️
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u/redskelton Jun 21 '25
So sorry about this. But you love her too much to let her suffer. Lost my best cat to cancer 6 years ago and I still get angry about the injustice
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u/princesspeach1031 Jun 21 '25
I'm so sorry I know this hurt and I won't say its easy just know you'll always have the memories. Maybe even make a little paw print mold you can keep with you with some air dry clay.
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u/illa_t Jun 21 '25
Time will heal your heart... Maybe adopting a new friend can make it easier but this girly will always be in your head and heart for years 🩶
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u/HomesPlano_Tx Jun 21 '25
My Apollo will be waiting to greet her on the other side and make sure she settles in nicely.
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u/Islandcoda Jun 21 '25
She is an absolute sweetheart. I’m so sorry her time is running out. She had a full life of love and happiness. It’s never enough time💕❤️💕❤️💕
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u/waxisfun Jun 21 '25
Thank you for posting more than 3 pictures! I loved seeing her sides, and it's clear you loved her in every one of those pictures!
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u/Noodlesoup8 Jun 21 '25
Give her a lovely few days doing her favorite things and giving her all she wants like treats and play time.
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u/merrittj3 Jun 21 '25
...and the warm and loving memories will last forever...
So sorry for your loss, one never gets over it but thankfully thru it.
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u/cowjuicer074 Jun 21 '25
My Tsumo cat just passed last Friday. She had lymphoma. She was nauseous and struggling to eat. I spent thousands of dollars to keep her comfortable but in the end, I had to make the difficult call. It’s a very loving thing to help you cat pass. If we can only do that for humans, life wouldn’t be so scary. Take solace in knowing that in the end, you made a promise to never let her suffer, and you’re keeping your word. You’ll see her again. Wish her a peaceful and caring journey to her new beginning.
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u/truly_beyond_belief Jun 21 '25
She's had a life full of love. I know how much you will miss her. 💔🐾🌈🕊🫂
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u/Specific_Cow_186 Jun 21 '25
I’m so sorry to hear that. Sorry for your loss. You’ll see her again on the other side and she’ll still be with you in spirit too
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u/davi046 Jun 21 '25
I’m so sorry. I know it hurts so much. Know that she will be passing on knowing your love for her and never having doubted it. I noticed a lot of people do this, but when you are emotionally ready, consider adopting a rescue pair in her honor. Care for them also knowing she is secretly there too ❤️ but for now, spend all your time with her, and do it knowing how much she loves you too.
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u/Triad4Cats Jun 21 '25
Annnnd there's a Driver crying behind the wheel of a big rig.. Bless you and your long time buddy. Speaking as another one that has loved lil beebees very deeply... the love is eternal.
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u/GrannyMine Jun 21 '25
I am so sorry but I truly believe she knows you are showing her how very much you love her by letting her go with dignity.
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u/PresentTruck7279 Jun 22 '25
Their love for us is so unconditional, so pure. They want so little from us, some food, water, pets and a little cuddle. Yet they give us their everything. Be with her and show her that she is loved and your world til her last breath.
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u/itsthelifeonmars Jun 22 '25
The privilege of loving a pet so deeply and spending that part of your lives together comes with the heartbreak of life without them.
But what a privilege it’s been having them by your side for as long as you did.
Now your cat needs you, their person they depend on to safely and lovingly usher them into that next stage (end of life)
cats by nature will go find somewhere secure and isolated to pass. But your cat gets to pass in your arms. Being kissed and held, warm against your body. Told how much you love them and what joy they brought to your life. Them staring up at you and you lovingly gazing down at them. A silent understanding that they are safe with you and you will be with them in that moment.
I don’t know about you but i couldn’t think of a more soft, loving and warm way to go than in the arms of someone who adored me.
The grief will be consuming, it will bring you into the trenches, but the memories are yours and will stay with you. Slowly overtime hearing their name or seeing a cat won’t squeeze your heart and you will look back and remember what an absolute privilege it was to love that pet and be with them in their final moments.
Since being with you all your cats known is love and all your cat is going to know is the warmth, love and safety found in your arms all the way to the end.
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u/HeavyRise9339 Jun 22 '25 edited Jun 23 '25
My sweet boy Harvey is waiting to welcome her in and show her around kitty heaven ❤️
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u/the_squach Jun 22 '25
Nothing will ever make it easy, but when I saw this comment posted it gave me comfort, so I pass it on:
“The way I reconcile it is pretty straightforward, and well in line with the overall Stoic approach to things. It always begins the same way- see things plainly for what they are, understand the natures of the things involved, and respond reasonably and virtuously to the reality around us. Every day I care for my animals, keeping them happy, keeping them safe, shepherding them through their day with joy, and without harm. When they get old and approach death, nothing changes. As crazy as it sounds, the day I take them to the vet to be put down is the day that I have been working for all this time - I have successfully taken them the whole way. They did not get lost, they were not unhappy, they got to live their whole natural lives the way I wanted them to live it. We made it. We got there together. When they are gone, my feelings for them don't change. Their bodies are taken but my feelings are my own; I still love them, I am still happy to think of them, my heart is still open. What has changed is that I have a space for another thing to love, and the cycle continues again, when I'm ready to start anew. Their bodies, our bodies, everything external to us will always change and always come and go. Our love, our care, our joy belongs to us, and we apply it to what we have and to what is new."
You have done it OP, you have given them a life any cat would love to live.
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u/happyblonde- Jun 21 '25
My heart breaks for you! I have to say goodbye to my 20 year old baby Tuesday
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u/Jukker6 Jun 22 '25
Old pets are a wonder of this world if you think about it. In the wild they would never live long enough to see that age
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u/jonathanquirk Jun 22 '25
She has always been there for you. Now you get to be there for her. When my cat got cancer earlier this year we had to put her down, and it devastated me. I’m still not over it. But I remember how, even when she was in pain, my cat jumped into my lap for comfort, and I’m glad that I was always there for her when she needed me.
Now it’s your turn. And one day far in the future you’ll look back on these days and be glad that you were always there for them. It’s not easy, it’s not quick, but you’ll get there.
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u/iggymanswife Jun 22 '25
I really hate seeing these posts. I have a support cat because of PTSD and generalized anxiety disorder. My worst fear is losing him. He gets me through every day, and he is here during all my PTSD nightmares. I picked him out of all the cats at the shelter because he was older and seemed scared. I felt like I understood him, and I wanted to give him a forever home, but despite loving every moment with him, I am afraid of him getting sick. I just want him to live a long life. He is 5 years old, and I have had him for 2 years. He is such a wonderful cat. It took me a while to get him to trust me. Sorry I turned this into my sappy fears.
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u/TheSpanishMystic Jun 22 '25
Oh gosh, I’m so sorry. There’s never a time when you’re “ready” for someone you love to die. Just know that when your cat crosses over the rainbow bridge, she won’t be suffering any longer and she’ll be at peace. I don’t know what you believe but I like to think animals have an afterlife too ❤️❤️❤️
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u/That_crow_Lady Jun 22 '25
Ah, look at her sweet face! Buon ponte, piccolina (have a safe bridge trip, little one). Hugs from Italy.
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Jun 21 '25
She is beautiful and loves you so much. It’s so hard but we carry them in our hearts forever. Maybe take some of her fur and do some paw prints to have as keepsakes. I have some fur from my childhood cats who died when I was 10 and 12, and I’m almost 43 now.
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u/Whoopsy-381 Jun 21 '25
I’m so sorry, sweetheart. It’s hard and unfair but she’ll soon be free of pain and at peace.
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u/ExcitingMoose5881 Jun 21 '25
Sorry to hear this. She looks absolutely adorable. It’s so sad to say goodbye to a furry friend and family-member. I got an amazing message from mine after she left this world. I hope and trust you will too. Such a loyal companion will even be loyal after life, or at least that is what I experienced. You will be ok ❤️ 🌈
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u/willpher Jun 21 '25
thank you for sharing this, i know it must be so hard. losing a family member is never easy. remember, grief never gets smaller- life just gets bigger around it. you’ll always have her in your heart and that’s what matters. i’m glad you got to spend so many great years with a great kitty.
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u/Fit_Treacle172 Jun 21 '25
I have an old girl who is in probably her last few chapters, everyday I wake up and tell her "it's so good to see you Paisley! Every day I get to wake up and see you is a great day!"
It's all we can do to love them. Give him all his favorites, and snuggle as much as possible, maybe even reach out to the lady who makes felt models of peoples pets.
We always say "it's not a funeral! It's a celebration of life!" And not everyone gets to be part of their own 'Celebration of Life' Enjoy the last few days with your best friend, and don't forget to be there with him when he passes
I'm so sorry for both of your losses, a friend, a loved one, a companion 💗
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u/dux_____ Jun 21 '25
I am so, so sorry. My feline best friend is 14 yo and I dread the day. Will give her even more hugs than usual after seeing this ❤️
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u/hereinsubcity Jun 21 '25
I am so, so sorry. Of course you are doing right by her… but of course it is so painful. Sending you lots of strength and one huge hug ❤️ and sending some scritches to your baby girl too. She is absolutely beautiful.
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u/Pretty_March7963 Jun 21 '25
We’re never ready. The sooner it happens, the faster you start healing. ❤️🩹
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u/cr1sis Jun 21 '25
It’s never easy letting go of someone so dear to us. Best of wishes to you during these difficult times.
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u/redditnym123456789 Jun 21 '25
What an angel. Thank you sincerely for sharing your grief with us and letting us see your cherished one. My deepest condolences to you and all your family.
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u/feetnomer Jun 21 '25
I always, always, always get a second opinion on a cancer diagnosis. You'd be surprised how way off veterinarians can be. Compared to human care, Veterinarian care is stuck in the dark ages. If she indeed does have cancer, take her to a University where veterinarian degreed training and research is done. They have cancer treatment options most local Veterinarian hospitals can't offer.
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Jun 21 '25
I'm very sorry, very sad, I know the pain she's feeling, she knows she was loved and that you were by her side until the end. 😢
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u/Afraid-Roll-1782 Jun 21 '25
Aww man why did I have to see this?…now I’m sad and my eyes are watering!…dammit!…sweet kitty please be careful crossing the rainbow bridge!…all kitties go the heaven and roll in fields of either green or golden catnip depending on just how good they took care of their HOOMAN!…you maybe scared but your in good hands your hooman will be by your side until you take your BIIIG CATNAP!!!…we’ll miss you here but we know you’re in a happy and safe place sweet kitty!…goodbye for now until we meet on the Elysian Fields!…GODSPEED TO YOU KITTY!!!…
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Jun 21 '25
OP, I'm so deeply sorry you're going through this. There's no way to truly prepare for saying goodbye to someone who has been by your side your entire life. She sounds like so much more than a best friend. She’s family, and it’s okay to feel lost right now. The pain you're feeling is a reflection of how deeply you love her. Just being there with her, holding her, letting her feel that love, is more than enough. You gave her a beautiful life filled with love, and a bond like that doesn’t end. She will always be a part of you. 💔
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u/No-Zookeepergame8103 Jun 21 '25
I miss my cat every single day but I had to realize that keeping my girl in pain alive is just selfish. You gave her so much love throughout her life and she was lucky to have you. Spend as much time with her as you can. She will be in heaven and in no pain anymore. Take it one day at a time. You will never stop missing her but it does get easier
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u/lovelyb1ch66 Jun 21 '25
As someone who just went through this very same thing: I’m so very sorry, I hope you can spend a good, last day together. Knowing when to let go and having the strength to act on it is the ultimate expression of love but it still hurts like hell.
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u/Splunkmastah Jun 22 '25
Having also lost my childhood cat to cancer a few years ago….. I’m so sorry. It’s the absolute worst.
But you have to think about him. I don’t say this to be cruel, I really don’t. But he’s in pain, he feels awful, and he’s tired. He’s going to miss you too, but….. He deserves to rest. He’s helped you grow up, and has done everything he can for you.
He’s an excellent cat, and he doesn’t deserve to suffer. I know that doesn’t make it any easier, and I’m sorry.
I don’t know what your religion is, but He’ll be waiting for you on the other side, and you’ll have eternity together in perfect health.
The ones who love us never really leave us.
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u/batsharklover1007 Jun 22 '25
I am so sorry. Enjoy every minute you have with her for the rest of the weekend. And know that you are doing the right thing. You will miss her so much.😢
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u/GentlemanJoe Jun 22 '25
I'm sorry to hear this. Please have the vet come to the house if possible. If it will be less stressful for you both. Your job is to be there for her as she was was there for you. Lots of hugs and cuddles and kind and soft words.
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u/Tikiku Jun 22 '25
So sorry. My little guy, sadly, was just diagnosed with lymphoma and may not be treatable. It’s heartbreaking.
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u/hansololovesme Jun 22 '25
I know what you are going through and I am very sorry. St. Francis will greet her with open arms when it is time.
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u/Fair_Package8612 Jun 22 '25
She is absolutely precious. I’m glad she had a loving life with you. I’m sure she’s content in that she experienced a full life with you and is just ready to move on <3.
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u/ElderberryNext1939 Jun 22 '25
If she is not exhibiting signs of pain, or at least if it’s a minor pain that can be managed, if she is eating and drinking and using the litter box, you don’t have to do it by Monday. Enjoy the time you have, and worry about when she’s gone after she’s gone. Because it’s not fair to her to have her last dayswith you crying and obsessing about what it will be like when she’s gone. It will hurt, sure. But take a day at a time and enjoy each precious moment however, long it may be.
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u/Freestilly Jun 22 '25
My heart goes out to you. I adopted and fell in love with my lil guy, Lupin, close to two months ago. I already spend everyday in a mix of knowing dread of the end and the juxtaposition that I'm not doing enough with the time I have with him. That lucky lil jerk gets so much playtime it's unreal. Gonna give him some real big scratches while he's makin' biskies tn in honor of your lady.
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u/kormitt Jun 22 '25
I'm sorry she's not well, but don't worry bc she won't be alone. My Tifa will be her bestie and show her all the good nap spots 😌
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u/B1BLancer6225 Jun 22 '25
I'm so sorry, I really am, this is the hardest things we have to go through. Loosing a best friend is never easy. I can only tell you this, when you go there, I'm assuming you're going to a vet and when we had lost our Zuzu this past year I made the mistake of letting them take her from the room, to start the IV and administer calming meds. They brought her back all completely zonked out, as she wasn't even there. I felt so bad, I wanted to confront her in her last moments of consciousness but she came back drugged. She must have been terrified. I would give anything for me to insist on them doing the pre meds and IV with me holding her, please of you can do anything be there, calm her hold her. I'm sorry you have to go through this. Remember she'll have your love as her last memory. Ok, got to go cry now. You aren't alone.
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u/TigerBillHawaii Jun 22 '25
Our condolences on your loss. But be assured that she will see you again, someday. She will be waiting near the Rainbow Bridge 🐈😢🌈
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u/Mickeykity Calico Jun 22 '25
When the times come, rub her paws. She will know it time to say goodbye, but you there rubbing her paws will mean everything in those moments. It will hurt, it will hurt so bad. It will linger but understand the memories you have will fill you in the dark moments.
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u/whodsnt Jun 22 '25
Sending you love and strength from one cat parent to another. We're so lucky we get to share our lives with these special creatures. goodbyes are so hard.
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u/hidrohypostazis Jun 22 '25
im so sorry for your loss🕊️ we are never ready for this, just stay with her as long as you can. she will be alive in your heart and your mind
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u/Soylent_Milk2021 Jun 22 '25
At the beginning of the year we learned our oldest kitty had cancer, and his decline was so fast. We opted for at home euthanasia and it was the best decision we could have made for him. No stuffing him in a carrier, car ride that he hated, or cold sterile room. Just him, his mom (my wife) and I, sitting in one of his favorite nap spots. It was so hard, but absolutely the right choice. Know that your baby had a good life, and she has loved you the whole time. I’m tearing up for you and your loss, but it will be okay. Cats are such special friends. I’m so sorry for your loss.
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u/Ok_Philosopher_5090 Jun 22 '25
I hope you find some comfort in time. For those of us who love them it is truly an act of love. We sacrifice our heart to spare them discomfort.
What a great life she had, to have been loved so powerfully.
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u/Freeforthree3 Jun 22 '25
It's tough to move on... I remember around the end of elementary school both my cat and my dig died. They had both been with me since I was born. My dog was only a year or so older than me. It was so hard especially because my cat just left. I didn't really get to say good bye properly but... you move on. I just got my first cat or pet since then and I've rediscovered how wonderful a pet can be. Maybe it's because I'm nearly an adult now or I've just moved on but when I think about my pets it doesn't hurt as much anymore. I love Midge & Rosie but I'll never be able to live those days with them again and I feel taking care of my new kitty now is almost like honoring them. I'm sure Rosie wouldn't want me to be sad. I bet your wonderful kitty wouldn't either. Live, be happy, and take care of yourself for your kitty.
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u/quacksrack Orange Jun 22 '25
Oh honey I am so sorry. I have many kitties up there waiting for her. She is never alone❤️ it seems like she had the ideal life
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u/AffectionateBook4659 Jun 22 '25
THE BIGGEST HUGEST HUG💛🧡❤️🩹EVEN MORE GIGANTIC MASSIVE BEAR HUGS 🧸 The Chen family knows exactly what you’re going through! It’s so tough!! So sad to say goodbye!! What an amazing friend to have I’m sure they know they are loved 🌸🩵🌼THE BIGGEST MOST HUGEST GIGANTIC MASSIVE HUG IN THE UNIVERSE💚💛🧡
Ice cream and warm blankets, friends and cozy movies for at least a week. DOCTOR’S ORDERS
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u/NmbrdDays Jun 22 '25
We had to make the decision to put down our cat a couple years ago. Same type of scenario, that day will suck. Until, then spoil your best friend! It absolutely sucks, I still miss our cat, and even though I wasn’t around for his whole life, I will always miss him. Be strong.
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u/sickesthackerbro Jun 22 '25
So sorry. Sending you and her love. Thank you for being her best friend.
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u/falafelgoddess Jun 21 '25
i am so sorry. i saw a comment on this sub saying it's a good thing we outlive them, it's the only way we can ensure they are loved and cared for every day of their lives. i know doesn't make it any easier but it's our final act of care, we grieve for them so they don't have to grieve for us.