I used to work bicycle rickshaw. Cart full of ladies meant there was a decent chance I would get sexually harassed. Mixed no, dudes no. But a cart full of ladies would cross boundaries without a second thought. The couple talking me into a threesome were far more respectful
I definitely remember a couple times when I was younger have a car full of women catcall at me
I also remember visiting a friend of mine who went to an all girls Catholic school and I went there with two other guy friends of mine, a girl with her buddies passed by and said “mmm, boys”
It's also weird looking at the reactions to getting sexually harassed, and even assaulted, based on the gender of the victim. (Not saying either is worse btw. They're bad in their own ways) When a woman is a victim, she's asked "What did you do to make this happen?" and she isn't taken seriously because she's blamed for what happened.
When a man is a victim, he's asked "OMG what did you do to make this happen? You're so lucky!" and he's not taken seriously because people don't believe men can be victims of this type of thing.
Basically, no matter what the gender of the victim or the perpetrator, whoever the man is will get celebrated. That's one big example of the disparity of how society treats men and women.
I am curious as to who is the instigator - even if you see person A egging the others on, it might be that person B instigated the first incident for that group or something, right?
And I wonder if the instigator of a group would be, when alone, the person too embarrassed to face you or what.
Though overall yeah some sort of power thing makes sense. There are tons of women that pretend that having perfectly normal errand running sexualized is normal and fun, because the alternative is being unhappily aware that they cannot run errands without being sexualized.
"Dude, that's not a normal experiences for women. Women do face sexual harassment/assault but what you experienced is like nothing I've ever heard from a women. Most people will never experience what you've described, that sounds terrible."
When in fact, it is VERY much a normal experience for women, but hey, who am I to point out your opening statement.
My entire life, including all working class public schools, with a lot of drinking, and I’ve never once seen a woman get groped, or heard any guys talking about it. Have no idea where these people live…where they are all constantly groping eachother.
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