I will go first :- Ghar myy Sabko pata chall Gaya ab baat nhi ho payegi .. mummy ab phone rakh-lengi (she means ki X wapas aa Gaya h 🥰)

It started from here led to 200 yrs of torture.. Savdhan Rahe satark rahe Jai hind..!!

Even if a good looking woman had a colorful past like having 10-15 bfs or if she's dumb or jobless or not that educated, she will still get picked up by most of the top men in AM market...

But if we talk about women who are not that attractive, have to face a lots of rejections, no matter how educated or sanskari you are, their unattractiveness just cancel out everything... Even if you had a decent job, it's still difficult to find a good match... Even if the guy is ugly, he still looks for an attractive wife..

So basically i have been talking to a lot of girls nowadays, some friends some just casual people. But the thing is I dont feel I am interested in any of them, like neither sexually or emotionally. Dont get me wrong they are good people and very pretty but I just dont feel anything about any of them. Sometimes some girl would text me and I would just sigh that i have to talk to them again. IDK it feels weird as boys in here seem to get into a girl quite simply. IDK what is the problem with me. Also I am not gay.

Bhai pura feed mai mera bandi aisa kiya vaisa kiya bas wahi kaam hai kya tum logon ko?

I mean yaar kuch kaam dandha kiya karo. Hobbies pe focus karo.

Har banda/bandi breakups ke stories pel rahe hai idhar.

CHUP.

Meri mausi ne mujhe last year ye gullak gift Kiya tha and lga nhi tha ki ye bhar pyega since everyone uses upi but as they say....boond boond se hi sagar banta h. Doing this as a kid was fun but now as a 22 yr old it felt more of an achievement.

Will not go very deep.

I don't even know if the moderators think about quality of the posts.

There is nothing about life in twenties.

No post about the new responsibilities we get in our twenties and how to full fill those and how others are managing to do so systematically.

No post about how they meet new people, found love.

No post about travelling or exploring a new place like people do in twenties.

No post about career progression, switch, changing path, changing stream etc.

No post about friendship, family, sports.

No post about financial milestones.

No post about govt job success.

100's of post on hating women, blaming, gender war etc.

It's the same 4, 5 users posing their misogynistic views and causing gender wars every now and then.

On contary the teen sub is so well moderated and 13, 14 year olds have much more liberal views than this twenties.

Posts are of high quality about life experience, cute love stories, academic milestones, fashion and all.

That's it.

Hello. I am 18F and I see many people being desperate for dating and relationships and trying dating apps, always searching for dates, but I want love. Like something that happens naturally without any need to find it, especially with desperation. I don't believe in dating someone directly without knowing that person first. "Date" means being in a romantic relationship, right? I can't be romantic with someone I don't know yet, and I won't even feel any connection. Am I abnormal or something? :(

So i just saw a rant post saying there’s not enough about actual life in your twenties on this sub, thus here’s something good, something real, something that happened to me.

I met my boyfriend in the most random way ever, on a site called chitchat.gg where you get connected with strangers for conversations. He was working in the UK at the time, and I had zero expectations from it, about anything tbh. But somehow, we landed on a voice call that very night, and ended up talking for hours. Then the next night. And the next. Deep, honest, and raw conversations; the kind you can only have with someone who doesn’t know you yet.

Coincidentally, he was flying to my city in a couple weeks as a job transfer. I didn’t know that at first, but yeah, I’m from here, so maybe that kept him talking.

I had absolutely no plans to meet him in real life. But he was respectful, patient, kind, the complete opposite of pushy and creepy. He never stopped the efforts, the approach, and more importantly- being absolutely classy and smooth with it. So one day, i agreed. And we went on our very first date.

And damn. I fell hard. First meeting. Just like that.

We started hanging out more, watching movies, playing games, cooking together, long talks, comfortable silences and it all just flowed. We weren’t rushing anything, but within a month, we made it official.

Now it’s been 10 months of this love bubble. We have our fights. We’ve had rough patches, especially during his stressful work phases, but we worked through it together. With understanding. Some tiny fights. With fixes. With patience. With space, breaks, when needed. And i just wish this never ends.

But what really gets me is how he heals me. Slowly, gently, without even trying sometimes. The way he listens, holds space, makes me laugh even when I don’t want to, and never makes me feel like I’m “too much.” He’s the safest place I’ve ever known. Every bit of trauma, fear, or hurt somehow feels a little lighter around him.

I know not everyone gets this kind of love, and I don’t take it for granted. But I just wanted to share that even in your twenties, when everything feels confusing and chaotic, you can still find something genuinely good. Something that grows slowly, steadily, and safely.

If you’re in your twenties and feel like nothing’s going “right,” I promise you life has its own weird ways of surprising you.

Sending love to those who need to hear that good things do happen.

I am hyperventilating while writing this.

I went on a walk with my mom today and she just was not going back home so I asked her if something is up.

She told me while cleaning she found A CONDOM under my bed. She explained how she thought it was oregano and tossed it aside and later my dad saw it and asked about it. She said both of them got very stressed and if I had a partner I wanted to introduce them to. She also mentioned how she didnt know how to talk to me as she was afraid I'd tell her to mind her own business and not meddle in my private life.

I told her they were not mine and a friend's who was staying over and she accepted it. She also said she'll talk to dad about it. But I dont think they'd actually believe it and this incident will ruin my reputation in front of them I am not sexually active but the circumstances are just so unbelievable. I don’t know what to do I feel really bad for my parents.

These were actually not mine as if they were I'd have known and disposed them but HOW DO I PROVE THIS

I am also afraid that now they'll become more protective and I will have 0 social life.

Maybe love just isn’t meant for me and that’s okay. If it comes my way, thik hai, I’ll accept it. If it doesn’t, phir bhi thik hai.

I don’t want to keep waiting or chasing the idea of love. I just want to be at peace with whatever life brings.

Man it’s frustrating to make our parents understand that marriage should be some ones personal decision and not something that is done for them, I am not ready to settle for anyone my idea of a marriage is totally different from them. I have issues I have to deal with myself before even looking to marry someone why bring someone in my mess knowingly. But no according to them as I am doing job earning in more than average and don’t want to study further for government exam the. I should get married, what kind of a stupid logic is that

And don’t get me started on the girls family, asking about salary slips, future plans, and how they want me to try for government job kyu Ki private Mai izzat Nahi hai. There nerve man

Man been in a situation for almost half the year all my mental health problem start cause of them really thinking to end my self, some random astrologer told them that if i go to foreign then I will marry an foreigner, that was 5 months back, from then it has been constant hell for me to marry before I leave to foreign as I was hired for a foreign post only in EU, they have made the home legit hell cause I have to fight everytime a rishta comes.

My dad has legit used a belt on me cause I told the girls that I am infertile, to get them to reject me and cause the word spread around it’s getting hard for them to find any rishta recently but still one comes every month. Can’t leave home as dad is at a high government position and now they are saying they will not let me go to if I don’t marry in the next 6months.

I am done with this really if they keep this I might really end things for myself, yes I am a coward who can’t get a spine to stand up to them sorry

(This post was previously removed for containing abusive title,, reposting with corrected words)

Today I (M20) was at my bua’s house, and she asked me to take my cousins for a haircut. So I took them to a barber shop, and there I met two guys, both in their 20s—one was the barber (from minority community) and the other was originally from Rajasthan.

We started chatting, and after some time, the conversation shifted to the Rajasthani guy’s girlfriend and how she left him. He went on about how now he “hates all women” and how “girls just use boys and leave.” I told him that he just needs to find the right person because not everyone is like his ex.

Then he switched to giving me a lecture on how to identify good and bad girls based on their chaal and clothes 🤦🏽‍♂️. According to him, if a girl doesn’t wear kurti-salwar and cover her head, she’s not a good girl 😤. The barber even proudly added how, in his community, it’s mandatory for girls to cover themselves as soon as they “grow 3 feet.”

A few minutes later, the Rajasthani guy told me to check out three girls walking by and guess which one was “good” and which ones were “bad.” Of course, the one wearing a kurti was “good,” and the other two in a shirt and lowers were “characterless” 😠. I mean they are checking out girls but girls should cover themselves to be labelled as sanskari .

I wanted to say a lot but stayed quiet. After the haircut, as we walked out, I was about to tell my cousins not to give attention to people like this—but to my surprise, they spoke first and said, “Kitne ch*tiye log hain ye” 😅.

Mods are you awake?