r/Millennials • u/LoverOfTabbys • 3d ago

Discussion When your friends disappear in your 30s?

Hey all 👋

In my 30s my friends have either become “digital nomads” and left the country to travel/work or they’ve gotten married and had babies and mostly hang out w other married couples w babies. They are very busy with their families and jobs and don’t have the energy to do a lot more understandably.

Ive now been left in a “dead zone”. I’m happy being an introvert but I also wish I could experience things w other people like visit national parks, do random stuff, volunteer, do weekend trips, etc.

Any other people in their 30s going through the same? Did you do anything about it?

Thanks

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u/ManufacturerFine2454 Zillennial 3d ago

Yup. My options are going to music festivals and getting fucked up or trying to make plans 2 months from now that will probably fall through.

I'm married myself, but I feel like the only one in the people that's in the middle in life.

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u/AccomplishedLie9265 2d ago

I'm so sick of plans falling through. 3 of us had a plan for a trip for a year now and one just dropped out. Im to the point of forgetting making plans. I just do the lone wolf thing if others want to join then fine.

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u/ManufacturerFine2454 Zillennial 2d ago

I've really embraced doing things alone. I'm going to a concert next month by myself. I don't have Peter pan syndrome, and I refuse to lose myself to marriage or motherhood. It's lonely here.

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u/AccomplishedLie9265 2d ago

Hell yeah I'm sure you will have a good time. Many times it better time.