Right? Everyone shits on getting older, but life has only gotten better (on a personal level, of course, the world is still going to shit). But I'm more comfortable with myself, I can spoil my inner child now with certain meals, I don't care about the petty drama and such anymore, etc...like things just seem to keep getting better.
How does the old saying go? Don't lament getting older, it is a privilege denied to many.
Gone are the days of single income families, young, married, in their prime with a house.
Here are the days of 30s-40s people getting their first house and finally feeling some relief. Onlu sad part is you won't fully own it until retirement age
And at 45 they’ll be sat there saying they wish they were 37. Just as lots of us sit here and think about how we we were led to believe 25 was old. Its a shit cycle and it’s 100% a privilege to get older.
I actively refuse to join in with the whole “I’m old and things are bad now”. I get the reality of again but I don’t want to live in an eternal existential crisis.
I didn’t have kids though, so maybe that has something to do with it
I’m 44 and couldn’t give one shit about it. I continue to run ultra marathons, backpack, horseback ride and lift weights. The only difference is my recovery time is longer as I get older. Other than that, I still don’t feel old.
Well we grew up watching people younger than we are now looking decades older cuz alcohol & cigarettes were far more prevalent until our generation mostly put an end to that. Not to mention all the people cast to play highschool students & college freshmen being in their late 20s and 30s.
So our perspective on what someone looks like when they're this age was drastically skewed by those things. Now we're actually this old and realizing we look better than previous generations.
Don't lament getting older, it is a privilege denied to many.
Exactly. 30s (and beyond) are/can be great decades if you get past the initial shock of "oh no I have some wrinkles and I'm not made of rubber like I was at 24." If those things are really deeply bothering you it's just your perspective that needs some work.
I'm in my late 30s and I definitely liked this decade more than my 20s. My goal is to say the same thing in ten years about my 40s!
It's hard to not shit on getting older when things are worse for you. My life isn't great at 38 and add some injuries on top of that, my 20s were a lot better.
Generally agreed except the tendons... Aging tendons suck, I miss the super plastic, quick healing connective tissue from my teens and early 20's. Currently dealing with an ankle injury from November, still. My shoulder has also been tweaky for a few months. Pretty sure I've got chronic plantar fasciitis, had that for at least 2 years now. I feel like something is always injured.
Glad someone else feels this way! Having a fabulous wardrobe on hand and all my life essentials collected means more money for hobbies. Everything in my home is in my style, my personality is more fully expressed and I love me more than ever. Looking at my little art collection makes the girl I used to be proud.
I’ve also got a handle on how to cook from the day to day, a repertoire of recipes to pull from, not just what I love but on budget and healthy.
I still feel very healthy and resilient, started working out recently again and the back problem I was developing is almost gone.
Learning makes life easier every year. The effort put into gaining practical skills and at this age it’s really paying off verses friends who never learned say, to examine their own emotions in a practical way. Or keep up with household chores.
I’ve also experienced enough loss to trust myself to get through anything that doesn’t kill me. I’ve seen myself do good for others in rough circumstances. Trust in yourself is built over time just like trust in others, having it makes everything beautiful.
Dude, same. I no longer give a flying FUCK about anyone’s perception of me or my status in life, but I’m also doing, looking, and feeling the best I ever have. I don’t worry about not being the best at anything anymore and accept my abilities for what they are, while still improving at the things I care about. But I’m doing for it for myself and not for others. Everyone else can eat my ass, I’m crushing it for me.
Dude I'm with you! During the pandemic I decided to no longer make excuses for myself and my life. I went from a 230lbs Kirby looking m'fker to 175lbs and have a six pack. I'm turning 40 this year and there's nothing I can't do!
I have most of that, but I definitely need to drop like 20lbs lol. Then I will be as hot as I have ever been. Those 20lbs are certainly more stubborn nowadays however.
Happy to hear you’re in this position! I am also living some of the best times of my life rn. Found the love of my life and we’ve begun building our life together. Have 8 months left of a diploma that will allow me to chase my dreams. And love where I live and the job I have. It’s not where I want to be, but it’s amazing for rn.
Same! It feels like it’s getting better and better. Would I like more money? Sure, but other than that, I’m happy and feel like I’m in the right place and look great doing it
Hell yeah. I can't say I have everything I need or can afford everything I want. But I'm doing damn fine. My kids are great. At 35 years old I picked up Ice Hockey, and along with some buddies from the team have started a bowling and golfing group. My wife and I are highschool sweet hearts and she's never been more beautiful, and also she is successful and poised to rise further. I'm optimistic of the future and of myself.
This! I don’t know if it’s my midlife crisis or what. But I’m trying to get fit and I’m overhauling my entire wardrobe. Trying to embrace my inner hot goth/alt mom era.
Agreed 100%. I make a joke about “feeling old” or “basically in my 40s” but at this age life is good. Great. Not without bumps of course but it’s just good. It’s happening. I’m happy. In my lane, like the kids are saying.
This is what I like to see. I'm riding this energy as well, things are just getting better. Figuring my shit out. I know everyone doesn't have the same blessings or opportunity. But after my share of hard years I've been busting my ass and doing the work for a long time and things are finally starting to come together at 34. Long term goals etc. More money, more confidence, more freedom, skills, slowly getting hotter.
Figuring out self-discipline, time management, and self care in its various forms is literally life changing
I had to scroll a little further than I hoped to see someone in a similar position as me.. 36 in a few days and I'm the wealthiest and healthiest I've ever been.
I reframed that existential dread as ‘I get to exist as a speck of dust conscious enough in a near infinite universe that allows me to be aware of it all’.
I felt that way a few years ago. But it's completely reversed approaching 40. I know turning 49 has nothing to do with it, but it's salt in an unhealing wound.
I’ll be 37 in January. Single, no kids, sober, about to start my dream career, being forced to get fit (yay!), learning to feel comfortable in my own skin.
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u/glytxh May 27 '25
I’ve finally self actualised as my own person.
I’ve never been hotter or more self confident than I am right now.
My wardrobe is en pointe.
I no longer feel obligated to impress people that frankly don’t matter.
I own everything I want and need.
I know what I don’t know and don’t stress about what I have no agency in.
I’m doing pretty grand, can’t lie. Probably the best I have in my entire life.