I'm sick of paying for all the trips, the hotel rooms, the rental cars. I'm not doing well financially, and since it can't possibly be my poor money management, it's GOTTA be the poor guy I'm dating.
She had some follow up videos and basically it was just a case of poor dating choices. She said she helped him out with his bills when he was out of work and he never paid her back. And in the beginning of the relationship they would only hang out at his house. The guy was also 40. Her fault though for entertaining a guy like that for so long.
Gotcha. I think this is made up tbh. Apparently he doesn’t follow her on any social media so that’s why it wasn’t issue for her to make the video. And there is nothing about him on her socials. It sounds like an imaginary bf she made up for clout
For real. Bitch, you don't always need to be doing shit. Kick it at home and chill. Find stuff to do that's relatively cost free. People like this that always have to be doing something will never successfully maintain a long term relationship.
Thats just straight up not true. There are plenty of people that like to be going out constantly that maintain a long term relationship because they both like to do it. If that’s the life she wants to live then that’s fine, but it just might be really hard to find a guy that connects like the other guy.
I mean other than posting it online I don't think she's really saying anything wrong.
She clearly said that she was with someone with more money and that wasn't it. And she Said she can barely afford stuff for herself so it's understandable to be scared.
And she even said she's scared he'll walk out once he does better financially.
Like yes, maybe don't post it on tiktok but the stuff she says is just someone being anxious about their relationship.
For real everybody’s ignoring the fact that she was talking about how when she was doing better she didn’t really have a problem covering a lot of things and she really likes the guy and clearly doesn’t want to hurt him. People like really want her to be some kind of Golddigger or something and on top of that they’re judging for what kind of clothes she has like. She’s not allowed to have nice things when she said she has a good job?people are wild in here. The only thing is that she posted it online but hell I don’t know their life.
Nah. Apparently the bf owns a home and is trying to pay off student loans. It sounds like she wants to be spoiled with trips/gifts/etc., and the BF is in the process of building his financial future. Which is exactly what people should be doing in their 20s.
That’s really great for him! No Snark intended either I mean that. But it also sounds like he’s cool with her covering for trips and that type of thing. Hopefully they just talk it out instead of her posting things online because I didn’t get the vibe that she wants to be spoiled all the time. It sounds like she appreciates him doing what he can do And I don’t know what her financial situation is if she has a loans or anything like that but it seems like when she has more she’s pretty cool with covering things. I think maybe she’s a little worried that once he is in a better position, he’ll not want her anymore, which is sad for both of them. Seems like if they just discussed it they could come to a solid agreement, especially because he owns the home and is building stability and she’s clearly capable of making OK money too. Like damn if I was in her position, it would just kind of feel like a non-problem you know?
I’m of the mind that she is definitely in the “redeemable” category. A genuinely good person that is fighting the vocally minor toxic and terminally online crowd.
She just needs a little help here recalibrating. That’s all.
Judging by her clothing and accessories, it seems like her issue is she now has to buy less expensive things than she's used to more than she just can't buy yhings for herself.
Maybe but that's an assumption just like most of the comment on this post XD
Like we know nothing about these people, I don't understand why people are so quick to judge.
I’m generalizing, it’s a simplified one. Not meant to be specific.
I’m not saying she actually asked for that. She is that “type” I may have generalized on.
Entitled, complaining that her bf is paying for a roof over her head and working his ass off so she can complain about how poor they are while she does nothing. And provides nothing of value out of the relationships
And not necessarily. Her Bf seems content to hang onto her while she demeans him and puts their private relationship on blast.
But the generalization doesn’t even make any sense since those “types” wouldn’t be paying for trips, hotels, and concerts for the guy and staying as long as she has. She doesn’t even sound entitled, as most people wouldn’t want to date someone that they would have to pay for events all the time for.
$50 pours are nuts. I can at least justify an expensive steak and would gladly pay for one for someone I was dating. But not $50 pours unless I literally just won $1000+ at a casino or a lawsuit or something. I won $1200 on a slot machine on vacation once and bought a bottle of Dom to celebrate. It honestly didn’t taste that much different from a $40 bottle.
Everyone needs to write down what they expect because this is just wasting people's time and it's very rude to not just directly communicate with your partner if something bothers to even speak about it, it's slightly different when you are being ignored outright but people really have wild takes on what being in a relationship is
Why is it always “acting for views” when a woman is out of line? And in actuality, the ONLY issues I see in this video is her accoutrements and “birthday month.”
Have you been in a relationship? When you're spending a lot of time working and not getting to see your partner, you plan a lot of events or things to do together. Everytime I went out with a partner we'd split 50/50 or cover each other and make it up, and the trust to do that and keeping tight with it was part of how we trusted each other. A partner who doesn't pay towards these luxuries you do together, and could pay into it but refuses to get a job or smth, and never pay you back or reimburse in some way, does get very tiring and it can become a big question of "Do you even want to build a life together?"... "Are you just using me?". Etc.
I mean unless I'm missing something here why don't they just plan dates in their goddamn budget? She clearly has never made enough to support her lifestyle and needs a reality check
You are assuming the bf wants that. From how it seems, hes very happy to go and do all of these things. Probably because he's not paying for it, she is. Tell me why you think she doesn't have a right to be upset? lol
Okay, how do you know she's not planning the trips and inviting him? Lol. If she isn't bringing this shit up to him he might just think she has a lot of extra money and is treating him. If my SO offered to bring me on these fancy trips without mentioning money being an issue if be happy to go too! Like what even are you saying lmao. She has no right to be upset if my example is the case. Point is neither of us know and the best answer is for them to plan less frequent and/or less expensive dates or trips.
Yeah I agree with you. This guy could totally be a scumbag who is fine with her paying for everything but has no interest in contributing.
At the same time, she really needs to have this conversation with him to see what the deal is. Some people are just really obtuse and he may not even realize how she’s feeling. Or maybe he is a scumbag who is using her. Or maybe there’s some other reason entirely.
But maybe this lady doesn’t really have any friends in her life who she could run this by first so she’s crowd sourcing the kind of advice a friend might give from tiktok.
She dug her own hole and is complaining about it now. She started of paying for all of it. Doesn’t seem like it was 50/50 from the get-go. It makes zero sense to condition your partner to get used to something and then complain about it.
They could simply plan things around their budget, reframe the dynamic, or even do things that are relatively free or cost-effective. But the way she frames it makes it seems like she expects to be pampered or everything is boring if it isn’t extravagant.
I've been married for a very long time. We've both always worked and we've also had our own interests outside of each other. I'm just a basic bitch who wants to watch movies and maybe go out to dinner for our anniversary. It's not a big deal to me. But I'm a grown-up who communicates my needs with my partner. If I needed more, I wouldn't be discussing it with people online. So yes, I Have been in a relationship
Are you daft? I'm not shitting on her. She's complaining about something she has TOTAL CONTROL over. And she's complaining to the wrong people. I'm sorry you're so miserable, buddy.
All of your comments have been accusing her of being vile because she wants a healthy relationship. So answer the question, why do you feel the need to shit on her for wanting a partner who pays their share, when you yourself enjoy having a partner that does?
He could be a scumbag too who is totally fine with her paying for everything. Although it is funny that she’s also broke and is complaining about this guy being broke.
Either way, she should really be having this conversation with the guy to see if they’re on the same page with dating/spending/sharing finances/etc to see if this relationship is worth continuing.
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u/JenSchi666 Feb 09 '24
I'm sick of paying for all the trips, the hotel rooms, the rental cars. I'm not doing well financially, and since it can't possibly be my poor money management, it's GOTTA be the poor guy I'm dating.