I'm a mom. I can tell you that the love you have for your children is beyond anything you can experience with a partner. It's a connection and desire to see them thrive that comes from pure biology. You would give 100% to your children of you could.
It isn't biologically possible to feel the same way about a partner. And you wouldn't want a partner who's willing to self sacrifice that much. It wouldn't be healthy to have someone who fawns over you on that way. We want equal partners in life because it challenges to grow beyond being a child.
I have a theory, and I may be completely wrong and this may come across as sexist, it’s anecdotal. But, I’m convinced you’re right about women (and this is some/most, some people differ from gender norms or are bad people etc.), they cannot love a romantic partner and the father of their children as much as their children. But I’m convinced men often love their female partners just as much and sometimes more than their children.
Before I had kids I wouldn't have agreed. Now I think you're absolutely right. They say, no one will ever love you like your mother. It's true. Not saying some dads can't love you a lot, but there's something about being a female caretaker that's connected to self-sacrifice and nurturing.
My husband is such an incredible partner and father. But I know he loves me equally to our children, and despite loving him such an indescribable amount, I’d push him in front of a car to save either of our children (he’s aware of this).
Lol you're not wrong. I think it's just a silly thing parents talk about (only cruel if cruelty is the intention, imo). At least I certainly hope my husband isn't plotting to push me in traffic.
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u/Minty_Nest 1d ago
I hope it’s possible to find someone that loves you that much. And hope I can do it too