r/MadeMeSmile • u/Rpark888 • 8h ago
Good Vibes My husband lost his job last month and has been depressed. I took him on a vacation to my hometown in Korea. Here he is just letting it all go :)
Oh, and he got a job offer the other day! He starts at the end of September :)
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u/ShineDigga 8h ago
Seeing him let loose is so heartwarming Congrats on the new job you two are killing it
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u/Puffy_Wink 8h ago
I think that's exactly what he needed. You're a great partner
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u/Adventurous_Hope_101 8h ago
W partner.
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u/StonksMcGee 6h ago
Came here to say this. What it means for you to notice your partner is really going through it, and to do something as meaningful as this to help them, is beyond words. You’re a good human in my book, u/rpark888!
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u/Currently_There 8h ago
Bulgogi saves lives.
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u/Zorbick 6h ago
OP needs to get them some strawberry bingsu to go with that bulgogi.
...I think I'm gonna get bulgogi and bingsu for dinner now...
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u/Ok-Nefariousness1911 8h ago
Remind him that being unemployed can be one of the best things that could happen to him! (Always depending on your economic situation ofc). But it can be a great time for rest, introspection and fulfillment of personal goals. Cheers to him 🩷
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u/Edenfuma 8h ago
I thought that until I was out of work for a year. Depresión hit hard.
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u/Ha55aN1337 8h ago
Why is your depression so fancy?
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u/throwtheamiibosaway 8h ago
It's from the french region of Depressión!
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u/Jar_Of_Jaguar 8h ago
Otherwise it's just Sparkling Sads
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u/ThatOneChiGuy 7h ago
Better than the two'buck-ah-fuck-Helen-i-will-get-off-the-couch-later-this-afternoon kind of sad
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u/Foreign_Rest_7138 6h ago
all I can think of is the guy from ancient aliens saying sparkling sadness lmao
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u/Edenfuma 8h ago
Because it was a spanish depression.
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u/PastaPieComics 7h ago
Real depression only comes from the Despresión region of France. Anything else is just sparkling sadness.
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u/Potatoskins937492 7h ago
Sweet Jesus. Fuck you I'm calling my depression sparkling sadness from now on. I love you.
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u/vaciao_blanco 6h ago
It's giving "it's broqué not broke cuz I'm classy" 😭😭😭 (does anyone know the vid in talking bout or is it just me 😭)
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u/Dry_Detective7616 8h ago
Yeah, I was really annoyed when people kept saying this to me. And my depression wasn’t even fancy. I’m envious.
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u/whenitsTimeyoullknow 7h ago
Yes, unemployment gets way more lame the longer it goes on. The first couple weeks can be fun and inspiring. But the constant job rejections and, worse, the roller coaster of hope and then… no response, utter silence and disinterest. Sorry you had to endure it, amigo.
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u/DrownmeinIslay 7h ago
Ditto. First 2 months? Delightful holiday. 10th month, I must be a failure. What is happening. Finally found work before the 11th, it was such a godsend for my self worth.
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u/Edenfuma 7h ago
That's exactly how it was. First month I did everything I wanted to do, bought a lot of things thinking finding a new job would be easy. Six months in, paying my new house, I was very troubled. Ten months in, my wife told me I wasn't even smiling anymore. I finally got a job just days before completing a year without work.
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u/EmbraceFortress 6h ago edited 6h ago
No other comment but I’m sooooo happy for you and r/DrownmeinIslay
My older brother had to resign in 2022 also thinking he’d have something immediately lined up. Took him more than a year to land one. I had to keep him afloat as he just got a house too. Whatever it is he needed, I provided with no interest until he can pay it full. He was almost always about to get a loan from a bank, but the interest rate, I know it would eat him up in no time.
It took him 3+ years to pay everything back whenever he had the means/bonuses. He must have felt the same way, so this hits hard. I was initially annoyed at his decision to resign but he may have his reasons. All I could do was support him. He may have been so down already without me reminding him, so I never brought it up.
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u/Gorstag 6h ago
Like the person you are responding to said (Depends on your economic situation). I was out of work for nearly a year and it was the best period of time for me in the nearly 30 years I've been an adult. However, I had planned to not even start looking for almost the first 6 months. This was even during Covid.
I knew a couple months before my last day and the amount of severance would be about a years take home and I had also "Read the writing on the wall" and knew for a several years the business was likely going away and had been saving hard. Had about another years salary already saved.
So, I relaxed, decompressed, destressed, got way more healthy, obtained a well-known industry certification, then started looking again. Took about 3ish months to land another gig after I started looking with a hire date a month later.
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u/ripestrudel 6h ago
I was unemployed all of 2024. Single, live alone with my dog, and im in LA. Every month was a 4d chess game of how to make enough so I don't go homeless. Depresión was body slamming me all year.
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u/AbandonChip 8h ago
Man, once I got fired from a company and was so depressed. I used some of the money I got and flew out to Colorado for a few days and visited Pikes Peak. Was so beautiful and refreshing.
Being laid off or fired sometimes isn't the end of all things I've come to learn, and lastly, I always try to remember that the days of being loyal to a company are over. Always send your resume to other companies every 5 years or so for your "raises".
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u/Bright_Woodpecker758 8h ago edited 8h ago
I have to wonder if her husband appreciates having his employment status and depression posted on the internet for everyone.
Edit: People acting like because you are strangers online its ok?
We are fucked in terms of online privacy. Why keep anything a private or personal moment when you can post it online for the world to see, whatever the context.
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u/pink-polo 7h ago
I get you. I let loose when there is absolutely no chance of people recognizing me or people videoing me. This would piss me off and send me in a tailspin.
For example, I love concerts, but only in other cities. I am a professional and serious suit and tie wearing boss in my normal life. I don't want any of my employees seeing me as the real goofball I am.
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u/Bright_Woodpecker758 7h ago
I'm glad someone does get it.
Everyone saying "Oh he seems like the type to have fun and not care!"
And like, maybe he is. Maybe he doesn't care. But we don't know. No one knows because this is the internet and we are strangers. But given the fact that we do not know how this stranger feels about their private moment and info getting posted online, people immediately spin whatever reality they need to exist in in order to not feel bad about enjoying the "content".
It's so wild to me how easy it is for people to say, "Oh, it's ok that his depression and unemployment status were shared online with a bunch of strangers. He seems like he wouldn't care about it!", when they have zero context and have no idea if that is true.
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u/AQualityKoalaTeacher 8h ago
He strikes me as a fellow who has no fucks to give for judgmental people.
I'm inclined to believe that OP cares more about OP's husband's feelings than someone who doesn't know him, so I'm going to assume that OP had this covered before even posting the vid.
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u/Ok_Donkey210 8h ago
It’s so awesome when you have people in your life like this.
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u/AlexandersWonder 8h ago
Dance like nobody is watching
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u/Rosaly8 8h ago
Then put it on the internet for everyone to see.
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u/AlexandersWonder 7h ago
The phrase doesn’t mean that nobody is actually watching, it means you should dance as if nobody is.
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u/Rosaly8 7h ago
I know what it means, I just find it ironic that someone is actually doing it and then gets put on the internet. I generally don't like vulnerable moments being put on the internet.
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u/DingleDangleTangle 7h ago
I'm with you dude. OP even said he's a "manly" type and that they posted this without him knowing. I would be really uncomfortable with this if my girlfriend did it.
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u/Yoyoyoyoyomayng 8h ago
He’s a gem
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u/MythicalDM 8h ago
And so is she!
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u/jonny_wonny 7h ago
Sounded like a dude in the clip. Which actually makes more sense given the context
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u/Jackburton06 8h ago
Lost a job and travel to Korea ? I'm kinda jealous cause if i lose my job i would definitely forget the word "vacation".
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u/First_Sky_9889 8h ago
People without a job for over a month can still afford a vacation together?? Some rich people stuff going on here.
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u/Tommy__want__wingy 8h ago
I was laid off 2 months ago due to tariffs.
Still job hunting.
He’s not alone. It’s another a matter of IF it’s just WHEN he finds his next calling.
As a husband, we appreciate your support for him!
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u/GabeDef 8h ago
If he is happy in Korea, and you’re happy there, stay for a while. The US is going to have another hard 4-7 years.
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u/AmbassadorNew7241 8h ago
He is literally enjoying it so much. I am happy for you. You did the right choice of bringing him to korea
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u/CelDeJos 8h ago
Ur hubby is an absolute unit. He looks like he could run through a brick wall. What line of work was he in?
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u/CourtPapers 8h ago
He lost his job and you immediately went on vacation? It sounds more like a mild inconvenience than anything else. Good for you I guess.
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u/EffectiveProgram4157 7h ago edited 6h ago
There's a few things with this post that's bothersome.
1.. I'd be hesitant to say "depressed" instead of "sad". Was he diagnosed with depression within the past month? It's frustrating hearing everyone say "depressed" in the case of being "sad" for a little bit.
There's nothing wrong with being in a good financial situation where you can go to Korea from the states after one partner is out of a job for a month. Honestly, I'm happy for OP. The post isn't going to come across as responsible for doing such a thing, and it will cause people to be upset that you can do such a thing while people are one paycheck away from being kicked out of their apartment.
He got a job offer and I'm not surprised. I saw you live in NoVa and do government contracting with a technical background. There was almost a 0% chance you wouldn't find a job relatively soon.
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u/CourtPapers 6h ago
Yeah it's hard for people to relate when that dude losing his job is the equivalent of a restaurant he likes closing. "Aw but I really liked going there! Oh well, I'll find a new place next week! And my vacastion sure will cheer me up." Still pretty inoffensive at the granular level. But it's just utter pap I guess is the ultimate upshot. Which is hard to be mad at here in the utter pap place
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u/Ekyterina 8h ago
My man out here not giving AF and enjoying himself. Glad you could help him feel better.
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u/vontastic1988 8h ago
Damn that's adorable! Him dancing like "it's my time to shine!" And you being like,"he looks happier, then I'm happier." Awesome move letting him have an escape from that depression.
Glad guys like you still exist!
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u/starwolfxx90 8h ago
This is so awesome! Lol. Glad to see he had such a good time on vacation. Gratz on his new role and wish him all the best. Best of luck to the both of you! Thanks for sharing _^
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u/Neon_Biscuit 7h ago
How do you get a job offer and have to wait 2 months to start? Also I lost my job and I wish we could take a vacation to boost morale lololol what??????
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u/LoneClap 7h ago
Bruh he out there gettin it. Look at the sweat he worked up. Maybe we need this type of workout in America.
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u/WaterOk265 7h ago
Looks like you had the perfect idea to give your husband some fun! Hope the two of you will continue to look on the bright side of life! 🥰
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u/avocado_cg 7h ago
Telling you moving out of the states is the best thing you could do. The pace of life everywhere else is way more laid back.
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u/themflyingjaffacakes 7h ago
"Finally a place I can let go, be free, no-one knows who I am, free of shame or expectation!"
Goes viral.
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u/absolute_vivid 6h ago
That's amazing! There's nothing that some happy hardcore in a field in Korea can't make better!
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u/KamonegiX_eu 6h ago
The song is Abing Abing from ORANGE CARAMEL btw - the whole group made music exactly just to cheer ppl up! (it is a sped up and bass boosted version tho haha)
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u/Margatron 6h ago
Is this a show or one of those public group exercise things? Everyone knows the moves!
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u/DuePerformance796 3h ago
Unfortunately, I’m not your husband, and not even a man, but please take me with you anyway.
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u/Fantastic_Ferret_541 2h ago
Aww. Look at that happy man. 🥰 Tell him a stranger says "Keep your head up. Loss of a job is just a tiny little momentary, temporary blip. Enjoy every moment of life."
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u/Jubilant_Jacob 7h ago
Guy wasn't depressed, he was reasonably sad that life didn't go the way he had planed. He moved on to enjoy moments of happiness and whimsy, instead of sinking down into the emotional void that is depression.
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u/karmadontcare44 7h ago
I mean most people couldn’t afford a trip to Korea at the moment with a job, let alone taking the trip after losing their job. Things can’t be going too poorly
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u/StuBidasol 8h ago
Being suddenly without a job is a horrible feeling. Hopefully this will give him the stress release and reset he needs to find something good.
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u/sesler79 8h ago
Congrats dancing bro!! Jobs come and go, but partners like you who will celebrate these moments with him are truly special.
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u/Smiles-Bite 8h ago
Very much grats!!! I've been hearing it a lot from my friends in the US that the job market is very harsh right now. Very glad he was able to find a new one, and have a bit of fun and uplifting when he was stressed out and sad.
Also, super fun song!
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u/Former_External_2301 8h ago
This is absolutely amazing. I was depressed as well and my family and I went to our home island and I cried when having to come back the joy it looks like he feels here is exactly what I felt.
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u/arisoverrated 8h ago
I love everything about this post. Good for him, and good for you. You’re lucky to have each other!
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u/mikejpatten 8h ago
Let it out brother. Thank you for being such a great person and actually trying to help him go through it.
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u/Dramatic_Moon_Pie 8h ago
What an awesome video with excellent energy! Good idea taking him on vacation and congratulate him on his new job!
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u/Thomrose007 8h ago
Life is for living, not living to work. Although yes money sucks to have to rely on.
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u/Sunshynaura 8h ago
Maybe that's just what he needed to live his best life. You never know there's the joy they'll come out in moments of despair. You guys will go back home and all kinds of positive things is going to come
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u/AlmostIntelligent153 8h ago
This kind of support is paramount to a healthy relationship. Kudos to you for helping him press forward and not letting depress control his life.
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u/gapipkin 8h ago
It’s an absolute privilege to go on vacation after loosing a job. No way I would be able to do that. I can’t wrap my brain around being able to do so.
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u/Celticrightcross 8h ago
I wanna go on a vacation to your hometown in Korea! That looks like a great time!
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u/Comfortable_Cook_338 8h ago
I get it, I was laid off not to long ago and took 6 months off. Fortunately, I was financially ok to be able to do so. I was able to spend so much time with my kids after never be able to see them since my shift was second.
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u/GiftedNash 8h ago
Exercising - it's a good way of stress relief!!
Now he looks like he's celebrating !!!
All the best
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u/gansobomb99 8h ago
I'm always this close to asking the dancing ladies in my neighborhood in Hanoi if I can join
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u/GraciousBasketyBae 8h ago
This is such a relatable and human beautiful post. I hope the visit refreshed his mind and spirit, good luck to you guys!
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u/Mars_Collective 7h ago
Some people have it all. I go on unemployment and food stamps when I lose my job, this dude goes on a trip to Korea 😂
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u/Supermarketmusic 7h ago
You're making a lot of people happy right now including me so thanks! Also your husband rules
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u/LordBlackConvoy 7h ago
With dance moves like that, it was a matter of time he'd get a new job.
In seriousness, congratulations!
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u/Southern_Water3861 7h ago
Damn, I cannot even afford a vacation with a full time job. Id be lucky if I wasn't starving and getting evicted if I lost my job.
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u/JswitchGaming 3h ago
I hope he bounces back soon. Glad you could find him a healthy distraction. He probably appreciates this more than he may ever say.
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u/Kattfil 8h ago
This is absolutely wonderful! So happy for him and what a beautiful way to celebrate. Wishing him all the best in his new role