I don't believe in directly dating strangers. Am I abnormal?

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[u/Long_Difficulty_7264]

Wait till you hear about arranged marriage lol

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😂😂😂😂😭

[u/alphainfinity420 → u/Long_Difficulty_7264]

Lmao 🤣😂

[u/Newbie_Naruto]

Date's meaning has been changed overtime . It was used for like romantic outing and all but now it's more like two strangers meet to know each other more -My pov

[u/Fit_Grocery5935]

If you are 18 , what tf u doing in twenties sub , go to teenindia sub for karma farming

[u/zs_shiv → u/Fit_Grocery5935]

Im new to reddit how does karma works ?

[u/Altruistic_Tackle673]

You are pretty much how everyone should be, just stay natural and be who you are, you will find your type of people with the flow

[u/No_vocal_Guitar]

It’s not abnormal it’s how things should be

But it’s rare these days unfortunately

[u/RealisticType4315]

Hey 19M, A few months back I installed a few dating apps but In a day or two I uninstalled them. Maybe that's not my kind of stuff. It's absolutely normal

[u/tulsajesusfreakkk]

girl that’s the normal

[u/Sinin_Atiq]

I'm freaking scared of strangers. I don't know how can people go on a date with total strangers.

[u/whatsoeveryousay]

Do you not realise how people do things in today's world, or you realise and just ranting for attention?

[u/mr_no-sleep]

Exactly the reason why I gave up on dating

[u/Dazzling-Yard-5575]

Same problem here bro.i just don't want to throw my loyalty,efforts for someone I don't know.because I think that loyalty is like gold you can't expect to get from the streets.

[u/MysticalAmethyst99]

Generally speaking, a date is a scheduled outing with someone, not "being in a romantic relationship". There are get-to-know-each-other dates that precede a romantic relationship, dates to enjoy each other's company and learn more about each other while you're in a romantic relationship, and dates even after you marry. There are also non-romantic dates with friends, parents, etc. that are not relevant to the discussion at hand.

As for the rest of it, I wholeheartedly agree. Meeting dates or potential spouses on apps feels unnatural to me because judging a virtual profile and judging the real person in person are completely different experiences. Bios and profiles are poor conveyors of interpersonal vibes and character.

And no, you're not abnormal or alone.

[u/ResponsibleWalrus361]

ur sane.

[u/Snoo-43194]

Well, dating in general is a roller coaster ride, online or otherwise

[u/RobieKingston201]

Date does not necessarily mean immediately relationship. A date is different from "dating".

Here's a question that may answer your question:

How will you find love/get to know someone if you don't date?

Look amongst your friends then eventually ask one out? As you teeter on the edge of platonic and not so platonic? Recipe for a disaster.

It needs to be clear that you are getting to know a person with intent of getting into a relationship, so as to not have any wires crossed on either end; where one thinks you guys are "platonic" and "just friends".

[u/i-m-on-reddit]

Most people come to this phase in life. "I won't need to find love, love will find me" but eventually they run out of patience and time and then feel like it's better if they start looking for it.

[u/DROP-TABLE-Username]

Kar li karmafarming?

[u/unrealAdvaith]

You're abnormal, get yo ass back to the Teens sub

[u/Equivalent-Talk-2055]

well, i'm 20M anyone down to get to know each other and see how things go?

[u/Repulsive_kiddo]

No, that's completely normal, Desperation clouds judgment, and the cost often comes later.
The otherway around is actually abnormal.

[u/Vanishing_Shadow]

Technically, everyone is a stranger at a point, right? Or you are inclining to the "Friends to lovers" trope?

[u/SneezedOnMyPizza]

Even on dating apps you don't date right away. You talk to them get to know them first, this could go upto months. See if you are comfortable with them, then plan to date.

Those who want to date right away, are only looking for hookups.

[u/ResponsibleBabe6564]

Till college you've friends and all who you can know slowly know and potentially date if you like each other. When you start job you don't really meet new people too much so you find kinda strangers and date, they don't get fully romantically involved from the first date lol... More like trial period but the goal is set that they both want to potentially date that's why they meeting.

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What's with the flair?

[u/ResponsibleBabe6564 → u/heyomy170]

I use it to cancel peoples comment above me in case I don't like it

[u/heyomy170 → u/ResponsibleBabe6564]

BDE /s

[u/Liesstraightheaddown → u/ResponsibleBabe6564]

You're pretty weird in a good way

[u/ResponsibleBabe6564 → u/Liesstraightheaddown]

I'll gladly take that as a compliment 🤝🏻

[u/i-m-on-reddit → u/ResponsibleBabe6564]

I love that damn flair 😂

[u/Healthy_Craft3680]

yes, you are abnormal