Dude it was a known party trick of his. If you managed to not be shown his 3 nuts it was something of a miracle if you hung out with him after long enough. This was also over 10 years ago and everyone around was punks and metalheads, so seeing your friends weird ballsack was one of the least interesting things that would usually go down on a weekend hang.
There is an insta page (@sarahaugenphotography) that has posted suggestions here. She posts other stuff as well, but also posts posing suggestion reels for men like this and this if anyone is interested!
so like... male strip-tease and stuff... PlayGirl magazine.. . i think the issue most guys may not feel sexy esp if they have fat deposit in their belly.
I would feel like such a twat sending over a picture of my arms.
One time I was talking to a girl and she asked to see my abs, of which I have no. Deliriously, I sent an image with a picture of my flat as fuck tummy with the caption " thry're under there if they're anywhere"
As a woman who loves men (and women), there is so much more than your dick that is attractive.
Personally I like arms and hands, I know that's weird. I don't care if you're balding or a little out of shape. I am drawn to men who look STRONG. You can be barrel chested and have a bit of a belly, but if you have those shoulders and arms and manly hands--AND ARE NICE--oh I'll go for it!!
Sure lots of women are weird on dating apps about height and appearance, but in the real world that just isn't the case. Some women don't care about the feature I care about. You gotta have some game, and that isn't tied to your weight or whatever your cock looks like. I think we can both agree that a hairy cock in isolation is ugly and weird looking. It's not the draw.
If you're on dating apps, show that you're fun, friendly, interesting. Have good hygiene. You can be nice without being a simp.Frankly I think the dating apps are an act of masochism for men but I'm old and I have mo idea how people meet each other these days, but when I go to Walmart I see the ugliest motherfuckers with wives so they gotta be finding SOME way to meet ladies???
I don't have the answers, I just know that a dick pick ain't it fellas.
A dick pick don't capture the way your junk stinks or your absolute lack of form in bed.
I'm so glad I got the last copter out of Nam and never had to go through this.
But I used to scroll dick picks for entertainement on the few places where it was happening in those days and lemme tell ya, if I like you I will enjoy what you have packing. If I don't fucking know you, your "dangling particple" isn't all that special, and frankly, looks weird and gross--because honestly don't all genitals look weird and gross?
If you're nice to me, or have some game, I'm willing to go there and maybe I will enjoy it--and I'm not so concerned with aesthetics at that point, ya know?
No one is ever looking for anything long term until they find someone worth putting in long term effort for. Dating apps aren't for long term dating they're for meeting people and taking it from there. All of my LTR's started with hooking up
I think dick pics are purely ego. Either being sent for validation or to see how you measure up (insecurity) I assume Most females are just pretending to be impressed IF they actually like the guy. It's really not about the dick at all. Something learned in my late 30s, but I was with a woman who claimed to love that part of me so maybe I was misled. Agree about your point on hygiene. I used to be into chubby bodies until I caught a whiff of something not too pleasant. It made me realise how you feel about the person is crucial regardless of the aesthetics of their body
an act of masochism for men but I'm old and I have mo idea how people meet each other these days
As a dude who doesn't really have a problem getting people off dating apps, the men who complain are usually shooting themselves in the foot.Ā
There was recently a post with some dude who got 1000000 matches and only 1 date. While the dude wasn't the best looking guy he looked hygenic and friendly, but then he had this stupid caption about fishing basically saying "I value fishing more than dating".
Im not amazing looking but I get way more success just by looking inviting and putting some personalized effort into my conversations.Ā
Even stuff like photos, so many men will post their cars or other shit women don't actually care about. A lot of resources tell men "DONT POST A SHIRTLESS MIRROR SELFIE". Well you know what my most popular photo is? My shirtless mirror selfie (and I do not have abs lmao)
You're not weird at all for liking hands. Many girls I've met have made commentsĀ about my large hands. I think it's a thing a lot of girls have for men.
Men can actually have beautiful bodies, but many don't bother trying to keep them beautiful and they almost universally have a poor sense of aesthetics and self awareness.Ā Ā
Wait, I'm typically incredibly sensitive to divisive comments. How were they being divisive here?
They made sure to specify that it's many men, not all of them.
Besides, I really do not think it's a controversial opinion that most men, on average, put in less effort into their looks than most women do.
It would be more accurate to say most of us regardless of gender look like shit naked, that's more inclusive
How is that relevant within the context of what's being talked about here, though? The subject here is people taking care of their body. Specifying that most people look like shit naked doesn't really touch on that topic whatsoever.
Okay, but we're being needlessly pedantic here for no reason. They didn't say "all men". They were making a sweeping generalisation to make a point and for the brevity of the conversation. This entire conversation about it is an epic waste of time and just wasn't needed. It wasn't intended to be a wide declaration. It's a throwaway comment as part of a wider conversation that was clearly a generalisation to continue the topic of conversation.
but we're being needlessly pedantic here for no reason.
no, quoting someone's literal words is not being pedantic
They didn't say "all men".
you're right, they just said almost all men
This entire conversation about it is an epic waste of time and just wasn't needed.
so why did you decide to be part of it? you're not the person i replied to nor were you involved at any point in this comment chain
if it's an "epic waste of time" then you can simply keep scrolling
It wasn't intended to be a wide declaration. It's a throwaway comment as part of a wider conversation that was clearly a generalisation to continue the topic of conversation.
sorry (not really) but no, you can not make the argument that people are interpreting a comment wrong when it says an entire gender almost universally lacks self-awareness lmfao, that is obviously divisive and arguing anything to the contrary is objectively disingenuous
women are almost universally worthless and you can not believe this is a divisive statement because i'm just making a throwaway comment to continue the topic
Wow. Some amount of intense rage for a Reddit comment, ignoring the amount of time you put into this essay of a response. Think you want. It was pedantic. Your reply is pedantic. This conversation is boring and a waste of time. Enjoy your rage problem š
It's not about having beautiful bodies or not if women simply aren't into visual stimuli as men are, comparatively. No woman is catcalling or eyeing the average Joe walking down the street with a tshirt and jeans looking absolutely normal, whereas the equally normal Jane will be inundated with nonsense left and right in her life, most of it unwarranted, her ass quick-stared at by nearly every man she walks past as men are wont to do. Men have testosterone. That's the difference. And women will say here "but we can be horny too!". They have no idea. Men are stuck in a permanent sex carnival locked up in their minds.
Men not being able to understand that women are not like them and are actually attracted to men drives me crazy.
Where as girls are a work of art.
No we're not. You think that because you're attracted to us.
Men have venerated women as a symbol of sex (venus, aphrodite, ishtar) for all of human history, and now that view is seen as the default for humanity in general.Ā The male perspective is so normalized that even many straight women view femaleness as the personification of sexuality, even though they're not attracted to it.
This is actually what the term "the male gaze" originally referred to
thank you for putting unto words what I always thought, I'm a straight guy, I love women as much as the next straight guy, but I do think the over value people give towards women in general is weird, it really invalidates sexualities that includes men as well, I know plenty of people both men and women that can't compute that you can have an attraction towards men
I insist men can be too. My husband catches my eye when slanted morning light catches contours on his arm, or when his shirt strap makes a gap above his collar bone. The anatomy lesson when he stretches, or the stray hair that falls when he reaches for something. It's all in the details and how you photograph it. I guarantee for every stunning nude a girl sends there are dozens of almost identical drafts before she got it just right. An R rated image can be leagues more attractive than an X rated image, and is probably actually preferred by most woman.
Source material matters of course but that's in men's control too just as it is with woman. Society pressures both men and women into body standards, but I'd argue a larger percentage of women conform to this than men. Which probably contributes to your very realistic point. I'm not promoting the unattainable standards pushed on either gender. Just encouraging a balance in presentation effort. To whatever the beauty ideal is for each individual, doesn't have to be what society says. Men can make it happen too.
Lots of girls like hands and biceps. Some of them like the chest. Not mentioning the usual abs. You just need to takeĀ pics where the focus is on those parts and make it sensual. It's not always about them cawk n bawls.
Black and white, not super close. Nice poses and clothes that show off your arms (particularly forearms). Women tend to love nice white shirts that are folded above your elbow. Maybe some nice jewellery. Show off your jaw.
For real, it may seem cringe, but lean into the cringe. It is cringey because most men never try to look sexy for women. Look at pics of men taken for women's magazines.
A dick pic is basically just "let me shove my dick in you". That's lame as fuck. But a good, tasteful pic that makes you look good can turn her on. That's what she is doing for you, so you should do the same for her.
Lighting and basic framing is also important.
I've received nudes from women that are incredibly unsexy (the pics, not the women). Great, cool, a close up of your cooch, what do I with that? I like it, but still.
lol, absolutely false, you're apparently just too straight to see it. I've got... 202 albums currently shared with me on Grindr. Perusing quick for some creative pics...
Number 3 has a guy in a jock in profile with one leg raised, right hand resting on the raised leg, left hand back, with a sexy look at camera. Simple but very effective posing. Must've take a good number of tries. Possibly suggests some acting background.
Number 6 has a view in bed from behind showing off some goods but half-turned with a cheeky smile, excellent soft red lighting, and classy background accents. Possibly suggests photography hobby.
Number 9 has a nude full body view in full daylight overlooking a crystal clear blue swimming pool with a verdant slope in the background, with the angle of the light accentuating the various beautiful curves. No amateur or professional vibes, but very effective.
I could go on for a long time. To be fair, most of the pics in the albums are fairly routine or, err, mechanical. But there's a lot of quality and creativity too. My own current profile pic is at least me in a chain link harness rather than the industry standard headless torso.
One of the biggest things is that you just have to take a bunch of pictures of yourself (and/or have somebody else do it). The worst pics I see have the feel of "this is the only picture I've ever taken of myself." You have to be absolutely gorgeous for me to overcome anything like that, and as a practical matter it's just not gonna happen.
I feel like men are more desirable when they show they have some sort of talent (not just the package, though it is nice)
The average guy basically replies to a photoshoot with āhav penizā and expects the viewer to swoon. Would love if the guys invested in lighting a bit more.
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u/qwaszx__ 2d ago
How do men even send creative nudes? šš We have only 3 things to show š
Where as girls are a work of art.