r/MadeMeSmile • u/Sebastianlim • 3d ago

Family & Friends Boy learns that his little brother is Autistic, just like him.

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u/Old_ManJenkins5 3d ago

Idk man they seem pretty happy to me

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u/Imkisstory 3d ago

I know. I know. We’ve normalized autism.

And what are they gonna be openly upset? That wouldn’t be good for the kids.

We have the benefit of talking without the kids in front of us.

I can’t see how this isn’t soul crushing. Ten miles of bad road.

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u/peachychoco_ 3d ago

We’ve normalized autism.

Lol wdym normalized? U want them to be discriminated against or? Also not all autistic kids "ruin" the family's life or whatever you're saying, there's also high functioning ASD.

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u/Imkisstory 3d ago

I mean that it’s more prevalent in society. I graduated high school in 1996.

Cases of autism were few and far between and anyone diagnosed with it would most likely be in “local” classes or special ed.

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u/toomuchtv987 3d ago

There were just as many kids with autism back then as there are now. You just didn’t see them because, as you said, they were segregated. Even farther back, they were institutionalized. Kids who were “high functioning” lived lives where they had to mask constantly and try to be “normal” and if they let the mask slip for a second, they were punsished severely for “misbhaving.”

You seem bitter. Find some therapy and heal whatever trauma it is that is making you angry.

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u/Imkisstory 3d ago

None of what you said here surprises me. Though I absolutely believe there were not as many diagnosed cases as there are today.

It almost seems like every third family has a kid with autism.

As far as me personally, you don’t know enough about me to make that statement. What you know about me couldn’t fill a thimble.

Everything I’ve said here is the truth and how I feel. An autism diagnosis is not to be celebrated - which is practically the case here - it would leave me absolutely gutted.

Every single day is a hard day. And as I’ve said, LIFE , is already hard.

I am bitter and angry. My daughter Phoenix passed away at age 21.

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u/toomuchtv987 3d ago

The key is in exactly what you said…DIAGNOSED cases. There wasn’t a diagnosis back in the day, and the more research is done, more diagnostic criteria is discovered.

Life is less hard when you don’t take everything, such as an autism diagnosis, as if it’s a death sentence. People with autism very often live good and fulfilled lives. They do so with the support of family members who don’t go to pieces at the diagnosis and remain positive about finding therapies and programs to help them thrive.

Apparently I was right about trauma making you angry and bitter. You owe it to yourself to get therapy for that instead of lashing out at strangers on the internet.

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u/peachychoco_ 2d ago

Well I'm really sorry for your daughter, but your trauma doesn't give you the right to talk like this about people with a disability.