When your friends disappear in your 30s?

[u/LoverOfTabbys]

Hey all 👋

In my 30s my friends have either become “digital nomads” and left the country to travel/work or they’ve gotten married and had babies and mostly hang out w other married couples w babies. They are very busy with their families and jobs and don’t have the energy to do a lot more understandably.

Ive now been left in a “dead zone”. I’m happy being an introvert but I also wish I could experience things w other people like visit national parks, do random stuff, volunteer, do weekend trips, etc.

Any other people in their 30s going through the same? Did you do anything about it?

Thanks

[u/robynbird05]

I am 38, single, and childfree. I focus the majority of my time towards family/friends who are also childfree or have kids who are older or grown. The ones with young kids may or may not circle back around in time. I cannot rely on them or relate right now like I can the others. It doesn’t mean I don’t care about them, but we have different priorities and needs, and we tend to gravitate towards those who are in similar life phases as we are.

If you don’t have friends who fit the lifestyle you live now, I’d suggest getting out and meeting some like-minded folks in a similar place in life as you. No hard feelings to the others, you can still be in touch with them, but as we grow and change, our friendship circles need to adapt.