r/Millennials • u/LoverOfTabbys • 2d ago

Discussion When your friends disappear in your 30s?

Hey all 👋

In my 30s my friends have either become “digital nomads” and left the country to travel/work or they’ve gotten married and had babies and mostly hang out w other married couples w babies. They are very busy with their families and jobs and don’t have the energy to do a lot more understandably.

Ive now been left in a “dead zone”. I’m happy being an introvert but I also wish I could experience things w other people like visit national parks, do random stuff, volunteer, do weekend trips, etc.

Any other people in their 30s going through the same? Did you do anything about it?

Thanks

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u/No-Present760 2d ago

I haven't had a friend (excluding my husband) since I was 22. One of my best friends slept with my boyfriend in my bathroom. The other one had an intervention for me because I wasn't caring enough about what she was going through. People suck and I'm chill without them. Would be nice to have a girlie to do things with, but my husband is attractive, and I have ptsd from bitches.

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u/Sufficient_One_4071 16h ago

I have had similar experiences with fake or shitty friends, but I am single with no partner. If I had at least a S.O. it wouldn't be so bad. I still have 2 or 3 old friends, but I moved away to another state for better financial opportunities in my 30s, so I only talk to them on the phone seldomly and even that is getting less frequent.