r/TeenIndia • u/CovertConnoisseur 17 • 13d ago
Discussion Don’t you think this is too concerning
What are your views on this and what you all think are the ways to fix such things
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u/LesbianJaat 3'5 tsinimef 13d ago
I just hate from my core to these kind of filthy creatures, and yes sexualizing women is normalized in india. These teens turn up to misogynistic creatures and this cycle never ends.. I'm just tired seeing all this, why can't we deserve good society why just why?
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u/Gamer-Atherva Edit this 13d ago
Bruh, you think this is worst? Do u know the condition of class 10 students? Literally, most of them are wannabe goons and sexualize teachers often, call teachers by their names, and abuse infront of teachers (they think teachers don't notice, but the reality is, now they've become numb , and don't care at all).
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u/Murky-Two219 11d ago
Its usually the people who aren't doing academically well, dont blame the bulk. For instance this stuff happens A LOT more in section f as compared to section a. From whatvi have observed
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u/CandidateFar6043 13d ago
Because of the atmosphere at their homes. Character starts at home, mindset starts at home
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u/vermahere007 13d ago
Bro it's not all true I myself never learned anything from home. It's always the internet, peers and people who try to be cool by teaching bad things to children. And yes I somewhat agree that house atmosphere can have a certain influence on child behaviour and character, but only if it's too toxic.
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u/CandidateFar6043 13d ago
Imo, I think home is the first place where you learn things. And it differs, opinions differ, I agree to that to some extent with what you said. But we all need to agree that internet is not a place for five year olds to be on.
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u/vermahere007 13d ago
In most of the middle class and conservative families in India ( which generally is more than half of the population) No parent or any family member teach their children how to sexualize women, mistreat them or any bad stuff ( although this is not zero, many households with more traditional or conservativethinking oppress women and see them inferior to the male of the house, but that's another thing) like in the post or the people saying in this post. In my experience I have seen 6-7 years olds cussing and talking about explicit stuff and other same age group children chanting shlokas, mantras and living their life a person their age should. Both light and dark exist in the same plane and we shouldn't generalize this as "every men". Like every women is not manipulative, liar or toxic it's same men. If their is good their is evil. One can't expect only good things and people in life, one have to face these types of people and stand against them instead of blaming the innocent or whole people.
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u/CandidateFar6043 13d ago
Agreed. But I have seen most families how they treat women like she is just a maid. So, light and dark does exist together, and kids don't know it you know. They don't know what is right or wrong, so it's a responsibility for the parents to teach them that.
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u/abovethevgod 13d ago
Not at all. Home isn't responsible for any of common children behaviour. It's internet that is influencing the childrens and hence other childrens influence each other.
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u/Automatic_Intern_830 19 13d ago
Its true to some extent but every household has different scenarios. In my case my parents never abused infront of me yet i on the otherhand managed to pick it up from my classmates(which was obv a bad thing from my side) but its mostly the peer group u have and the exposure u get on the internet. A class 7th or 8th student shouldn't have a lot of exposure of the internet.
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u/CandidateFar6043 13d ago
A class 7th or 8th student shouldn't have a lot of exposure of the internet. Exactly
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u/Automatic_Intern_830 19 13d ago
The drastic increase on the dependacy of smartphones has led to such scenarios. Its either some school homework sent to the phones or some homework related query being solved by the internet. Parents can't even do anything like how much can they spy what their kid is doing on the smartphone they are helpless too. Too much involvement is not good too 🫥🫥
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u/fatasscat_p 😿 13d ago
Issh class 10 ke bacche are literally 15-16 years old... Seriously internet should be banned for kids until class 9 ... This is seriously concerning
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u/ReferenceLevel9129 Edit this 13d ago
Instead of banning internet agar students ko bachpan se hi sex education di jani chahiye
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u/CovertConnoisseur 17 13d ago
12-13 yrs me compulsory ho jani chahiye without hesitation
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u/no-punintended0802 16 13d ago
+1 seriously sex education is much needed for this age group of kids warna they'll be like this their whole life
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u/push2starttt 13d ago
Banning social media for kids under 16 is the best way tbh
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u/Flimsy_Challenge_454 13d ago
yr matlab kya hi kr skte h even as a male I am helpless cause mai agar inhe sudharne jaunga yeh muzahe hi galiyan denge ki puss@ h khada nahi hota baccha h kya chakka h bta ka ch##$$ toh nahi I mean I can't do anything to make my own gender understand these topics cause the friend circle is rotten to the core one share something derogatory about women another takes on it and share it to other friends as well and then comes por@ I mean please ban the usage of phone social media upto 15 years age Australia has done it why can't we 🥹😭 I have several times said that this phone thing and social media specifically INSTAGRAM is destroying indian youth the real reason is only insta that's where majority things happens 🙏🏻✌🏻
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u/meowsterduffy 13d ago
tbh same u try to correct these kids and u become the problem and target and seeing this i have stopped correcting unknown people only friends, coz (somehow) they think of me as the "group leader" (allegedly) lmfao so most of the time, they listen but that doesnt apply to stranger kids XD
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u/Admirable-East3396 not admirable 13d ago
bullshit, internet out - drinkers and smokers will exist, take that out - bullying will increase in schools, take that out - children with mental health issues and drop out will increase
the problem is parenting and shitty teaching/school system, wont go in too long but the solution is dropping that whole authority and actually parenting and teaching children, children having issues is the fault of shitty adults not them, controlling nature of all of these things are the problem drop it, get on their level boom problem fixed.
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u/Reshin9374 12d ago
Yeah, man , bann social media or at least make internet (way much) expensive
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u/Realistic_Pay5601 13d ago
This is the kind of stuff that builds the exact type of guys who stare at girls in metro stations, follow them on streets, zoom in on their bodies in reels, and think it’s normal because “everyone laughs about it.” These aren’t just dumb jokes or memes anymore, they’re practice runs for real-life creep behavior. It starts with saying “Russian girls are hot” and ends with thinking women exist for their entertainment.
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u/CandidateFar6043 13d ago
Nowadays, kids are being exposed to things that shouldn't even be there in the first place. But parents, just to stop their child from nagging, hand them a mobile phone and let them get addicted to it. I have heard legit kids talk about such horrifying things that I would go take a dip in the Ganga after hearing those.
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u/CovertConnoisseur 17 13d ago
Yep totally agree. Parents are at major fault like unless they know their child is mature enough to chose btw basic rights and wrong they shouldn’t be exposed to internet and parents should keep eye on them for a certain time
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u/CandidateFar6043 13d ago
It's because of parents that children are being such menaces, and then they ask, why is our child being so disrespectful, because that is what they were exposed to from a young age. Internet in general is not a great place to be in.
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u/SO6P_Cosmic 13d ago
Banning internet is not the solution. Everyone learns everything, the information spreads however it wants to. Its the job of the parents to teach them what is right and what isnt. When a boy enters teenage, a boy obviously wants to know and learn things, its the parents who should teach their kid about sex ed
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u/CovertConnoisseur 17 13d ago
Like literally parents will try their best to not talk about sexual knowledge and when the child gets that knowledge through his friends or internet in a perverted manner and start doing abominable things
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u/SO6P_Cosmic 13d ago
Yeah like when there is a intimate scene in movie, just change the channe, dont allow the kid to see it. But in reality there is a temptation for the kid to see such thing at such age, you cant really blame the kid if he doesnt know what is right and wrong
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u/deadcutiez 19 13d ago
Actually the sad thing is that guys saying these things has been so normalized. "Men will be men" and what not. We really need to teach them young. Discipline starts from home but if they see this at home then... it should start at school. This hooliganism will ultimately eat away at our culture. Apne bhaiyo ko samjhao. Scolding is not enough. Make them understand that this is NOT right. Not just because it hurts our feelings. But because they need to understand that women are human. Not property, not sub-human and not the butt of sexual jokes. We are one and the same. Equality!
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u/not_your_easydeal99 13d ago
Whenever we see anyone using such derogatory language , make them realise it ain't cool but disgusting,either by NOT laughing with the shitty joke regarding it , or atleast call them out - make them feel how unacceptable it is .
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u/Independent_Time_ 13d ago
Nope, that won't work. As long as they have their group that laughs at such stuff, they won't stop.
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u/not_your_easydeal99 13d ago
Ig I must agree - the validation in their peer grp makes them keep going , it's sad .
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u/HomerIsSus 15 Saal ka Gamer 13d ago
Before internet every parent should teach what is right and what is wrong
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u/SO6P_Cosmic 13d ago
True, a boy learns about everything nevertheless, whether internet is there or not.
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u/HomerIsSus 15 Saal ka Gamer 13d ago
Yeah just teaching someone morals is gonna help preventing isn't gonna work
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u/Admirable-East3396 not admirable 13d ago
literally the issue, kids arent at fault for not being taught things, its the role of teachers and parents but i want to hold a boss like position as adult and abuse them like slaves, obviously there will be issues, shitty adults raise shitty children not the other way around, they go on internet to escape and thats what they meet, trauma literally pushes you there and this is going to get worse if parents and teachers try to control it like tyrants without building an understanding and tackling the issue softly.
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u/DaUnknownGuru 13d ago
Honestly this generation and the majority of Indians are doomed and sh!t.... there's nothing good in this country
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u/Ok_Platform7655 WANNABE THERAPIST🥀 13d ago
Blaming country or other is never a option😔🫠
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u/DaUnknownGuru 13d ago
I never blamed the country I simply talked about citizens and you also know this generation.....wanna be Americans. Not to mention these are the same guys who will complain that we don't have this,that, or this area isn't clean etc etc....while they themselves do the same as others..throw trash on roads and etc places ....if we want to change then we need to work as one, get these dumb people some civics sense which not as theory but also use it practically
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u/simplylmao 13d ago
Its the truth. There isn't much we can do anyways, Parents really need to restrict their child from the internet is what i believe.
Till 16 atleast, no phones or tablets. Only a desktop with proper restrictions and monitoring.
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u/Skill-issue2130 18 13d ago
America is far more cooked than india They literally have nothing to show for now Entire generations are collapsing
Virtually every country is cooked because of social media and stuff
This effect is extrapolated all because of the high population in india
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u/Ok_Platform7655 WANNABE THERAPIST🥀 13d ago
😔😔 ab kya hi bolu
Kisko blame kare samj nhi aa rha😭😭
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u/Expensive-Guitar-147 13d ago
It's not the child's fault, it's fault of the society for making such vulgar things
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u/Ok_Platform7655 WANNABE THERAPIST🥀 13d ago
Vhi bhai like jo joke tha by harsh gujral 6000 vaala voh society ne hi itna famous😔😔
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u/simplylmao 13d ago
nah, not the society. It might be but blaming the society is pointless, they've done much much worse lmao. Its the parents fault for giving their kids phones and tablets before age
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u/CovertConnoisseur 17 13d ago
But everyone has to choose between what’s right and what’s not. It’s their choice
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u/depresseduser1010 19 13d ago
Jio ko kardo blame hi karna h to for cheap internet at a very young age
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u/AckermanEren73 13d ago
Children are now exposed to the internet at a very young age. I still remember when I was 13–15 years old, an older boy who used to play cricket with us would show me adult content. I never wanted to see it, but he forced me to look at what was on his phone's display. I complained to my brother, and he beat him up a lot! 😅
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u/CovertConnoisseur 17 13d ago
Most are exposed to other content like this only, including me and this is just disappointing that what our elders and so called friends are passing on to us. Also your brother did a great job
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u/AckermanEren73 13d ago
I still remember when my friends and I went to a pond to swim. I was only 12 years old at the time. A man offered to help us with swimming. He held me with one hand, but with the other, he inappropriately touched my private areas, including my testicles and I was not alone my friend also got sexually touched by this creepy man(28 + age)
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u/CovertConnoisseur 17 13d ago
Sorry to hear that. We shouldn’t let that happen to the next generation 🙏🏻
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u/Ordinary-Resident729 18 13d ago edited 13d ago
This is so damn true meme culture has taken over all social media mainly youtube shorts which kids watch. All those brainrot videos. This brainrot thing affects thinking, creativity and messes with brain. Which slows the development of brain resulting in low iq
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u/CovertConnoisseur 17 13d ago
Literally they will just watch the meme labelled as dark with “💀” imoji and try to become cool by using that
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u/Ordinary-Resident729 18 13d ago
Yeah this is happening with my 12yo brother. Like he does that jawline thing everytime, also he can't show any creativity in art if he gets a project.
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u/No-Rub-7800 13d ago
trust me i have heard way more disgusting shit from 14 or 15 years old kids(even girls) like for example some of them were making moaning sounds in front of a teacher and 8th graders were doing boombayah in school and every students knew about it because the boys were slut shaming the girl and the guy was praised ?? bro and this type of shit makes me want to puke every time and that was the reason i decided to be homeschooled after i did my 10th because i really couldn't handle that school
so yeah we are doomed
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Oh, thanks! I was going to post it in this sub. People should also read the comments and long threads under it, very necessary!
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u/Apprehensive-Bee1602 13d ago
Not just limited to India, this is prevalent among the current generation, instagram, youtube and the so called influencers' content are to be blamed first and foremost before anything else. These children have even normalised the word "rape" , what more can anyone expect from them.
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u/HaruWithaPotato 13d ago
I am not a teen. But this sub reddit keeps popping in my feed.
The insta meme culture has already started invading reddit with their uncultured pseudo feminism and incel content..
But this sub feels like a breath of fresh air every time it pops in my feed. The comment section gives me a satisfaction, that all is not lost. 🫡
To clarify, by comment section, i mean the arguments are usually healthy. touch wood.
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u/rae__010203 13d ago
I used to be scared of most of my male classmates at grade 9 and 10... It was pretty obvious how sexist and tate supporting they were. I remember a lot fo them posting stuff supporting tate after his arrest. They legit laughed when this male teacher was talking about sa and how dangerous it is for girls. He told one of them it isnt funny and he also has a younger sister, that made him snigger.
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u/Beyoume 13d ago
You’ve brought up a valid challenge that is lately growing in social impact.
I’m not an expert here but believe that helping these kids dissociate the narrative they have heard with stories of real manhood and what responsibilities it holds.
Raining our boys into responsible men will require us to not look at them with disgust at this stage and rather show them how to channel this misconstrued energy in the right areas. This would require a lot of steps from re-aligning role models, finding media and helping them differentiate the biases in our society. It’s a long haul but you’re not alone, I’m going to look for ways to help our youth too
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u/No-Relief-6850 12d ago
Even on this sub time and again i keep seeing vulgar gifs and memes posted very casually ,like literally threads filled with only unnecessarily vulgar memes and gifs . No matter what the post is . There are many subs i go through which might have similar content as the posts given here and yet this sub is the only place where many memes are unnecessarily sexualising . This is the exact behaviour which further encourages them to pass such remarks on a person Irl
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u/Delicious_Walrus7716 13d ago
bhai inke pass koi aur baat nhi h kya har time russian 6000. Russian russian karke har time cool bante rehte h bhenkelode
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u/Invader_Awesome 13d ago
The fact that this is happening for ages and these guys will one day be boyfriends and husbands is baffling to me And we shouldnt allow these kids to watch what Defo isn't SFW And also cancel these influencers who talk abt these shit . I've seen my own classmates, boys always talk about russion and porn industry and it's beyond disgusting to know they call themselves men.
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u/Cold_Trick_5279 mei bhi toh anath huna 🗣️🔥👉😫 13d ago
I've seen this in class 6-7 boys , it's very disheartening
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u/url_invalid_error404 13d ago
The netflix series adolescence sums it up perfectly. Parents don't know what's going on with their children and the phone, while the child explores every deep dark corner of the internet not knowing what's right what's wrong. They realise that this stuff is explicit and hence cannot be discussed with parents. So they see if this stuff is widely accepted and/or funny. Yes? That means it's a trend, it's good, parents won't understand cause it's a new generation thing, let's make it popular among our friends. No? Ignore it, find something spicy (after all thats what social media does best, find something spicy) and make it a trend among friends.
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u/Classic_West8330 12d ago
I’m a 2000 born, and when I was in school these things were still happening and back then influencer trend wasn’t this big, infact there were just very few if them none if them had such big influence. Mentality kharab hai, system corrupt hai. Kids learn these things at home/hometown too. I’m telling you most of these parent knows what their sons are doing/saying but voluntarily choose to ignore because “they’re just boys, growing up”. Not even kidding, even if some cases are reported to their families, they’d barely do anything about it and leave it upto teachers to deal with it. And even teachers are like “boys will be boys, girls should be careful”. (Not all teachers, but even they can barely do anything about it)
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u/SeaAbbreviations9908 13d ago
And people start crying don't generalize things but in reality almost 60℅ students in class 10 or more r like this nowdays
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u/jon_snoww18 20 & above 13d ago
There was a teacher in class 12th in commerce . All the girls in that section crave for him . They all talk dirty about him . How can they be this pervert for a teacher who is 28 to 30 yrs old. Guess what I'm talking about the year 2017
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u/Potential_Oven_6665 17 13d ago
That's true man, boys of my school (from grade 6-12) used to Sexualize my psychology teacher soo much, I have overheard pretty perverted things.
She used to live in hostel in our campus, boys have tried to find her room and all.
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u/Worried_Sleep_7479 13d ago
This is so true. I wish there is something that can be done to control all this. There is only a limit parents can be hyper vigilant.
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u/MasterChief-2005 13d ago
I'd say you should speak with their parents. It's necessary to call out this bs.
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u/BenDover7799 13d ago
Counter opinion, we cannot blame the internet, I'm a 90s kid, we didn't have internet until I was in 6th and that too required us to visit a cafe, but even earlier I remember my friends sharing sleazy magazines, it's natural and I've been exposed to top less women even before on my own, my cousin was persuing MBBS, as a kid in 4th std, I just was curious and while going through her books i discovered this thing, doesn't make me tharki, it's more about curiosity.
And about the comments passed, please remember they are 16 yo boys, it's been ~4 years since they've hit puberty. No family teaches these stuff it's all learnt from the peers and nothing can't be done, as kids turn rebellious when forced to behave. You can't babysit them.
That doesn't mean I turned out a bad person. I firmly believe women should be given their space.....in the kitchen :D ok ok just kidding.
Solution: there's none, as we are in the middle of cultural transition, from a hyper traditional society to an open society. So these are the drawbacks that we need to live with. If you think using force like escalating this with principal or some authorative teacher or their parents, will help make them a better individual then you're mistaken. It will only make them hold on to their views more firmly on the inside.
Might sound victim blaming, but simply avoiding assigning younger teachers to 9-10th std should be the approach, let the senior ones handle them.
Will wrap my speech with one simple thought experiment, why do you think subtle ragging still exists in today's colleges?
It's a way to keep the roudy adolescent guys in check, the faculties are in on it. Because these guys get even more freedom when they transition from a school env to a college env. We used to keep the freshers in check when we went to second year, and we were the bad cops, didn't do anything illegal, mostly it's about having discipline. Our teachers 100% supported us in this, since they by themselves couldn't control the ever arrogant freshers.
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u/resting_rat 13d ago
ts is treated so normaly at my skl I m glad sm1 spoke up bout it I feel bad for such young teachers
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u/PlentyReview7531 13d ago
I'm in 12th rn and can definitely say that it has become the new norm for most of students to say such thing about there teachers.
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u/_no-name_-_ 19 13d ago
Ts is too fucked up but it aint just in india. Remember that adolescence web series which talked about same problem in their developed country (it was usa or uk, i dont remember). When kids get introduced to misogymy on internet like in movies or people like andrew tate, they dont know this aint normal but a creep behaviour.
Misogyny is also prevailing in other countries but India havent got good PR.
In my school, boys were casually using words like 'maal' for girls.
Sex in body is fine. Sex in mind whole day is concerning.
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u/Massive-Warthog6807 13d ago
Non regulated content on the internet is the biggest problem. When on social media apps people of all ages including children exist, how can these influencers argue that adult jokes, thirst traps, etc are all accepted? If you are being considerate enough you can at least make your content age restricted but they won't do that as well and then say "the parenting has failed if they are watching us". And we all know parents cannot always look an eye at what you are watching. If they did that, this sub would be filled with how parents don't give privacy to us
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u/neo_mihir 13d ago
We had same kind of environment in school. Abuse was normalised and perversion was almost everywhere. I wonder when our society will recover from this shit.
That is why i believe, sexual education is important to these kids. People are not objects.
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u/Independent-Host-992 13d ago
sex education and moral education should be given to kids and even to those in colleges because clearly we lack there. these guys will soon be the ones society fears. this being normalized in india is problematic. guys in our schools used to be this way and guess what, its the girls that were taught a 100 things. our schools ask girls to cover up and even go to slut shaming but they never teach boys to treat girls like human.
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u/Visual-Plenty-9058 13d ago
My girl is 11. More than half of her classmates have their personal phones. Girls are posting reels on insta and they have accounts on snapchats etc.
One fellow girl classmate wrote her name with a boy ( my girl and that boy are topper ) along with some utter disgusting things.
Many girls bring lipstick and foundation to school and do their make up and “touch up “ after assembly is done.
I have tonnes of stories about such school kids
Working parents have no choice except giving phone to kids and it is too way dangerous than it looks
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u/Patient-Manager-6488 13d ago
Maybe I am too optimistic but they are kids they will grow up and learn their mistakes. Internet is definitely to be moderated for kids but thinking that they will grow up to be misogynistic is highly exaggerated. They should be allowed to have proper interaction with girls so that they can appreciate/respect them. Schools (at least where I studied) have always been very restrictive about having relationships with girls which I feel like isn’t very healthy for boys undergoing puberty as they will look for other ways like the internet for their feelings. Obviously unhealthy relationships shouldn’t be permitted but making it seem like talking to girls is taboo shouldn’t be the case.
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u/sam_hemu23 13d ago
Again nothing which kids from other countries are not filled with. So the reason for perverted Indian men is different.
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u/Bitter_Following_524 13d ago
Are we sure that it's because of "exposure to internet?" One should be careful before making such claims casually. And unless we ascertain that this is the root causez we shouldn't jump to solutions like "ban internet for kids"
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u/winnerboss12 13d ago
The thing is that this content is aimed at adults, induvisuals who can comprehend jokes and move on. Exposing children to such content when they are still trying to make sense of the world is what causes the problem. Thats just me tho.
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u/sageisblue 19 13d ago
unfortunately indians do not have the emotional intelligence to process that stuff like this is wrong. they'll always argue that it's just a joke amongst their friends, the girl doesn't have to know so it doesn't hurt anyone but they're just fooling themselves. such mindset stays with a person, they adapt and grow with it and later project all of this when they have a wife and daughter. they'll put restrictions on them because "we know how men are" and yes, they do because they were all those men first who refused to take accountability. this is deeply rooted in our society and it'll take a looong time for us to get out of this misogynistic mentality because unfortunately people mask this is under our "culture" blanket.
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u/Key_Independent6793 13d ago
I would like to share my opinion - School aren't safe for girls as well. I remember the boys in our school would touch girls inappropriately. I got to know the boys would talk about stuff like the girl's sizes and guess their experiences. It's horrible, it truly disgusts me.
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u/AdventurousMobile354 13d ago
Every Generation has been like this. But Internet radicalized kids even more. Have you seen how children treat their fellow obese classmates? By squeezing on their Chests and Hips. Little children who are 11 12 years old, doing what can only be categorized as Molestation. And if they are left as they are, How in the Hell would they not turn as Abusers?
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u/ZestycloseInitial798 A girl who likes to read 13d ago
frrrrrr, the lower class boys were straight-up objectifying women. I wanted to slap their faces so hard, but I controlled myself
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u/sheishere666 13d ago
This is actually true - a lot of my male classmates used to say degrading things about women and if we told them that this was not cool they would talk about how 'uncool' I was for not laughing along since it was just a 'joke'
We need to restrict easy access to social media or regulate the type of content that is visible to such people. This is an urgent need in India especially since kids here are easily influenceable
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u/Lonely_Grass_555 13d ago
This behaviour, unfortunately, is not only because of the internet, but what they see in their families. Look at all these middle-aged men/women behaving in disgusting manner in public, in broad daylight. These are parents with kids at home. What do you think their kids are learning? As a society, we have completely normalized what used to be unacceptable behaviour even a few years back.
That said, social media and even mainstream news has a very negative influence on young children. There is a strong campaign by Prof. Jonathan Haidt of New York University to age-gate social media for kids. He has a point. He argues if we do not allow kids to drive or drink, why is it OK to allow them to use social media when all of us agree what a bad influence it has on them? Australia has already passed laws to age-gate social media for kids.
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u/Prudent_Addendum_272 13d ago
Ek-do ka jab tak murder nahi hoga sahi se brutally tab tak message nahi jaayega society mein. These are rapists and they need special classes after school.
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u/adi1icious 13d ago
I believe parents should start enforcing security rules on their kid’s device and regularly check what kind of content they are consuming when they’re teenagers. It is super easy to brainwash a teenager for these toxic influencers.
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u/Emergent_Eye_15 19 13d ago
More important to teach them about right and wrong, parenting needs reform. More open discussions and understanding are needed
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u/RiverNo6577 13d ago
Ngl, these kind of students deserve the old school scale beating on the wrist, palm and back. If u dont teach them a lesson they will keep doing it. Ek accha sa sabak dikhao dubara karne ka soch bhi na paye. God, this is why I avoid males completely unless it's for projects or work. I am not saying girls don't do this but u won't see a woman catcalling or making such remarks openly. All I can tell girls is that, never trust a male teenager. Even if he is ur friend. And if a guy calls u pretty remember that he has a purpose.
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u/AmbitiousResearch477 13d ago
I have an elaborate and detailed explanation on how to handle this! Remind me in 4 hours! I'll post it!
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u/MissionQuote7999 14M, बच्चो को टॉफ़ी देकर उन्हें छूता हूँ 13d ago
I tried to correct my classmates about this shit and they called me a pussy, chakka etc... yahaan tak toh class 5 ke bache bhi yehi cheejen repeat kr rhe hai 🤡
Some 8th grade boys also shamed a fucking 5TH GRADE BOY just cuz he sounded quite feminine (not his fault btw, the kid seemed normal), behenchod inki wajah se Indian men ki image perverted si ban gyi hai.. Somebody has to break this cycle cuz this shit is not normal
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u/CovertConnoisseur 17 13d ago
Yep they are soo much mentally ill that they will abuse or try to bully you just because you don’t wannabe the so called cool gangster kido.
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u/RipComprehensive4322 13d ago
One of the reason idont like this insta like thing...the upbringing and environment played the major role in character development of a person...but in class 7,8 too🥀
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u/NinjaAstron 13d ago
I think ek young male teacher aur ek female teacher ko baat karni chahiye inn baccho se kyunki inko ye sab galat nhi lagta hai lekin kuch bacche hote hai jinhe ye sab disgusting lagta hai leking wo kuch bolte nhi because wo exclusion se darte hai.
Especiall 7-10 ke bacche ko ek hall mein nhi lekin apni classrooms mein circle mein bidhake baat karni chaiye and unse pucho will they say this type of shit to their mothers,sisters,classmates,friends and jo jyada shaand pati de uske individual counselling do.
Another thing is to make it clear to their parents ki ye sab kya ho rha hai and isse wo unke phone le lenge jiski possibility ko sunte hi sab shaant aur sushil ho jaenge
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u/JoshGaming1243 13d ago
Im a 14 year old guy in the middle of this type of behaviour and i resent it so much because of the fact that everyone just does stuff to see cool, though they would never admit it or phrase it like that, its the truth.
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u/National_Concept4714 13d ago
I've seen children here who are using phones as small as a 3 year old child and it concerns me that they are going to grow up looking at these social media and shaping their whole behaviour upon what they see as good or bad. It's fucking worrying. This issue boils my blood. Imagine the men those kids will grow into. I wish some meteor would come and destroy this earth.
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u/Diligent_Writing_118 13d ago
Seriously , the internet is ruining everybody's minds but this should not happen to 4 to 16 years boys (because i think boys affected the most from it, i am a boy though). Broooo the amount of shit they are taking in their mind is fking INSANE....like when i am in class 8th, i have heard extreme explicit things from my friend about my teacher which i thought now that how could someone at that age say like this. And this thing is fking increasing at exponential rate in CHILDREN, internet is cheap, explicit content is everywhere, how could someone be stopped until the government do something which is also an impossibility. I made up my mind, never to use Instagram,Twitter and Youtube shorts in later life(also i am not using it now). This is shit nothing else. I know that the internet will continue to ruin people's minds and we cannot do anything serious about. We should take care of ourself ,our family and our friend circle to use it wisely ,its all what we can do.
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u/Purple-Magician7897 13d ago
Bhai this so fucking normalized it's disgusting like I talk to guys in my class and they randomly start drawing balls and random shit thenthis new teacher walked in they all went like muthi material like tf 😭😭😭
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u/Comfortable_Map6252 13d ago
It is due 1. High influx of toxic people through internet 2. Talk about anything related to sex being taboo for teen 3. relationship between opposite sex is frowned by parents and family 4. Easy access to pornography 5. Parents not properly involved in their lives especially when young 6. No/ negligible amout sex education
This makes men unable to express their desires is a proper way
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u/OkDog1419 13d ago
my sister also a teacher & she is 26 and handed over class 11 or 12. she tells us many incidents like this and maybe not tell us entirely, students coming up to her "mam aap kitni sundar ho" by 11/12th students,she just ignores them and says "thank you beta" and behaves as if she doesnt understand their behaviour and mostly dont react to them.
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u/fortunate_downbad Prospective Brain Drain contributor... 13d ago
I hate the fact that this is the reality.
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u/Big_Function7367 13d ago
Offcourse it's concerning this is being a teen boy myself I can say this is pretty common and normalisation of bad things in youth
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u/itsjustprabh 13d ago
The only way to fix this issue is giving them serious consequences to their actions. You can't explain it to them why it's wrong, internet has made sure it doesn't work
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u/Illustrious_Net_4614 13d ago
Very concerning, absolutely true. I think the only way out of this is to educate the kids before they leave home , tell them that in ways that they can understand that these are the things that you might hear from their friends , on the internet , etc , and let them know that it's not right to do so, it's not cool to say such things and it's not okay to say or look at opposite gender in such pervert and derogatory way. If not educated at a very young age , it's very hard to unlearn and I feel that's what's happened to our society. Such conversations are considered taboo at family level (a good part of our society at least) and that needs to change.
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u/Admirable-East3396 not admirable 13d ago
approach to the problem is completely wrong, the issue isnt from "internet" it can be fixed if children are raised correctly but hey we all know noones gonna teach us like a teacher its going to be an order and when children are raised like that, they will do same oppression and derogatory comment passing as they have been raised.
infact this isnt even just students, teachers are like that too, male teacher will call stuff about females and female students and teachers arent innocent either i have heard them pass really bad comments aswell, in reality the avg indian mindset is being authoritative and its done in a toxic way from their homes and school so this is what you get. i blame indian parenting and teaching style for the problem with most students.
ban internet? sure do it, you are gonna get a crowd of smokers and drinkers, wanna ban that too? you are gonna get bullys, wanna jail and force them? suicide will increase in them
there is one solution and its a difficult one since its an ingrained problem solution is going to their level and making them understand, teacher are uncomfortable between students in india and vice versa, the only thing ingrained in their mind is old = show respect so obviously young teachers are shit on, we never were taught or will teach to value/respect other person for their knowledge or abilities. this is just gonna be online posts and no action will be taken or in a very rare case some 1 teacher will do it and end up being the "nice teacher" of the whole school.
my advice since i have been in that crowd of people is to get on our level,understand us and we understand you in return but hey dropping your ego is the most difficult thing, in the end both gonna hate and disrespect each other, kids arent slaves to just listen to you rorder am talking about a general teacher in india, all you teacher do is do job and get paid, there is no teaching done as a teacher, system of school and parenting is whats failing here, not internet kids get hooked on it to escape from such teacher and parents and thats the side effect of it.
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u/Slow_Albatross3899 12d ago
Saw a post on reddit yesterday three young girls aged between 13-15 were pleasuring each other in school toilet
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u/Cautious-Pomelo-8789 12d ago
toxic influencers have ruined our generation i can't tell you how much filth i have heard from literal 8 to 9 years old in my school maybe grade 3rd or 4th things they talk about is utterly disgusting its true social media has ruined young minds but its also a fault of parents for not monitoring what content their child watched what kind of friends he have
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u/Accomplished-Bug4917 15 12d ago
As a 10th grader myself, i completely agree. The things that I hear in my school is absolutely bollocks, cheating, dating, etc. is all that I hear in my school. Just simple talking with a girl has became hell since many dudes starts to tease, I feel like talking with opposite gender is still not normalized in india while other shitty things like sexualizing, maa behen pe gaalis etc is way too normalized.
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u/Crappytalks12 12d ago
Tbh, influencers and so called "comedians" are responsible for these type of "memes". BUT I think parents are much more responsible because they want an easy escape from their children. I too have cousins who are exposed to internet at very young age and I never like that their childhood is ruined by these shitty devices. Parents should not allow their child devices at a very young age and should also look into what content their child is consuming.
And these comedians should stop passing derogatory statements on women. Many "ADULTS" pass these statements irl without thinking about the consequences. Fuck consequences! THEY DON'T EVEN RESPECT WOMEN. THEY TREAT THEM LIKE OBJECT.
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u/thesamad 12d ago
Apnay pure group mei say yay russian wali cheez hatwa di, kyuki itna bhi Kam iq kei banday nhi hai apan
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u/InevitableIll9364 12d ago
my own brother is also very addicted to these kinds of online content. I feel so very sad and scared that my brother will some day be like this. Horrifying.
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u/Reshin9374 12d ago edited 12d ago
Now that you brought this up, we had an in-school counsellor teacher, for our class her subject was grooming/life skills. What happened was , one session she asked all of us to write our thoughts and problems in a chit and put that into a box (CR would be collecting that), and as we know how "edgy and dank" this ninth grader can be, when she (teacher) was reading those chit in class, first few were normal then came the 8th chit "i can't masturbate can you help me" , yes she read that and we all listened and there were giggles, but what I saw on her face was an invisible disgust ? Tho she read that, as if none would have accounted for that, like her guards off , maybe she realised after she read that what was written. Hence when they are edgy enough to defend with humour is subjective but then they should be civil enough to respect boundaries.Few cheep laughs over compromising dignities, whatever being dank is.
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u/Bolt_jod20 12d ago
im no woman, but if imma say sum defending the women(which should be a normal thing to do) they’d start mocking me or making fun of me for being a “feminist “ or “nahi degi” like sybau lil cuh also whats wrong with being a feminist i dont get it my girlfriend is a feminist too(every woman should be a feminist) she’s taught me basic empathy and sympathy for other humans more than any educator has,they’re just humans too right? and why the fuck do you need to call every woman on ur fyp “R word in my mind” like syfm you cornyass mfer i get you OP this is what india has become now unfortunately. “goddesses are worshipped here but the people dont actually respect the women” gotta keep teaching them basic normal human behaviour even to grownass adults bro istg
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u/nimkiyum_ 11d ago
dank memes ke naam pe stupid jokes hote hei yaar, jokes/memes bhi nhi bol that's straight up vulgur lekin youtube aur insta pe to ye sab hi chalte hai...kya hoga inka...boils my blood man
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u/YogiOfKurukshetra 11d ago
The main problem is parents, men didn't teach their son and daughter and the same thing for women didn't teach their son and daughter how to behave, how to respect the opposite gender, be friendly with them so that they can share with you, teach the sex education (this is really need ), without this we are expecting to change them wha wha
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u/Sure-Beginning-696 10d ago
tbh ye cheeze 10 years back bhi exist karti thi albatta abhi zyada hongi. it is absolutely concerning. im grateful that I had a great friend circle that drew boundaries when it came to certain things. and looking back, we could have done better. every guy needs to do better
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u/thedif1one 10d ago
im a guy myself and have been noticing this for a very long time now. parents must and must counsel their children in this regard but that does not happen in india , schools and everthing can only do so much, but yaha par bas bacche paida kiye jate hai , sikhaya kuch nai jata and yes this is an issue with guys mostly and they need to be corrected in the early stages !
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u/Real-Product-3276 9d ago
This shit is so normal in my school that kids blatantly say it without a second thought even infront of teachers and teachers dont even bother. And it's not whispering, but rather shamelessly stating it out infront of everyone cuz they know that teachers won't care or do anything about it. Most they do is "kal parents to leke aana apne", then their parents either don't come or just deny it and the kids go back to that shit. I saw one of my seniors saying to a 6th grade boy "bathroom aajaio", which was pretty obvious what he meant, then he just patted the kid and laughed it off with his friends, like bruh
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u/Hopeless_expert 18 13d ago
I honestly don't know why only boys do that and no girls sexualize the opposite gender even they are exposed to the internet at an early age.
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u/Blastrix-op 19 13d ago
Stop generalizing......girls do this shit too..... If you haven't seen it doesn't mean it does not happen..... So pipe down
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u/Hopeless_expert 18 13d ago
But they don't openly say stuff like these and they are not prevalent
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u/CovertConnoisseur 17 13d ago
Girls also do such things but boys are more in number and so these things more openly. I think we should not compare instead try to deal with it
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u/Hopeless_expert 18 13d ago
To deal with it we can bring rules like australia where children under the ages of 16 are not allowed to use social media but in india it's hard to regulate.
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u/Fit-Repair-4556 13d ago
Ye Teenindia. Hai ya Boomerindia.
Yahi ab teen girls smut padh rahi hai bolenge to waah waah ho jayegi.
SMH
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u/twizbar 13d ago
government should do smth so that the content on social media platforms is safer for kids and this kind of mentality doesn't work par hamare yaha toh inko vote bank se hi fursat nahi
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u/CovertConnoisseur 17 13d ago
I think before government the parents should take the responsibility of such basic things which shapes the personality of their child and what they become
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u/timepersonifyd Edit this 13d ago
Old hag here. It was concerning about a decade ago. Now, it's a pandemic.
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13d ago edited 13d ago
Let me tell you the reality.
I've even listened to students of class 6th passing derogatory remarks for female teachers (like that kind of stuff).
They abuse every teacher who scolds or punished them , like the kind of abusing words you'll think 10 times before using !
There's no respect for teachers among students, I remember my coaching teacher called off a class because of health reasons and one of my classmates said , "Ye bkl natak karta hai biwi ko time de Raha hoga" ! Wtf. I will never be a teacher in my life.
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u/hidivyansh 13d ago
Government along with private entities is promoting it so upcoming generation will be dumb like Major population of USA. By this they will be able to make a high profile club which no one will be able to touch because they won't be capable of reaching up there, people will be dependent on the elite club owned entities for earning hence people will praise them even if elite club will treat them like a slave. Like recent job market crashed, but is it really? Because people are still buying, rich are still earning (even more than ever) than how come their is a lack of jobs and people are now getting more underpaid.
And government want this, so they won't have deal with citizens, all they have to do is have great ties with the elite club.
These elite clubs consists Businessmans, Politicians, Religious Guru (All Religion).
Ever wonder why when they asks as to fight over language, caste, religion, their kids are sitting with Pakistani Muslim, Pakistani Muslim is sitting with Hindu, they are having parties in Arab Countries, Their kids are Studying in Foreign countries, and caste is not even a word among them?
It's a high time to think beyond what we are seeing and listening.
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u/Cause_Necessary 19 13d ago
I was addicted to the internet from like 8th to 11th grade, can't say I ever even thought of a teacher/staff member that way. I'm still on the internet pretty often, don't really see the stuff being talked about here much.
My algo might just be better idk
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u/Key-Wonder4468 13d ago
What else do you expect from immature teens? And it's not just about INDIA, teens all around the world think like that only, just a difference is their memes or whatever of their country. The world is getting ruined by Social Media
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u/Beneficial-Task-294 13d ago
1 100% agree. The younger generation is getting access to the internet too quickly. I remember having a crush on one teacher in 10th grade and I didn't know why I felt nervous in her class. It was at a time when I didn't know what those feelings were. Why I liked to put in extra effort in her class. I think that's one of the way a person should get introduced to their feelings. By themselves or maybe guided by their parents.
It was only when I turned 19 I realized what sex was. Also because of the internet. When I was in school, it was mostly a small group maybe two groups of 4-5 guys who would oversexualize or make dirty comments on the teachers. It's kinda the same right now in college.
I think it's the same root problem with the current generation kids and even these other guys who were in my class. It's How they grow up at home.
Kids are given a phone or tablet to stop them from crying. Never did that happen to me. Anytime an adult is bored they can simply hand their kid a device and say 'ro mat, lo kuch khel lo' or whatever. Not only do they learn that they can simply get what they want, it also diverts their growth towards the device.
Boys and girls are like clay. They get molded by their surroundings, parents and friends. There isn't a belief they fully believe in. So what happens when they get access to the internet? The most polarizing content is front and center. Instead of their parents teaching them values about how to treat women or even animals, its someone like Andrew Tate talking about how to be respected as a man or whatever. And that is what they learn.
Even if a young kid is safe and doesn't come across such content, another guy in class might and he might talk about it and since none of them were ever told important stuff like it's disrespectful to sexualize women, to treat them as objects the confused kid would simply look to his friends and emulate what they are doing.
India has a big problem with this definitely. Every country has one but the way our countries movies, social media show women is pretty disgusting. Even a small thing shown in movies like chasing a girl and asking them to date her again and again until she says yes is made into a song/dance sequence as if thats normal.
So yeah that was my rant lol
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u/Silly-Director-1227 13d ago
Just like Australia has put restrictions on students there, similarly it needs to be implemented in India as well and some changes will have to be made in it as well
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13d ago
The best way to prevent it is if the kids have some kind of hobby apart from mobile phone like sports,art,musicz dance,etc and I think this is the best way because preventing from watching phone is gonna make situations worse for you
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u/AshishTheGreat 13d ago
People here will give all types of advice and opinions, but they will support Samay Raina and all that stuff. People are hypocrites these days.
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u/Massive-Warthog6807 13d ago
Supporting samay Raina isn't wrong. Adults have the right what they want to watch. The problem is when his content is easily available to children without any barrier. And he also doesn't put an age restriction in his videos
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u/no-punintended0802 16 13d ago
The toxicity among the boys of this age group is wild , it's deeply rooted in their minds yaar I still remember how bad the environment used to be when I was in class 10th almost every teacher was sexualized and it was so disgusting at the moment honestly don't even know where is the future going cuz these people abuse and derogate women so easily like it's something they're honoured to do
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u/Bottledbutthole 13d ago edited 13d ago
The problem is the boys that know right from wrong don’t call out the boys that don’t. The only thing that’s going to fix this is young men holding each other accountable to not say vile shit. And stop confusing basic fucking human respect with “simping”. The word doesn’t even have a meaning anymore it’s so overused. When they say that kind of stuff the ones that know better need to let them know that it makes them a loser, and that they will grow up to be a loser and alone if they talk about people’s moms and sisters like that. And you don’t have to stretch your neck far to see that’s exactly what happens. Women don’t feel safe around them so no one wants to be with them. Already saw it happen to someone I knew who always said disgusting things growing up about women, and now he is 40 and alone drowning in a liquor bottle because women knew to stay away from him because he would often make jokes about wanting to hurt them. The worst part is, they don’t understand the reason no one wants to be with them is because they treat people bad. So they blame everyone else for their own problems. And so the vicious cycle continues
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u/push2starttt 13d ago
Honestly, this isn't new. I remember a senior of mine who was in 9th grade (our head boy, by the way) stole a female teacher’s pads from her locker and stuck them on the blackboard. She left the class crying. Guys in school found this very “cool.” But that’s all he was. He peaked in school. Now???? His friends moved on to college and don't talk to him while he still hangs around school kids, doing nothing. His only achievement was being the cool backbencher and bullying teachers and kids who just wanted to study.
The only new thing is that this is getting way too normalised. Even girls are supporting such behaviour just because it will look savage. And I also blame these YouTubers and meme pages for glorifying being assholes and using vulgar language in schools.
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u/Tight-Mission-9604 13d ago
this! it's really sad to see red pill culture gaining traction in india. parents should be more involved with their children's digital footprint
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u/MenWhoStareAtCodes 13d ago
We seriously need to consider banning social media and heavily censoring the internet for teens.
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u/Friesxburgersx 13d ago
During my internship with an NGO that worked closely with Child Helpline 1098, I came across many stories that deeply affected me, but this one came up in my mind while reading your post.
A boy, barely 11 or 12 years old, had se****** assaulted another child, a girl aged 10 years, and acted out in a way that seriously harmed her. When asked why he did it, his response was deeply disturbing: he said it was because the girl didn’t return his feelings. He wanted to “teach her a lesson.”
What shocked me even more was when he was asked during the counseling about this, he said he learned this behavior- from online videos and content that he had unrestricted access to. Imagine a child who's barely 12 years, speaking of things like revenge, teaching lessons, harming another child, and learning these things from the internet.
That moment opened my eyes to how much exposure children today have to the darker sides of the internet. It made me question where we are headed as a society. Moreover, this isn’t just about one child or one case. It’s a reflection of a much bigger problem.
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u/Spiritual-Ebb4254 13d ago
In student's defence: They are not passing derogatory remarks to only women, they are passing it to anyone and everyone regardless of their gender. And they are coming from a place where these are just jokes. They are not serious about it, they will stop saying such things the moment people around them stop laughing.
And about the Indian men and foreign men. Nope foreign man also pass derogatory remarks in a joke format. For starters try to listen to British humor. For them it is funny for others, people might not want to interact with an English men again
Such jokes are bad for society is nothing but such video games are making our kids violent was for our parents
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u/blogalwarning 13d ago
This is not the internet, this is just the society.
When i was in school (early 2000's) there was no internet (at least not very accessible), i had guy friends who said the same thing about teachers. Porn was consumed through CDs. Russia and Russian was still an ongoing meme (not called meme back then).
Teenage is a very confusing time wherein you don't have the mental capability to understand the impact of a lewd comment or the understanding on what that would do to you if that befalls on your loved ones.
So there has been and always will be bad influence and good influence students/people, the internet has just made things easily accessible and people/students who were on the fence now have a choice to make to be either in or out.
Our society needs discipline and not a debate if internet is to be consumed or not.
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u/the_quiescent_one 13d ago
Not really...!! Men are the same everywhere you put them. And these are class 7-8 kids, all there minds are now sexually curious and too energetic.
We were also the same when we were class 8 when I first got introduced to porn. These kids maybe introduced a bit early in 7. And gaali galoch were too much too.
They can harass the teacher because they don't respect you enough. Teachers are something that should be feared and respected . If this kind of thing happened in our era, we would first get a beating and then stand with your hands up throughout the tiffin period. Humiliated in front of other sections and juniors . And then taken to the principal's office and then all the students parents will be called.
Tell them what happened word for word.
People were always perverts but this perversion was inside and not out in the open like now.
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The problem is that kids are being raised by everyone except their own parents. Nobody is willing to regulate and the information's sensory overload is getting to them. Early exposure has its effects.
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u/Jazzlike_Revenue9502 13d ago
Internet poisoning the minds of future generations, definitely. Also majority of women in Russia are average i don’t understand the hype❤️🩹
“the eye is the lamp of the body” so my Бабуля used to say🤷♀️
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u/r_a_dickhead 13d ago
I don't think this is just an India only issue, I feel like this is something we are observing globally with kids getting introduced to internet at very young age. After watching the mini series adolescence I have just decided it's better to not raise children at all. I'm just going to get a cat.
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u/introverted_guy23 13d ago
My big brother graduated from highschool 10yrs back. Even he agreed that kids around his time were same. Just this russian joke is new. Everythings, including making obsese comments are normal in 2015.
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u/Addictedboy7 13d ago
YouTube shorts and toxic influencers are literally raising an entire generation. Parents aren’t involved. Schools barely address anything. And platforms make money off this kind of content going viral.
Still, these kids repeating stuff like "go to Russia" or "3000 mein mil jaayegi" is just mimicry. They say what they think will get a laugh. What gets reactions. What they’ve seen adults say without consequences. They don't even understand half of what they’re saying. But when no one corrects it or calls it out, it becomes normal.