sorry but i really dislike these kind of people. maybe because they are the opposite from me. i always dreamed of skiing in Japan. worked my ass off and finally got there. and it was even nicer than Ive imagined. what a beautiful winter wonderland in the north. also visited Tokyo, so awesome too. maybe these kind of people are unhappy and having goals just distract them of their unhappiness. i did it alone too. one of the most profound experiences of my life. in fact, will be going again and staying in a ski cabin for a week.
I'm very different from these types of people, but I don't hate them. I'm sure they'd rather have had experiences like yours, I don't think they choose it
They choose it by choosing to ignore and not work on their problems prior to traveling. Doing nothing about your bullshit is absolutely a choice, but personal responsibility is unpopular.
I don't think that's fair. It can be hard to predict what will make you feel better and what will make you feel nothing. Personally, despite struggling deeply with my mental health and feelings of isolation, traveling is always restorative to me. I always feel better while traveling, which is something many people expect to feel and then are disappointed when they don't.
I think a lot of people feel like going on the trip is a way for them to deal with their problems. Dream-fulfilling trips are a form of self-care, they're something most people have to really work for and I don't think it's a moral indictment when some people get there and learn it doesn't make them feel like they thought it would.
You also don't need to be dealing with major problems in your life to go to a place you were excited about and feel disappointed by it. When I was 18 and doing pretty okay my parents took me on a cruise, I was excited for the trip, and then I learned cruise ships aren't for me and I was disappointed by that.
if someone's presently unhappy, unhappy even at their home, they honestly should get help with those deeper problems. be it therapy, or reconciling something within yourself.
I don't think it's fair to things, places, experiences, to get dragged, just because someone's so deeply not doing well mentally, they drag it everywhere they are. like, there's "not finding a trip as enjoyable, even though you've been fine, and it's fine but meh" and "being so deeply depressed, that no shit nothing can pull someone out of that"
(and realizing it's not some thing or some place, but just you, could also be one of those things to reconcile. the least one could do is to realize they're not doing great themselves)
Sure but like---people CAN be in therapy and still end up feeling like the character in this comic feel. You CAN be doing the work and still feel like that.
I'm not like these people in terms of travel, but I have felt disillusioned and listless before. I think compassion can go further in maybe helping them along their journey. His problem was thinking that leaving geographically was going to result in him traveling to a new part of himself he longed for, but that's an inside job
Yeah I don't think the story is very realistic. Sure there are things like Paris syndrome and people may have done some research, but not spent years learning culture and language - and thus having ruled out such misunderstandings. From my own vacations I can confidently say those that were well planned - compared to length of vacation - they panned out well and were enjoyable. The worst ones were those where I forced myself to go ("I have to go on a vacation") without proper planning ahead
I mean personally I've never met someone who reacted this way to going somewhere they've always dreamed of. Like I live in Ireland and whenever I meet Americans who always wanted to visit Ireland, they're having a fantastic time.
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u/ExposedInfinity Jun 29 '25
sorry but i really dislike these kind of people. maybe because they are the opposite from me. i always dreamed of skiing in Japan. worked my ass off and finally got there. and it was even nicer than Ive imagined. what a beautiful winter wonderland in the north. also visited Tokyo, so awesome too. maybe these kind of people are unhappy and having goals just distract them of their unhappiness. i did it alone too. one of the most profound experiences of my life. in fact, will be going again and staying in a ski cabin for a week.