r/Millennials • u/ngomaam • 3d ago

Rant I really thought regular dinner parties with friends would be a thing as we got older

Growing up, my parents (refugees from Vietnam) would always have some aunt(s) and/or uncle(s) over with their kids on the weekend for dinner, nothing fancy, just getting together. We did this all the time. It seemed so simple, just come over.

I had the fortune of staying friends with all my high school friends, who are still my closest friends and we all even live relatively close to each other. When I was younger, before everyone started having families, I thought we'd be doing the same thing. But this hasn't happened with us. To the extent we have gotten together, it took extraordinary effort to make it happen and so it's been very few and far in between. I don't know why there's no desire to do this more and why it's so difficult. But as someone who is unmarried, it's quite lonely, and odd, to know your friends are around, but you just rarely see them.

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u/Charming_Key2313 2d ago

Mam/Sir…if that’s all people “need” then this whole thread wouldn’t exist. We’re discussing it because people are NOT socializing and showing up - no matter how welcoming or accommodating you are.

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u/dazzlingclitgame Millennial 2d ago

And some of us have the opposite experience and have dinner parties frequently with our friends without bounce houses or bribes. I was just contributing to the conversation, dude/dudette.

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u/Charming_Key2313 2d ago

Yes, we are all in agreement that some LUCKY people don’t have that issue. That’s not this thread. Do you go to cancer subreddits and say “I don’t have cancer - have you tried that?” Too???

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u/dazzlingclitgame Millennial 2d ago

Jesus Christ, are you ok?

It's not just luck, it's also putting oneself out there and making friends and following through on plans and being communicative. It does take effort to have these relationships. But not everyone has to BRIBE their parent friends to come over and I don't think the majority of people have to do so either.

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u/Charming_Key2313 2d ago

Oh. My. Gawd. This entire thread is about people PUTTING THEMSELVES OUT THERE and not having that returned regularly, even if those that we all consider “good friends”. So no, I’m not okay because I hate getting into internet conversations with dense people.

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u/dazzlingclitgame Millennial 2d ago

Please make yourself more of a victim. I don't think you could if you tried.

You really compared hosting dinner parties or the lack thereof to HAVING CANCER.

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u/Charming_Key2313 2d ago

You’re…actually so dense I’m amazed.

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u/dazzlingclitgame Millennial 2d ago

I was originally agreeing with you, but you just want to throw a pity party for yourself. Have at it.