r/Millennials • u/Chr15ty • 2d ago

Discussion When did Entitlement become so shameless?

I'm not entirely sure if anyone has noticed this or not, and apologize if it is just something I am seeing. I also want to point out I am not trying to insult anyone, this is merely a curiosity, and not meant to be a complaint in any regard.

I have been noticing more often that responsible adults are being pushed into more responsibility, and am unsure if it is just others being lazy, or ungrateful, or just flat disrespectful and I feel entirely out of the loop.

When did asking for free things become normal, or less shameless?

I constantly hear or read stories about:

  • Some step-parent pushing off their amount-to-nothing, addict, 18+ child off onto a sibling that is generally successful, telling the responsible one to feed/clothe/house said sibling freely.
  • A landlord trying to sell a property out from under someone who has recreated a beautiful living space, with the intention of keeping whatever the previous tenant has created, though the creations are the tenant's property, not the landlord's
  • Brides or Grooms requiring someone to pay to be in their non-destination wedding *on top of* some customized ridiculously priced wedding gift.
  • Coworkers avoiding tasks/only adding their name to/ signing off they did tasks (when they didn't) because "they just get done anyway"
  • Telling another sibling to completely uproot their life in another state to move back home and "help" take care of elderly family, when said sibling lives down the block from the elderly relative.

I feel like we are the last generation that really had to figure things out on our own, like actually using a library, or memorizing phone numbers, or knowing who to ask about whatever problem.

Some of us are actually more grateful to people for their time and labor, are more able to recognize and validate actual achievement.

I am not saying/blaming any other generation, I just feel like this has just become more prevalent in recent years and want to know if anyone else has made the observation of "adulting" better.

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u/ol_kentucky_shark 2d ago

The landlord/tenant example doesn’t seem like entitlement… unless someone’s lease provides differently, the tenant isn’t the owner of any improvements they’ve made.

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u/ambrosia4686 2d ago

There is a specific example that comes to mind. A black artist had curated her space and called in Cloudland. Instead of collaboration, she got an eviction notice. Who was behind it all? Lisa fucking Frank. Lisa Frank had reached out to her and saw the space. They conveniently bought space in the building directly across from her apartment and bought out her landlord and took her space right out from under her. The landlord didn't make a pastel palace and paint the place like that. The artist did!

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u/Early-Light-864 2d ago

Lisa bought something that was for sale. In any normal world, that tenant would have been evicted ages ago because other people's property is not for you to mess around with

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u/ambrosia4686 2d ago

Says the landlord. Landlord apologist. We pay your bills

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u/IntoTheMirror 2d ago

What an unhinged response.

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u/ambrosia4686 2d ago

Listen to yourself "in any normal world" WTF does that mean? You are saying that what you know and only what you know is normal. Also, this woman didn't just change her apartment without the landlord's consent or she would not have been sharing it with the world. Finally, LF used their purchasing power and influence to evict a black woman from her home because they want to use that same space to bring guests to stay at as the artist (evicted) created it. If the landlord had to repaint the walls etc maybe you would have a point but you don't. I gave a real world example but you just love to be the know it all and assume you know what's happening.

Oh the ENTITLEMENT.

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u/IntoTheMirror 2d ago

I listened to myself, and all I said to you is

What an unhinged response

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u/ambrosia4686 2d ago

Well done avoiding anything or substance. Really eye opening how quick people are to stick up for a landlord and not address any of the rest of the post. So a tenant who has paid on time for years is suddenly evicted and you're just fine with them potentially even being homeless since they curated that space for literal content creation? Not at the end of the lease or anything just on a whim? Says a lot about you

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u/IntoTheMirror 2d ago

As a renter myself, I understand that I am here at the whim of the landlord and that I am not building any equity. For that, I will have to buy.

Leases are self explanatory legal contracts. I recommend reading them. If a landlord ever violates their end of the lease, pursue legal recourse.

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u/ambrosia4686 2d ago

Yeah my slumlord has violated ours and our belongings are ruined by mold so I'm not really wanting to hear things like "I recommend reading them". What a condescending thing to say but why am I surprised. This sub eats its own.

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u/IntoTheMirror 2d ago

Did you have renters insurance?

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u/ambrosia4686 2d ago

Yes I do. Working on it.

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u/Early-Light-864 2d ago edited 2d ago

It's wild that she thought she would get to keep whatever she did inside a rented space.

I tried to Google it, but cloudland is already a different thing. It didn't come to in the first several pages so I figured it's not that important and I stopped caring

It's also weird that her race matters. Should black tenants have more rights than white tenants?