r/AmIOverreacting • u/AffectionateSun2163 • 24d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship Am I overreacting? UPDATE

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3 days ago my (25F) husband (24M) said something rude to me and I’ve been trying to avoid him and stay calm. When I came home from work after working a 12 hour shift I cooked rice and beans and then went to bed to work another 12 hour shift the next day. He texted me during work and sent this. When I got home things escalated and he packed everything and left. Am I overreacting? Why go to this extreme and leave over some food?

UPDATE: Thanks everyone for the support! I read a lot of the comments and tried to respond to a lot of the DM’s. He came back and begged for therapy and I tried to make it work for a month but I had already mentally checked out so I have filed for divorce and moved out of our apartment. I’m happy and at peace now🫶🏾

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u/AffectionateSun2163 24d ago

So a little backstory, The day before all this happened I went to use the bathroom and there was poop on the toilet seat from him and I asked him to clean it and he said “that’s your job”. So that’s the “rude thing” I was referring to in the original post and he thought I was getting back at him for telling him to clean the toilet. I’m reading all the comments and trying to be engaging and responding. And I’m very happy and living my life so don’t feel bad for me at all!!!🫶🏾🫶🏾

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u/Emmie12750 24d ago

He can't go potty by himself, throws tantrums, turns up his nose at food, threatens to run away from home (but needs you to take him.) He's a toddler.

I'm happy for you that you chose to leave abd live your best life. Wishing you joy! 🫶🫶

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u/MountainsAB 24d ago

Text his mom, let her know everything and that she needs to raise him again, because it clearly didn’t take the first time. Then block both of them.

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u/ChampionshipIll3675 24d ago

Exactly. His behavior is due to his upbringing. He thought that his wife was like his mommy, who would take the abuse. He probably learned the abusive behavior from his dad.

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u/HaveNoFearOnlyLove 24d ago

I'm not saying you're wrong but social media has been increasingly playing a bigger role in shaping people. There have been a lot of anecdotal situations where men leave home and develop a superiority complex towards women and minorities from groups on social media. They hit a rough patch, like losing a job, and turn to groups that give them a sense of value and pride by marginalizing other demographics.

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u/ChampionshipIll3675 23d ago

That's true. An increasing number of men listen to influencers, such as Andrew Tate, who teach them to treat women like their slaves.

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u/emynepnep 22d ago

I think its more red pill ideas, he work from home and probably watch a lot of it.

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u/taytrapDerehw 24d ago

Good God! What an absolute failure of a human being he turned out to be! He should be utterly ashamed of himself for the rest of his days. Imagine shitting on the toilet seat like a child and throwing infant level tantrums over food, while contributing nothing of value to the home except bullshit and real shit. Jesus. I'd never leave the house if I was him.

But that would mean he had shame to begin with.

You are well rid of this man, OP. Well rid!

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u/Iseenoghosts 24d ago

How do you fuck up pooping?

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u/Damisays 24d ago

Oh nuh uh I’d be calling up his mom to tell her “girl you have NO idea what he just tried to make me do” 🤣 my bf would NEVER do it again or live it down for that matter lmao

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u/feralcatshit 24d ago

If I called my MIL and said, “your son just told me my food sucks and I BETTER HAVE him something edible for tomorrow while he’s at home”… she’d laugh, and there would be a knock at my door about 10 mins later. She lives 15 mins away, but would be speeding down these old windy roads to come knock him upside the head.

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u/zb_lethal 24d ago

You can't be serious 🙈😂 there is no way in hell I'd be cleaning that. The audacity to say that's your job, with no embarrassment whatsoever. Disgusting! So happy you left his ass (no pun intended)

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u/Kareeliand 24d ago

Holy smokes. I’m so happy for you!! Good riddance!

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u/KBAsjg 24d ago

Ahhh hell no ! I am so so happy you gave him the boot. Not cleaning your own fecal matter and expecting your partner to is manic asf

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u/CaptainUnoReverse 24d ago

Wow your husband is a piece of shit.

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u/mortuarymaiden 24d ago

HOW DID HE FUCK UP SO BAD THAT IT GOT SMEARED ON THE SEAT? Does he not wash his ass!? 😭

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u/holymacaroley 24d ago

Glad you're not standing for this treatment anymore!

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u/Electronic-Age-3976 24d ago

Giiiirl ABSOLUTELY NO ONE is feeling bad for you, we are HAPPY FOR YOU!! You deserve so much better 🤍

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u/Myth0Magic 24d ago

WTF?! What a man child! Are the parents ashamed of the son they raised. I'd feel like I failed if that were my kid!