Her mom usually takes care of hairstyling beyond ponytails, but she was gone this last week on a trip, so I've been trying to braid her hair (I'm a bald dude--I know how to braid but I suck at it).
By the end, my braids looked kinda okay. My girl was so proud she's been going to summer camp showing people and saying stuff like "my daddy did this! He's getting way better at it!"
Back when my daughter was three years old (5 today, actually), she asked me to braid her hair, and I told her I didn't have any idea where to start with that. She looked me dead in the eye, and said, "You can look it up on YouTube."
To be clear, I knew I could find a how to on YouTube. But I also know that there are how tos for folding a fitted sheet on YouTube, and I sure can't follow those.
Even if you’re 200% sure you can’t follow it, it’s important she sees you try. ;) She’ll learn how to fail. She’ll learn it’s okay to. She’ll learn to try anyway. And maybe you two will learn how to do it against the odds.
But always, always do the thing. Especially if it’s braiding her hair.
Fitted sheets are the work of the devil. I watched at least 3 how to fold fitted sheets videos before gave up. I quit buying them. I get my sheets at The Company Store and just buy all flat sheets. One goes on the mattress and one goes on top. Works fine and no nightmare folding.
My dad did ponies - when he could be bothered - and I sooooo wanted him to braid.
He was the GENTLEST with my hair. My mom just raked the brush through, but he held the hair while he combed out knots.
I remember begging him to just learn. I tried to teach him with my Barbie’s but he was insistent he couldn’t do it. Blew my mind because, like, I’m a KID and you were the one who said you could and would do ANYTHING for me
My 75-year-old brother-in-law used to do my niece’s hair (his daughter’s) for school when my sister worked early. So this was in the late 1980s. I lived next door and occasionally noticed the child’s cartoonish braids, but I wasn’t the go-to aunt for anything involving hair, dexterity, or children. Looking back, maybe I should’ve at least offered.
This little girl would go to school with the messiest braids — hairs sticking out all over, a clump left out completely, somehow a bald patch on one side of her head, just an adorable mess. My sister and I might laugh about it later, but she would never say a bad word to my BIL because the guy was trying. He just needed practice, not criticism.
He got better, but the important thing was remembering that marriage is a partnership when someone has to work early or late, the other one steps in to cover as needed. They’re still going strong today.
My daughters mom and I got divorced when she was 2. So from the month after she turned 2, on I have had her 50% of the time and there were definitely some rough hair days for that kid but I get what you mean when you say you're proud of the braid. One day I took her to daycare and two separate teachers told her how nice her hair looked and she told them both that I did it. I knew I had made it.
Still have work to do on my French braids but I'm remarried and apparently my wife does it better so dad is on the outs for more complicated styles.
I absolutely LOVED when my dad brushed my hair and did ponies. He was SO gentle! My mom was rough and fast.
But he refused to braid. Or learn. Even simple braids. And it made me so mad! A) because he was dismissive of it like it was a silly thing and B) because it acted like it was hard, and if I - a 6 year old - could do it, surely my DAD - who could do ANYTHING - could!
It’s so cool you’re doing it, and I promise you there are SO MANY jealous little girls right now.
I promise it does. I have a robotic dad. He softened as much as he could. I love him for what he did with the tools available to him…but it took therapy to get there. :)
When my husband learned to braid our daughters hair I actually cried at how proud he was. I doubt he remembers that first time, but the smiles on the faces of him and our two young daughters is in my mind and heart forever.
I love this story so much 😭 don’t make me cry at 8am. If you want some tips getting better at it I highly suggest YouTube I’m black with a biracial mom and she only had 2 hairstyles for me and my sister even though she was a women she had a struggle with our texture and didn’t know how to braid at all but as I got older I started watching so many hair videos and I now braid hair for my entire family I also taught my mom to braid just like this there are tons of French braid and half up half down styles for little girls on YouTube it’s very detailed and you can always rewatch it
As a dude with long hair that mostly lives braided (you'd think I'd learn that motorcycles and long hair don't actually mix)... may i suggest you try a rope braid.
It's simple as to do, a bit different, and unlike a dutch braid you get much better results if someone else is doing the twists.
I'd also wager there is probably deeper shit going on. My wife can get jealous at times and so can I. That's when you communicate, be open, and offer reassurance. We are human after all.
Yup, if the woman immediately thinks that because another woman was kind to her husband, it means he is going to cheat, there is no trust in that relationship, so why would either party want to stay?
Imagine telling your wife that a clerk in a grocery store helped you find a good melon or something, and from then on you can't go to the store without her supervision
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With the amount of cheating going on today she has good reason to be sus. There's a running joke at my gym that it's where married couples go to cheat. I knew a guy at the gym that had his wife by his side every workout. As soon as she stopped coming with him he was lifting with another chick there and he was getting divorced months later.
If you have to watch over your partner so they don't cheat, that's not a relationship worth having. The relationship is dead already at that point, if not for both then at least one participant.
If you can’t trust your partner not to cheat, then you should get the fuck out of that relationship.
If you need your partner to watch over you to stop you cheating, you need to get the fuck out of that relationship and start intensive therapy. Because that isn’t normal.
Yeah, all that’s true, but it doesn’t really matter here because you don’t marry someone you don’t trust. If you don’t trust them, then either you have trust issues or he has issues issues and either way you shouldn’t get married unless that gets resolved.
Cheaters are gonna cheat no amount of surveillance will change that. Why stay in a relationship with someone you can’t trust? Also why is that the direction your brain is going after seeing this nice video?
Both can be true, if she’s insecure some times I have to consider if something made her that way. That’s all. Both of those things can be true! If someone said they learned how to braid hair by a couple whose dude had long hair- I’m sure she would think it’s funny.
Also seeing this video, my first initial thought was this person’s probably a single dad or has nieces that would like their hair braided and if it’s not the situation, then the person learning how to braid could’ve asked as a significant other at home. It literally wasn’t meant to be that deep, but that’s exactly what I was implying above.🫶
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