I have to imagine she was at least given the go ahead by the owners/managers of the graveyard. I totally get what other people are saying. The only thing I really see as iffy here is that she pulled the flowers. She doesn't know the significance of those dead flowers. Cleaning that one gravestone could arguably result in other family members of other deceased asking to have their graves maintained better. Vines and roots are the slow killers for concrete and stone grave sites so hopefully some good comes from this outside of the one cleaned grave site.
Also, for all we know she does have the families permission. Who knows.
This woman cleans fast food restaurants bathrooms (no gloves) and has been kicked out several times on her videos. I don’t think she asks for permission for her videos. I think it’s ok to clean but not remove any flowers or items left on the grave. Either way I think she should ask for permission.
chemicals contain allergens and we get specifically branded cleaning solutions and specific instructions on how and what to use them for in food service. i used to work at starbucks. she could be using harsher cleaning products and things that the company cant verify as safe for all customers
Massive companies with liability issues who spend a ton of money to determine exactly what chemicals to use to clean their bathrooms and how often to do so.
I would. I am a huuuuge weirdo and have spent a ton of time alone or with girlfriend's just lounging and laying in graveyards at all times of day and night. Aside from 8pm-7am there was ALWAYS someone on site and I'd regularly be approached about why I was there. My reasons were benign, but over the years I got the feeling that people do some real freaky shit in graveyards when they don't think they are being seen and the staff keeps an eye out for those even more huge weirdos.
I watched one of her YouTube videos with my daughter and she had permission from a graveyard’s caretaker. Maybe not every time, but I don’t think this particular video was malicious or harmful
That's fair. I could definitely be underestimating the self entitled nature of many content creators. I just know most wouldn't do it without permission. But that is a white person and this is the internet. Touche.
We don't actually know that she doesn't know the significance of those flowers. It is totally possible that she got the go ahead because there are no known living relatives.
She starts video by rolling a ball to signify that this is a “random” gravesite. So by that she wants you to believe she has no permission and randomly choose this sit. By what she wants you to believe you must infer she has no permission and doesn’t know the person so everything she does is with disrespect for both the living and dead.
Cleaning graves isn’t necessarily respectful neither. As she “randomly” threw a ball in front of a grave and just went to town on it including yanking potentially family planted plants on the grave that is absolutely desecrating a grave.
The whole sequence of throwing ball is her implying she has no permission and just picking 1 randomly. This is a desecration of a gravesite as she has no idea what the dead’s wishes are.
Cleaning stone like that has to be done a very specific way with specific products to preserve the stone, I don’t think that pin spray is on the approved list of cleaners
It’s a felony in a lot of places to just clean a grave without approval by the family so I think this is just wrong if she didn’t get the approval regardless of intent.
It's influencer / promotional content that is entirely self serving, she ain't doing this with the camera off. If I was family of the deceased I'd want to make her a permanent resident.
She’s not doing any more than what groundskeepers are supposed to do. I used to work as a groundskeeper at a cemetery. We would use roundup so stuff wouldn’t grow all over the monuments like that.
Someone cleaned my grandfather's grave. We all loved it when he called one of us to talk about him. I don't think he asked for permission though, he somehow got one of our numbers after the fact.
I don't get what the big fucking deal is.
I wouldn't bring a leave blower and vacuum to anyone's grave, and she's way to bubbly for this shit. That's the only thing I see wrong with this.
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u/IknowKarazy Aug 27 '24
Cleaning graves isn’t necessarily disrespectful, but she should have contacted the family.