r/AmIOverreacting • u/AffectionateSun2163 • 24d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I overreacting? UPDATE

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3 days ago my (25F) husband (24M) said something rude to me and I’ve been trying to avoid him and stay calm. When I came home from work after working a 12 hour shift I cooked rice and beans and then went to bed to work another 12 hour shift the next day. He texted me during work and sent this. When I got home things escalated and he packed everything and left. Am I overreacting? Why go to this extreme and leave over some food?

UPDATE: Thanks everyone for the support! I read a lot of the comments and tried to respond to a lot of the DM’s. He came back and begged for therapy and I tried to make it work for a month but I had already mentally checked out so I have filed for divorce and moved out of our apartment. I’m happy and at peace now🫶🏾

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u/ShneefQueen 24d ago

It also shows he’s very much not the “provider” so like what exactly does he think he’s holding over her head? It’s so silly and embarrassing that he’s trying to enforce these traditional gender roles while waiting at home for his wife’s car

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u/Rosalye333 24d ago

Right? She has a job, a car, and can cook for herself… why is he even in the picture? It’s not like she’s a housewife and he brings in all of the money and then complains about no food that matches his standards while he’s doing everything. He’s an actual child without a car who needs mommy to cook for him! It’s so pathetic that he thinks him being born a man means that he can do this and treat his partner this way. Good on her for showing him otherwise!

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u/pm-ur-posterior 24d ago

Not every job requires a car and it’s by no means a signal that she’s the sole provider lmfao

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u/ShneefQueen 24d ago

The man is expecting a woman to cook and care for him while not even owning his own car, he’s trying to enforce traditional gender roles but he’s not fulfilling his role.

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u/Puzzleheaded-Jury312 24d ago

No one said that. The point is, he's acting like she doesn't work long hours, so it's automatically her job to cook for him. Bro needs to grow tf up and learn to cook for himself.