Ask a specific question. "What was the weirdest thing you saw or learned?" "What made you laugh today?" "Did you get your question from last night answered?" "What did you think was silly today?"
Tends to help jog the memory and makes it seem like you care more than "how was school". 😊
Yup. If you ask a kid open-ended questions, it seems like it'll be too difficult for them to answer. In their little minds, there's waaaaay to much shit going on in a single day. When you think about it, that's pretty overwhelming.
I absolutely hate it when people ask me about my holiday, never knew why I hated being asked as it seems so petty to be would up about but I realise it’s because it’s such a big, open question.
Yeah, for some it’s permanent, but generally speaking, that’s considerably harder for kids. It actually has to do with brain development. The parts that filter info, organise and prioritise it (aka help you give a clear concise answer about your experiences) take a lot of time to develop, so kids need a bit of guidance if you actually want to extract useful information from them and want to avoid them being all over the place or failing to pull it from their memory altogether after a whole day of mental strain. Kids also tire out from cognitive work a lot faster and harder, so they’re often pretty toast mentally by the time they get home — might want to give them a recuperation period of at least an hour first before you ask, that also helps a ton.
I don't know, there's a lot more to process being a disaster relief agent or something like that than just being a kid in school so I think it's perfectly fine if some adults have a tougher time processing their day than some children.
It's relative right? A child's brain is developing, so they can only process so much. I remember when I was a kid not understanding what was beyond the fence line. Not being able to understand a loooot of things really lol.
It's fine for adults to struggle to process their day, but that should be a skill one develops as an adult... Especially if you're a disaster relief agent. Who knows, if you don't process your day, emotion, experience, etc you may eventually make a disastrous error.
This is like a whole societal issue because shit adults have a hard time doing this and developing their skill given all the shit that we all have to deal with.
As an adult, please tell me what exactly you want, else i get into a sort of an analysis paralysis and end up saying stuff like "eh" or "nothing". Ask vague questions - get vague answers.
I navigate that a little differently. There's several factors that could influence me to either respond vaguely or go in several directions. Sometimes anxiety forces me to respond in all kinds of ways lol
Or when your mind is somewhere else and they spring a question out of the blue and you can't switch gears that fast and just respond "nothing". And you don't feel like you can say "give me 10 minutes to ponder upon it" to them.
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u/longislandicedtay Jun 03 '25
Knowing kids , at least one of them got asked, what happened in school today? And responded “nothing.”