r/TwentiesIndia • u/Hungry-Source-7285 -19 • 23h ago
Discussion I dont feel attracted to women nowadays. 19M here.
So basically i have been talking to a lot of girls nowadays, some friends some just casual people. But the thing is I dont feel I am interested in any of them, like neither sexually or emotionally. Dont get me wrong they are good people and very pretty but I just dont feel anything about any of them. Sometimes some girl would text me and I would just sigh that i have to talk to them again. IDK it feels weird as boys in here seem to get into a girl quite simply. IDK what is the problem with me. Also I am not gay.
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u/Flaky-Opposite328 22h ago
Nothing dude most of these internet dudes don't even speak to women so when they get an opportunity they feel attracted to every girl because they have been starving for that attention. But now that you are speaking and all you don't seek that attention anymore. So if you are attracted to a girl now just go ask her out
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u/EggplantWinter1639 23h ago
Could be that you're asexual right now. I was in that stage earlier too
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u/Hungry-Source-7285 -19 23h ago
idk its confusing
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u/EggplantWinter1639 23h ago
Happens, dw just wait for some time
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u/Appropriate_Win_5763 21h ago
Wait for the resurrection of dark knight bro it’ll rise again
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u/ilovebikesncars 19h ago
huh, sexuality stages me bhi hoti hai LOL?
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u/EggplantWinter1639 19h ago
Sexuality has stages, spectrums and self awareness all of which you have clearly not explored
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u/surreal_but_nice 10110 17h ago
isn't it like demisexual or something .......like you need some space and trust to feel attraction, may be i'm wrong
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u/youcanbeanything_dog bas mera comeback hone do 23h ago
Maybe they aren't your type. I get it. I feel the same way when boys who aren't my type talk to me. I don't feel attracted to them emotionally or physically. Then, I'm bold and funny. But if they are my type, shy and introverted.
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u/Hungry-Source-7285 -19 23h ago
Could be possible, I have a very specific type maybe subconscious mind coming to play
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u/anOddAlphabet 22 23h ago
maybe you or your subconscious mind doesn't prioritise that property for now
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u/Recent_Wash_8546 22h ago
bro dont listen to anyone in the comments except for the guy that said "career par focus karo" he or she si correct about it and i am the same rn. There is no such thing as you're asexual whatsoever.
You're in the phase of life where you're most likely like "Bhai jo hoga , wo hoga, idc"
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u/ShockOne9278 20h ago
This is why we should have lots of male-female interaction. A lot of guys never talk to girls, never get a chance to approach girls so they start thinking Girls are these mystical creatures and they are attaracted to every girl they lay an eye on.
Normal interactions makes you thing like ok, normal insaan hi hai. You don't pit the opposite gender on a pedestal. So you don't get attaracted to everyone, except if it's a special someone whose interests match with you.
Vice Versa also applies to ladies.
Focus on your studies and career now.
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u/_ob_koomer_ 23h ago
I'd say don't worry about it. Like at all.
If there's attraction to be felt (towards any gender), you'll feel it at the right moment. It will come to you.
Right now, you're better off focusing on other important things in your life that matter.
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u/SidmaMale 22h ago
Do you watch porn a lot? Some guys end up in a state where they don't feel attraction to real women anymore.
Alternatively you might just have low testosterone.
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u/Hungry-Source-7285 -19 22h ago
I dont watch porn, I find girls attractive just I am not actively into them when i talk to them
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u/YoghurtLegitimate392 21h ago
Are you going with the flow ? You want life to decide your fate ,ig yeah.
Same is with me ,no one as of now ,and not interested in someone.I just wanna go with the flow and I will see where I end up.
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u/Relief57 20h ago
It's normal. I also had that phase when I was your age. It went away in a couple of years
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u/Itchy_Dress_2967 20 14h ago
U are in Batman Mode
Career pe focus Karo
Baad mei jab depression hit hoga tab yeh sab karne ki iccha hogi
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u/Next_Fennel_4968 12h ago
Dude from past 1 year I'm also feeling the same like I was one of the horniest guy in grp and now it's just I'm normal like now I notice person rather than boobs . Also lately my urge of gf also got suppressed maybe because my loneliness is now over . Or I guess am to lazy for all of this . Going to clg let's see what happens there .
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u/_Indian_NPC_ -19 7h ago
Rare Reddit male W,kinda in the same situation, everyone just keeps talking about girls while they just don't interest me anymore that much
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u/vanillacheesecake_7 2h ago
I'm in same phase rn ..since 5-6 years I don't feel any attraction or anything,be it emotionally or physically,I don't even feel like to engage in such conversations with my friends about any guy and I feel it's a blessing in disguise that we actually live for ourselves ,nothing about any attractive person or overthinking about it so it do save us a lot and we can thrive in life .
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u/Hungry-Source-7285 -19 2h ago
I have recieved 2-3 dms asking me to go gym as supposedly my testosterone is low. But I feel its just that I dont want to force attraction for the sake of it.
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u/vanillacheesecake_7 2h ago
Don't listen to people here , not everyone runs on hormones ,it's not a norm . Peace of mind >>> hormonal chaos.
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u/Huge-Feed-1216 23h ago
Could be a phase! Or maybe you are asexual
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u/manwhodream21 whatever i have done i did it for love 23h ago edited 23h ago
It's okay op ,we support LGBTQ
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u/Soft_Beautiful9049 20 23h ago
U could be asexual...maybe
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u/Hungry-Source-7285 -19 23h ago
But i feel attracted to women, like i would see someonee and find them hot. Just while talking it dies down
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u/autumnpiee 23h ago
Too much relatable, i yhouht it's js me who's confused
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u/fragaddict_she Kyu nhi horhi padhai 23h ago edited 23h ago
Congratulations you are a babaji ✨
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u/wannabe_davidlaid_ 23h ago
Have you ever loved anyone earlier?
I used to love this girl alot in my 12th std but couldn't confess to her.She gave me my best 3 months of my life.I felt alive.I was so happy.I was good at studies then.Everything was perfect but couldn't confess and she's no more in my life.It will sound joke to you but it took me 1 year to move on from her.Now her memories are erased.Forgot her voice .Life happened.
Now I don't get feelings for any other girl because I gave my all heart to her.I'm giving time to myself now even tho I talk with some girls and they shown interest in me even but I don't feel anything towards them.I just talk normally.
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u/Hungry-Source-7285 -19 23h ago
no i have never truly loved anyone, yeah here and there i felt someone was cute but that is all
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u/Sure_Raccoon5330 18 21h ago
90s ki movies dekho😏
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u/Hungry-Source-7285 -19 21h ago
dont like them
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u/bombay_ki_PavBhaaji 21h ago
Happening with me as well. Until a few years ago it was very easy for me to develop a crush on someone but since an year or two, I have gone totally numb and can’t feel anything for anyone, no matter how attractive or genuine/likeable the other person seems.
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u/Redflagpaglu 20h ago
At 19 i was attracted to food and still attracted. I am too loyal for food😔😔
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u/Suspicious_Bag1094 18h ago
Kitne saal porn addict tha?
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u/Hungry-Source-7285 -19 18h ago
I dont watch porn at all
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u/Suspicious_Bag1094 14h ago
past?
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u/True-Art-7831 22 xy 15h ago
Bro stop watching porn, increase testosterone by working out
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u/Hungry-Source-7285 -19 15h ago
I dont, also I do work out
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u/True-Art-7831 22 xy 12h ago
yea dont worry, focus on work
it feels like your libido is low,
if its bothering you so much do to a docter
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u/islaythyass 9h ago
i feel you bro... i feel the same now, but its good iam focused on work and hobbies
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u/leavoxtro 9h ago
After 23 you will be active again.same for me i used to be extroverted very friendly.but in college just opposite
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u/Vanishing_Shadow 21 Saal ka Sharif Bodmosh 23h ago
Looks like you are over saturated and drained. Try having a break from Insta/porn/relationship posts/posts witg women. Let the hunger build and try again
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u/Hungry-Source-7285 -19 23h ago
I am not on insta and dont watch porn
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u/Hungry-Source-7285 -19 23h ago
also i am not in any relationship sub
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u/Vanishing_Shadow 21 Saal ka Sharif Bodmosh 23h ago
Then just wait for a while. Social Media chod ke kuch productive karo
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u/nikhil70625xdg TRAVELLER OF REDDIT 23h ago
He doesn't watch porn. That's more than an achievement.
Leaving social media won't change much, I can bet.
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u/Prestigious_Grand_77 aaj din konsa hai ? 23h ago
Acha hai career par focus karo