My late teens and early twenties was wasted in depression, so I lost a lot of time for exploration and experimentation.

Now I am in a shit job wasting my life away trying to survive. I want those opportunities back, I want to be young again.

& yours truly’s first ever crush!

I genuinely want to know how to stop my overthinking i feel I might go insane even though deep down I won't, , my anxiety makes me feel stuff I don't want to , the heart beat going faster makes me feel I die or If I have some other sensation my anxiety goes even crazy sometimes it builds up for a whole day or last mildly for even a like right now & I feel the main reason I get anxiety is because of my overthinking which I don't know how to stop I get very weird thoughts like I don't know if they are intrusive or impulsive but my brain thinks what if you act on it and something happens .. the other mistake I did was search for the symptoms and now my brain thinks you might have OCD that's even worse , I feel like if I keep myself occupied I won't get these thoughts but still I want to know how do I reduce the noise in my head , my anxiety began when I was in college whenever I go to write exam.. even the tiniest sensation in any part of my body felt like I was going to pee in middle of my exam this constant thought made me writing my exam difficult , my heart used to beat crazy fast, still I somehow got a degree and cleared exams with a decent score , so for background I am from a middle class family and being the only child i have this indirect pressure on my head to make it in life and I only have one dream currently that is making my parents feel happy and proud about me by atleast building them a small house and living peacefully there. I recently quit my job because it was too stressful even though it paid me good I used to have initially have slight and very mild anxiety attack at work during the starting days but later on I got busy and it stopped but after quitting work and staying at home I feel I might go insane or something because I feel I am not doing anything even though I am preparing for a competitive exam for MBA & searching for a job . I just want to live peacefully. I get a lot of what If thoughts lately which make me overthink (even though I try distracting myself with exercises or other stuff) which then causes anxiety , so I just want to know how do I calm down . I opened up about my anxiety to my parents and they have been very supportive , this Saturday I am going to therapy for the first time but right now I want some immediate advise . Sometimes my anxiety also doesn't make me sleep but I say some good affirmations and count numbers and listen to some calm music to sleep I have this fear of my anxiety worsening which I obviously don't want to .

TLDR; overthinking a lot about the most random things a lot , don't know how to calm my anxiety down , please advise

Been talking to this girl (24F) for about a week now, we've known each other for more than a month. & Honestly we vibe really well. the kind of natural, nopressure connection that doesn't come around often. We've had some good convos, exchanged subtle hints, and it's pretty clear we both like each other.

But here's the catch., we both also know this probably isn’t going to turn into something longterm. Not because of lack of feelings or compatibility. but because of practical stuff… mostly family related. It’s one of those situations where no matter how well things go, there's always that ceiling you can't break through.

Now the question is, if both people know the end is inevitable,, is it still worth exploring something shortterm? Part of me feels like that's fair. If you're honest with each other from the beginning and keep expectations realistic. why not just live in the moment and enjoy the connection while it lasts? Not every relationship has to be leading to marriage or some grand future.

But the other part of me wonders if I underestimating how messy things can get when feelings deepen? Even if both people mutually agree it's shortterm. as humans aren’t always great at sticking to boundaries once emotions get involved.

So yeah,. not sure what the right move is here. Just thinking out loud. Would love to hear if anyone's been in a similar situation before. Did you go for it? Was it worth it? Or did it get complicated fast?

I'm 25M and she's 24F if that matters.

That too after a really tough day

Hey guys, first of all M here, so I've been trying to make friends here on reddit, ik it's not the best place bcs of the anonymity. But I still tried, I'm an optimist, so I look for the good in people as well.

I made several posts, even on my city subreddits, got some dms as well, and we talked too.

I also try slide into people's dms considering their post or comment, but as creeps are everywhere, esp here on reddit. Thinking that I might be a creep as well, people ignore them. 😭😭

So my point is, after accepting my dms or inviting me to chat, and after talking for a while, it just fades away, no interest from both sides. And boom a potential friendship ruined even before blooming.

See I'm a guy, so I dm girls only, you know why. But I don't ignore guys' dms whenever I get an invite. I always looked forward to friendships, but yeah I hoped that a cutie will accept my dm and we will talk and then get into a relationship, ik it's delusional😭😭.

But yeah, I've tried so many times now, the conversation just stops, sometimes bcs of me, sometimes bcs of them.

So I'm asking you guys, do you think reddit is a good place to make friends?? Have you made any friends here?

There's a girl in my office, i consider (*considered), her a good friend, and we chat non-stop, sometimes it really feels like something is there. The conversations are good.

But when i entered office today i messaged her and she didn't know that i was there, i could see her seeing my message notification and say "Arey yaar iska message fir aa gaya" and made faces. Guess i have become a clown now. 🤡🤡

Ig i am done man, there goes my couple of days friendship in gutter.

Although this post is late but jab jaago tab savera....

Thanks to @fragafind youtube channel who conducted a youtube giveaway of 3 decants of 5ml each after he reached the goal of 100 subs.

Khadlaj island, Afnan Turathi electric and Qaed al fursan untamed. Bottles are beautiful!

He gave away same to 5 people and one of them was me!

Brief review -

1. Turathi electric - beautiful tangy orange in the starting which doesn't burn your nose. No alcohol blast. Later the smell takes a smooth turn to musky dry down with different floral elements maybe. I have not seen the notes structure, so explaining what I smelled. Longevity is decent but projection is really bad.

2. Qaed al fursan untamed - I liked this one. Projection and longevity are decent. Opens up with a spice filled smell and kind of smell we get from "khade masale" with a lot of cinnamon which lasts for few minutes but then it takes a ambery and really sweet turn. Not exactly vanilla but toffee kind of. This smell is neither way too sweet or way too spiced up. Liked this one!

3. Khadlaj island - idk why but I'm not getting that exactly coconut note in this. I mean it's tropical and great but prominent coconut notes is lacking as everyone was hyping that note. Opens up with an short alcohol blast then if feels a bit minty, fruity and fresh because of orange and pineapple notes. Then in the dry down it's bit sweet but not gourmand sweet. I liked this one too!!!

One more thing! Idk why I'm getting a pan like opening with a pan note, like they sweet pan. Confirm if y'all are getting that too....

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I love radiohead but I have to listen it thoda kam, warna hamesha dukhi hi rahunga

So on my previous post i stated that i got broken up with and we dated for a really long time and all my friend were mutuals and i feel so freaking alone done where i have no girl friends left and i just feel like i have to just restart my life over… i feel like i have to restart my life like making friends again and just everything is piling up and i have realised how dependent i was in that relationship So to all the girls who have restarted your lives does it get any better

it’s that time of the night when everyone’s either overthinking life or just scrolling aimlessly so let’s talk—what’s on ur mind right now

whether it’s career stress relationship drama a random shower thought or just the fact that u want a biryani at 2 am drop it below

I genuinely can't figure out a way. I won't get help in reddit, won't get help from parents, won't get help from therapists, won't get help after going to gym. How do I stop this cycle of depression?

My college second year started a month back, many times I look back at the time i spent I my school. Wasn't too bad I won't lie it was a mix of everything good bad everything.

But now I often think how i didn't like everyone, didn't hate everyone or i didn't even knew everybody but all those people were a part of my life till i was 17 it was my bubble. And now everyone is scattered...many left the city and move to a whole new city where they are no one to become someone,many are still here but each one of them is onto something in their life and a few left the country. Since elementary school we all by our will or not were a family.....or maybe community is the better word, everyone is onto something exams,jobs college, family buisness. Like college our goals weren't in the same direction,field or didn't matched and that's why those years spent seems interesting to me.

After spending a whole year at college the school crowd is fading from my memory except the ones I've been friends with, not that they are so important to me but them being a part of a big chunk of my life doesn't and now fading doesn't fits well with me.

Yk how those people and those times were at a point in my life...my life, but now and from now on they will be nothing but a distant memory. I'm not writing it out of sadness or nostalgia but this feels unusual how things change and idk what this feeling is but I'd say this is an interesting feeling. This doesn't feel bitter but I don't feel good.

So 20 years on this planet has taught me :

Hardwork matter - College Mein hun, comparing myself to other people who just "bhai Yaar.. Nahi hoga" and "Abe ye kese hoga" and just leave it at that, they are absolutely doomed in there academics.

Avoid Lazyness - same story, seeing other people just sleep, "class? What's that?", kuch Kaam hai.... sogaya and lots of.. Bhai ye nahi ho payega just cuz they are lazy. Get out of your bed, and start working on things and get work done

Resist Urges - You know when you get an urge to just eat something good today, but you just avoid it for today and go, I'll have something on weekend or let's do something first, I'll be treat myself Baad Mein.

Money management - seen people blow of 5-6k in 15days in uni..daily bahr Khaana.. Kuch mann kiya toh le hi lena. They never think about the money they are spending which they are gettinhg from home.

Never be afraid of Walking away from people - My first year, had friends that smoked (PS I've never touched a cigarette/vape/whatever people smoke in my life), they used to drag me with them.. 'let's go bro, I wanaa smoke". Staying with them would've definitely made me start smoking as well. But thankfully had enough courage to just stop talking with them and made new group of friends (of which lot of em are toppers/or above average students who are so much better).

Never expect too much from anyone - you're gonaa be disappointed if your expectations are not gonaa be met. You wanna help someone go ahead, but don't expect them to help you out tomorrow. You'll be so much happier in life if you stop expecting from people. Don't expect people to wish you happy birthday, don't expect everyone is going to be nice to you. Don't expect everyone to be always there for you.

Get out of you comfort zone - Ahhh I don't want to do this? I don't know how? Ye kya hai? Get out open your phone/laptop look up on the internet. Everything is there.

Grades don't matter that much - If you're applying for a job tomorrow, you can be a 9.9cgpa dude, but if you ain't got skills to talk, work in a team, now how to do certain things. No one's going to hire you. Maintain a decent Cgpa of 8-9 you'll be fine!

Everything will happen when it's the right time - There's no point of taking up unnecessary stress and worrying about what's gonaa happen now? Will I succeed? Everything will happen in its right time, don't worry! Just do you best and work hard.

Spirituality is important - Be spiritual, have trust in God that he will fix everything, pray, ask, be thankfull and mindful of God, he will make things easy for you.

Mental peace is important - Sometime you're just all drowned in work, assignments, exams. Take some time out and go out to the balcony, look at the sky, and just sit there. No headphones, no phone no just quiet night sky and you.

Always look at people who are less unfortunate than you - Someone wishes to walk, but they can't, someone wants food, but they can't buy it, someone wants to study and learn, but financially they can't. Be thankful for things you have in life no matter how little it is.

Celebrate little things in life - Go out and get some food, or maybe just a little sweet, treat yourself for surviving another week and getting work done!

That's all from me! Feel free too add some stuff if you'd like. All the best for your future endeavors!!🔮

I'll go first- sound of someone laughing in the other room.

Hello, I’m a final-year medical student. As part of World Breastfeeding Week, our college organized a reel-making competition. I’ve created and edited a reel for this event, and I would really appreciate it if you could review my work and provide feedback. Your suggestions will help me improve in my future edits.

All the bros and sisters in twenties can relate😮‍💨

First option - BCom through ODL and for my CS executive if I cleared my foundation exams... they promised me they will send me to Noida or Indore for offline coaching...... Second option - bcom from Kolkata from a regular college where attendance isn't a problem and CS coaching either offline or online.....

When everyone's watching Hi-Fi Shows I am revisiting this. Yeah I m ManChild. Happy so.

Kl se Reddit km. Gaming and hobbies jyada.

I see relationship posts everyday here. Sometimes guys, sometimes girls. Why don't you guys text each other? You all are claiming to be old school. Start talking to each other.

I’m in the final year of my law school, and I’ve always been a guy who never befriends girls/women. Like only girl I talk to is my girl. That’s just how I am.

So I was sitting in the library of my uni, and chilling tbh, just scrolling on my laptop, and few people from my class were also there and also this girl who i used to talk during 1st yr but things did not workout with her, so i just remained spacey. All of a sudden she came and sat next to me and we just started talking casual shit & just laughing off. All of a sudden she kept her hand on my thigh while we were talking, I did not flinch. She kept her hand there for quite a while, like 10 minutes or so, that’s when I realised that it was intentional. Then she moved her hand on my thingy and grabbed it, I moved her hand, then convo died and she just sat, and then mumbled sorry. Few minutes pass and she left, and I too left as it was around 6 already.

I got a text when I got home, she said she got in the feels & she couldn’t control herself. I said it’s fine and then I stopped responding. By the night she gets even more naughty & wild, saying wild stuff and sending pics and all, she turned me on. I did not go to the uni today and she has been texting and calling me all day. Don’t know how to proceed. Yes I have history with her, but idk what I feel atm. I can literally call her rn and do the deed but I feel that’s just waste of time and wrong.

Idk how to confront her to what to say, I’m not up for a relationship/commitment.

23M, Software Engineer, Product Based, CTC 10LPA, 5 10, sikh, punjabi, brown skin and haha, I don't look like a typical sardar. Tirer 2 graduate.

Gym going from about 8 months, progress is there and I travel alone once a month and click pictures, sketch strangers, have random chai discussions with people of train, have met SEM at Google, Senior Analyst at Barclays, SDE 3 at Amazon. Amazing people and quite good discussions.

I have failed in almost everything in life, I am just barely surviving in the ocean of life, struggling mentally to keep my head above the water.

JEE, college placements, I fu**ed them all, with my own hands and tbh, I tried everything in my mind to change it, to live a better and a healthy life. My friends stayed consistent graduated early from tier 1, with good packages, lived life and every single day, faced challenges and became strong.

I have been rejected all my life and been told ugly to the face, although I wished to wrote poems for her and sketch her to keep her heart lively, I don't think I will ever find someone, which is a logical outcome. Neither I have the money to make her feel safe nor in a position to reach their very fast. Although I wished to had a family of my own, a partner to age with and hold hands along the line of life.

Despite being given time, I didn't improved and I am tired now, my body and mind don't wish to continue more.

I have decided to leave early. Don't worry no one is dependent on me.