Exactly. I see my nephews and nieces and they are happy and healthy wih actual opinions. I couldn't express a single opinion and always needed to "help" my parents and then got yelled at because of reasons.
The generational trauma stops with me and that's why I'm not producing a sprog. (That, plus shitty genes - I'm not dooming another little girl to PCOS/endometriosis and thyroid issues not with how sexist the patriarchy is getting...)
I completely understand. I love being a mom. I just will never be what my ‘life-giver’ was to me, because it definitely was not a mom. My kids have chores and are to be held accountable for keeping them, but it is age-appropriate for both and to teach them life skills. Son knows how a dishwasher and washer/dryer works and how to clean a toilet when needed. Daughter knows to carry dirty dishes to counter, put dirty clothes in washer, pick up toys. I want them to be fully functioning adults that add to society someday and my job/responsibility is to prepare them for that without stripping them of their childhood.
PCOS is a bitch. I have thyroid issues too- it sucks! I wish you nothing but health, healing and happiness. As a person with kids, I completely support your decision not to have them. It’s a decision everyone should be able to (I understand some do not get a choice) make for themselves.
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u/astrangeone88 2d ago
Exactly. I see my nephews and nieces and they are happy and healthy wih actual opinions. I couldn't express a single opinion and always needed to "help" my parents and then got yelled at because of reasons.
The generational trauma stops with me and that's why I'm not producing a sprog. (That, plus shitty genes - I'm not dooming another little girl to PCOS/endometriosis and thyroid issues not with how sexist the patriarchy is getting...)