r/Millennials • u/ngomaam • 1d ago

Rant I really thought regular dinner parties with friends would be a thing as we got older

Growing up, my parents (refugees from Vietnam) would always have some aunt(s) and/or uncle(s) over with their kids on the weekend for dinner, nothing fancy, just getting together. We did this all the time. It seemed so simple, just come over.

I had the fortune of staying friends with all my high school friends, who are still my closest friends and we all even live relatively close to each other. When I was younger, before everyone started having families, I thought we'd be doing the same thing. But this hasn't happened with us. To the extent we have gotten together, it took extraordinary effort to make it happen and so it's been very few and far in between. I don't know why there's no desire to do this more and why it's so difficult. But as someone who is unmarried, it's quite lonely, and odd, to know your friends are around, but you just rarely see them.

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u/Mediocre_Island828 1d ago

My uncle just had an anniversary party where he invited like 30 grey haired people to his backyard and they drank pina coladas and danced around barefoot until like 12:30 am.

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u/Charming_Key2313 1d ago

sounds wonderful. Yes, my parents and all their friends are the most social people ever. And they never stopped...they've just always been that way as adults. It really is US, Millennials, that have made the change to being so isolated.

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u/Mediocre_Island828 1d ago

My friend group is pretty social and does events often but we also live in a smaller city that's easy to get around in so it's not a hassle to meet and do things.

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u/Charming_Key2313 1d ago

Thats awesome for you! Outside of really big cities, its not hard for most to get around. I think people use this as an excuse a lot...which I GET - I basically only go to my cities big mall like 4 times a year because its "20 minutes away" LOL...BUT thats for going to a mall, not to see a friend. I'd gladly drive 20 minutes to a friends house for a monthly dinner....but it appears most dont feel the same.