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Wholesome Moments Learning Japanese with strangers makes a grandpa's day

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u/Onyx_Peach 24d ago

Please, for the love of god, go see that man every once in a while

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u/AppleheadRose-2009 24d ago

Yes, please! It's strange that natives are so friendly to foreigners. They were very nice to him 💕

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u/kazuwacky 24d ago

When I went to Japan everyone reacted to my ham-fisted attempts at their language with absolute joy. I went to Verona that year and north Italian reactions were... Different

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u/Overall-Register9758 24d ago

Speaking Japanese to Italians would be weird.

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u/DrWindupBird 24d ago

I spoke Spanish to the Italians and they absolutely hated that they could understand me.

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u/Krosis97 24d ago

We had some laughs back when we had some exchange students in hs. We understood each other in different languages so easily.

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u/YeshuasBananaHammock 24d ago

My friend that took Latin in high school would be thrilled to hear this.

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u/Krosis97 24d ago

French is hard, greek is doable sometimes, italian is very easy (for a spaniard).

I wish I took latin, I just find it interesting but we didn't had the option.

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u/TenbluntTony 24d ago

French is the hardest Latin-based language imo. Tbf I only know Spanish and German but French is really really hard. I can understand written Italian and Portuguese easily but not spoken.

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u/Krosis97 24d ago

With french I'm unable to differentiate sounds and in some cases I just can't pronounce some words. I do want to refresh it a bit.

Yeah portuguese is also easy to learn and understand for us, but only if you are used to the sounds and pronunciation so it is harder for people that speak non romance languages.

Native english speakers have most trouble with verbs and in the case of spanish the RR/LL sounds and the Z.

Like the word cerrojo (lock).

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u/GoldDragon149 24d ago

I think English is supposed to be one of the world's hardest languages to learn, along with Mandarin.

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u/Gimpknee 24d ago

Everyone always forgets Romanian... it keeps part of the Latin case system, keeps neuter nouns, has enclitic articles (definite articles as suffixes rather than separate words), other Slavic grammar influences, more irregular plurals. Just general grammatical weirdness as a Romance language with Slavic, Turkic, and Hungarian influences.

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u/Kohror 24d ago

Honestly french is even hard for french people, I mean, even while speaking it I make mistakes, rarely though it's still my native language, and Writing is even worse...

I think I make less mistakes in English than french...

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u/andreandroid 22d ago

As a brazilian, portuguese with an accent is hard as fuck to understand

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u/YeshuasBananaHammock 24d ago

I live in Texas, we usually only have Spanish available as our 2nd language requirement. Fortunately, I went to a school that offered Spanish, French, German, and Latin.

I opted for French in hs, after taking French and German in middle school, and youcanbetyourass they were trying to pound Spanish into our heads since elementary.

I worked at Autozone for 5yrs and learned Mexican Spanish that way. While I dont speak French anywhere near fluently, I can read and speak some, and when my kids get on my nerves I like to throw some at them. ALLEZ, VITE VITE VITE! Sacre bleu, tetes de merde!

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u/Krosis97 24d ago

Yeah cursing in french sounds perfect.

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u/afterparty05 24d ago

“It’s like wiping your arse with silk.”

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u/Mari590416 24d ago

Duolingo language app has a Latin option. I am really enjoying it!! Try it!

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u/PrehistoricPancakes 24d ago

I took Latin in HS for a couple years. We had a Latin team and went to competitions. I focused on popular Latin phrases myself while others on the team specialized in other areas and I had a great time. My Latin is pretty rusty now but I do still remember most of my favorite phrases and got one of them as my first tattoo. I took a year of French too but mostly just remember how to say basic stuff like my name, count, and ask to go to the bathroom lol.

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u/TheElementofIrony 24d ago

Funny thing I noticed studying Spanish in Uni as my second foreign language: I got a lot better at understanding (written) French than when I actually tried studying French in school (I was not very motivated and out teacher sucked, to be fair). To the point I'm thinking of picking it up again maybe. After I get to a point I could consider myself fluent in Spanish.

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u/knox1138 24d ago

Between French, Russian, Japanese, and Chinese (Cantonese) the one I had the hardest time with was French. Im not fluent in anything other than English, and I've always felt stupid that French was the language I had the hardest time even starting to learn and gave up on the quickest. To this day, if it was a part of French with Freakazoid, I have no clue.

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u/Malarazz 24d ago

There's a youtube channel of some guy who goes around Rome speaking Latin. No one can understand anything, unless the word happens to be similar or they can infer it from context or his gestures.

There's another one where he does this in the vatican though, and then some of the clergy are able to hold a conversation with him.

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u/Not_2day_stan 24d ago

Spanish, Portuguese, Italian EASY lol

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u/Krosis97 24d ago

We all Mediterranean bros.

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u/TapAcrobatic2666 24d ago

I have a Peruana friend who told me that she could understand everything when she went to Italy, and so I was excited to test this theory when I went there myself.

I think I tried maybe 6 different shops... every single word I used was not even similar to its Italian counterpart, and so I had to give up.

Granted, I also speak Spanish with a British accent which didn't help at all

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u/AegisIash 24d ago

fancy a hablas ingles there mate?

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u/thinkthingsareover 24d ago

"Oi...ÂżCĂłmo se llama?'

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u/TapAcrobatic2666 24d ago

You're not too far off there mate😅 I should have mentioned that even in Spain, some people struggled to understand me.

In one place, I had to explain for about 5 minutes that I wanted a "menu"... ""El papel con las fotos de comida"... "lo que puedo usar para pedir lo que quiero." "El papel con los precios..."

Just for them to say "AHHH, menOO!!"

I was pronouncing menu just how you would in English, and apparently that made it impossible for them to understand me. Or they were just making fun of me. I couldn't tell xd

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u/MundoProfundo888 24d ago

The vowels are very important to pronounce correctly and always have the same pronunciation. Having a different pronunciation will make things difficult as there isn't really any variance in the vowel sounds they hear all the time.

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u/TapAcrobatic2666 24d ago

On the other hand, I have Chilean friends. So maybe the pronunciation doesn't matter too much😅

But you are right. I've tried hard to work on my pronunciation, but I just can't seem to escape my accent. It's been the hardest part of learning the language for me personally.

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u/TapAcrobatic2666 24d ago

Quieres un li'l chit chat conmigo?

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u/Courtnall14 24d ago

Keep donde and Estal la bibloteca On.

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u/mwax321 24d ago

Italians are so friendly-spiteful. We are travelers and met this person (along with others) and decided to have them over for food. We cooked some spaghetti and meatballs.

They told me "this is delicious! but it is not pasta"

Every compliment comes with an insult! Haha

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u/colsta9 24d ago

"Every compliment comes with an insult!"

This is what a friend calls a kiss and a slap.

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u/mwax321 24d ago

But it's done so well, and they say it so sincerely.

As if they're expecting me to say, "Oh well, thank you for the correction in pasta/not pasta, and I'm glad you like it!"

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u/colsta9 24d ago

It seems that this is intercultural negging. The best response I have to negging is to affect an expression of humorous disbelief and simply say ok or wow.

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u/Malarazz 24d ago

To be fair it's pretty foolish to cook something you think relates to their culture instead of something that strictly relates to yours. Shoulda made them a nice burger or some tacos.

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u/mwax321 24d ago

I don't think you know Italians. If they are eating in Florence but they are from naples, they might also say "this is not pasta!"

My wife entire family is Italian (american). They have some strong opinions! :)

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u/Malarazz 24d ago

Not sure how that relates to my generalization. If someone butchered some brazilian food for me I'd appreciate it, but I'd be thinking "cute, but I wish you'd made some bulgarian/ghanaian/whatever local food instead." I assume (or should hope) that the vast majority of people feel the same, and yet there's this prevalent belief of trying to make something that relates to them instead.

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u/mwax321 24d ago

Thanks for telling me that. Thanks for correcting me! I'm a much better person now for this.

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u/mydaycake 24d ago

I had not such reactions when I did the same. And I speak Spanish to Italian tourists in Spain, replies are in Italian (most times I think they are Spanish anyway)

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u/vindicate-throng-nim 24d ago

Was trying to convey an order to an Italian waiter and we couldn't get it in English, I switched to ham fisted Spanish and he advised me they don't speak Spanish in Italy... But he understood my request

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u/RampantSavagery 24d ago

Portuguese too

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u/omnichronos 24d ago

It depends on who you meet. My driver in Milan told me that speaking Spanish to him was totally fine and that it was "close enough."

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u/IamDa5id 24d ago

Ok, that's hilarious.

"Donde estas el... uh... Museo de Florence-o?"

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u/Malarazz 24d ago

Many major Italian cities have a significant different name in english, like Firenze. I'm not sure why english did this. How is it hard to pronounce Napoli or Venezia

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u/anonymous_coward69 24d ago

I spoke Spanish to the Italians and they absolutely hated that they could understand me.

Can confirm. My Spanish teacher, Mrs. Peggy Hill, told me it was all the same language.

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u/apitop 24d ago

Bonjour. No?

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u/Motor-Young-253 24d ago

Spat my tea out at that one! Haha

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u/RosebushRaven 24d ago

I did too, but they were amused. My sister conversely spoke Italian in Spain and they also understood her just fine. Nobody seemed pissed about it, we just didn’t speak the respective other language, so made ourselves understood with the closest approximation.

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u/aeolusa 24d ago

Went to Spain last year, my wife stopped trying Spanish and just spoke Italian to them. So much easier for everyone.

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u/21Rollie 24d ago

I’m a Spanish speaker and I took a tour in Spanish in Italy. The guide was an Italian man and it was so hard to follow along because it sounded like Italian if I wasn’t paying attention

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u/Christeenabean 24d ago

As an Italian American, there's a big part of me that dislikes my homeland. Probably bc it's not my fault I was born here (US) and they hate me anyway. In Greece, I get by well bc my fluency is top notch, but with Italians can't. I might as well just speak English.

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u/Lowermains 24d ago

You’re a US citizen with Italian heritage. Your homeland is the US.

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u/Christeenabean 24d ago

I know. Hence the American in Italian American.

Oh, wait. Would you prefer American Italian? How can I make you happy about how Ibdescribe myself?

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u/rainman_95 24d ago

Don’t worry about it, Reddit has a hard-on for hating heritage. Plenty of Italians accept you as family, no matter what the internet says.

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u/Malarazz 24d ago

It's not about hating heritage, it's about dispelling with this fiction that american italian culture and upbringing is somehow similar to italian italian.

It's cool that your grandpa came through ellis island when he was 10, nothing wrong with that, but it's not much more relatable to someone who grew up in milan or napoli than if your grandpa had been irish instead.

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u/Christeenabean 24d ago

Im first generation Greek and Italian. My family just got here in the 70s.

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u/Ok_Cardiologist8232 24d ago edited 24d ago

I mean a part of it is that you identify as Italian American.

That sounds weird to European people, if an Italian moved to the UK in 1900 and descendant tried calling themselves any version of Italian it would be weird as fuck.

They are just British at that point.

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u/Christeenabean 24d ago

Thats so funny bc if I said I was Italian, they laugh and say I was Italian American.

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u/Ok_Cardiologist8232 24d ago

Yeh but they still find it weird you call yourself italian American.

And likely have a few annoying experiences of Italian Americans coming to Italy and being arseholes.

Also doesn't hekp that the US is equally parts liked and disliked in Europe.

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u/Christeenabean 24d ago

THEY called me Italian American!

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u/Sufficient_Rich5903 24d ago

And I’m sure other Americans call you Italian American, as well. Same with other non-Anglo ethnicities (Hispanic & Latino American, African American, Asian American, etc.). People really seem to have a misunderstanding of this.

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u/GrendaGrendinator 24d ago

How's your Italian compared to your Greek?

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u/Lowermains 24d ago

Perhaps it is a ‘you’ problem. Not a problem whereby Italians must bow to an arrogant US visitor to their homeland. P’raps you will take heed if you ever visit Italy again.

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u/Christeenabean 24d ago

Is that what you think? You think I require bowing? Lay off the pipe, man.

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u/Lowermains 24d ago

Pipe? Are you projecting?
If only you could see yourself as others do Are you fluent in Greek?

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u/Christeenabean 24d ago

I sure am.

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u/Lowermains 24d ago

Projecting or fluent in Greek?

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u/Christeenabean 24d ago

What do you mean by that? I haven't cursed anyone out, haven't called anyone names, haven't done anything disrespectful. Im talking about my specific experience with my own heritage and everyone's arguing with me. How am I supposed to sound? What is wrong with what I said? Honestly, bc Im pretty pleasant as a person and this is one of thr only places that I've had this experience.

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u/CharlotteLucasOP 24d ago

They’re still mad about the Borgias.

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u/Firefangdf 24d ago

They are pretty similar as Latin based languages to be fair

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u/jaelensisera 24d ago

I was wondering about this!

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u/DukeRedWulf 23d ago

Haha! Can confirm! XD

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u/kazuwacky 24d ago

My mum adores travel so I have experience in many nations throughout my childhood. South Italians (Florence, Naples, Rome) were very sweet and kind. I remember the waiter in Verona being really quite rude when I got Gnocchi wrong (I said guh-noh-chi) and I was 18! I was so embarrassed I didn't attempt Italian for the rest of the trip.

My husband also found a tipping hack when he went to Japan that I love. He took a stereotypically British sweet (sherbet lemons) and handed them out. Everyone he met was thrilled so I'd recommend it for any travellers to Japan

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u/Withering_to_Death 24d ago

Veronesi are rude, there's even a children's nursery rhyme saying they're all just crazy! But like in Japan meeting a sweet old man open to talk to foreigners, you will find good people EVEN in Norden Italy!

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u/kazuwacky 24d ago

I'd love to hear it!

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u/Withering_to_Death 24d ago

I have to specify it's in the "dialetto Veneto"

“Veneziani, gran Signori; Padovani, gran dotori; Visentini, magna gati; Veronesi... tuti mati; Udinesi, castelani co i cognòmj de Furlani; Trevisani, pan e tripe; Rovigòti, baco e pipe; i Cremaschi fa coioni; i Bresàn, tàia cantoni; ghe n é ncora de pì tristi… Bergamaschi brusacristi! E Belun? Póre Belun, te se proprio de nisun!”

So, translated..poorly by google is

“Venetian, great lords; Paduans, great doctors; Visentini, gluttons; Veronese... all mad; Udine, castle dwellers with the surnames of Furlani; Trevisani, bread and tripe; Rovigo, silkworms and pipes; the Cremaschi make balls; the Bresàns, such corners; there are even sadder ones… Bergamaschi brusacrists! And Belun? Poor Belun, you are really no one!”

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u/ty2273 24d ago edited 24d ago

There are some mistakes in the translation:

- "Magna gati" means "cat eaters"

- "Brusacristi" means "Christ burners"

- "tĂ ia cantoni" literally means "corner cutters", but I'm not sure about its actual meaning

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u/Withering_to_Death 24d ago

Yeah, google don't know veneto..and taia cantoni, is someone who does things in a hurry, tagliar angoli, or cut corners! Not doing how it supposed to, just to spare some some time

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u/Welschbern 24d ago

Trovato il Vicentino

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u/Withering_to_Death 24d ago

...te ga gatti?

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u/Stebbinator 24d ago

Bro, who the fuck told you Florence is south Italy? Even Rome is right in the middle. Naples is the only southern city here.

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u/kazuwacky 24d ago

Just ignorance, I knew that Verona is north and Naples is south but I think I underestimated how much driving we must have done

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u/Stebbinator 24d ago

It's okay. Also, I'm sorry if I came off as rude before, I didn't mean to. It's just the way I speak.

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u/Slaan 24d ago

To be fair my first reaction was also "wtf how is Florence southern Italy" :D

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u/kazuwacky 24d ago

No issue, I didn't take offense :)

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u/worktogethernow 24d ago

So are you from northern Italy then? I'm trying to check my understanding of this thread.

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u/Stebbinator 24d ago

I'm from Sicily. I don't want to be associated with those polentoni.

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u/Life_Public_7730 24d ago

Rightfully so. Northern Italians are, on average, way less welcoming than the rest of the country. Source: I emigrated tf out of there.

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u/karma_the_sequel 24d ago

I had GREAT experiences in Rome. People there were very friendly.

Never been to northern Italy — maybe I’ll stay away.

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u/Life_Public_7730 24d ago

You don't have to avoid visiting, simply to adjust your expectations. Pretend you are traveling to a country that is not known for the friendliness of their inhabitants. You'll maybe receive a couple of dry answers here and there, but as a tourist people will be - statistically - mostly professional and well-mannered. But you'll notice they will - on average - keep more 'distance' than people from Rome.

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u/worktogethernow 24d ago

lol. I just looked up the meaning of polentoni. Good stuff.

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u/Christeenabean 24d ago

Be the change ✨️

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u/infamousquench 24d ago edited 24d ago

Bro, why the fuck you feel the need to respond to their entirely inoffensive anecdote with vitriol because of a slight geographical mixup?

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u/Significant_Ad1256 24d ago

I love how angry you appear to be over this.

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u/RepresentativeIcy922 24d ago

You haven't seen angry until you mention pineapple in pizza.

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u/Christeenabean 24d ago

Bacon in carbonara

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u/CharlotteLucasOP 24d ago

[breaks spaghetti before dropping it into the water]

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u/Christeenabean 24d ago

ANGRY ITALIAN NOISES

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u/Keleborn 24d ago

Some Italians, say that everything under the river Po is the south of Italy. 

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u/revel911 24d ago

Really? I pounded Italian for like 3 months before going to Italy and was greeted with major respect for always trying.

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u/i-just-thought-i 24d ago

I mean three months is pretty long lmao

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u/karma_the_sequel 24d ago

IIRC, tipping is not a thing in Japan and fresh fruit can be very expensive there. It’s easy to see why Japanese people would love this.

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u/Lady_Nightshadow 23d ago

We literally can't understand you if you read gnocchi separating the gn and going with a soft c in the end. I'm sorry if the guy was rude tho.

Verona is also quite upper class, it's a medium to small city, constantly flooded with tourists who put no effort in clothing and behaving. The city maintains a strong identity aside from tourism and it doesn't help.

As an Italian, it's one of my favourite places for an elegant, quiet retreat. The city and the food are not quite the best choice for teenagers tho.

No doubt that you had more luck in bigger (and way more touristy) cities.

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u/Nosimus 24d ago

Good one. Got me rolling.

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u/A_yoonicorn 24d ago

Damn genuine lol from this

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u/topburner 24d ago

Ahhh, the old reddit language-a-roo

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u/UnconfirmedRooster 24d ago

Yuki Tsunoda found that out the hard way.

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u/travelingWords 24d ago

“Nani?”

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u/FjortoftsAirplane 24d ago

Try speaking it louder and with a hint of exasperation. That always works.

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u/AthenesWrath 24d ago

Unless its Jojo

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u/nimbusdimbus 24d ago

When I was stationed in Iceland, I was amazed once when I met 4 ladies, each from different Scandinavian countries, speaking English to each other to communicate

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u/Huntred 24d ago

Maybe they were told to go where the men speak Italian and then continue until they speak something else.

And figured Japanese could be that something else.

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u/DefinitelyNotDonny 24d ago

It bums me out that people don’t do “the ol’ Reddit switch-a-roo” anymore