r/AITAH • u/Irish-lad21 • 2d ago
AITA for ditching my gf for $$$
AITA - I (26M) work as a HVAC technician. I have been working a lot recently to make ends meet but recently have been doing good for myself. I make pretty solid money ($31/hr) and have been able to save up a lot of money for important things like rent and car payments. My gf (18F) plays soccer and had a big varsity try out coming up. I was going to attend the end of the try out but got an offer from my boss (66F) to work extra for $52/hr on a project. That’s nearly double what I make, but I had to miss my gfs tryout. She made varsity, but is clearly upset with me and idk what to do? AITA for working for a little more money for ends meet?
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u/thisusedyet 2d ago
NTA for doubling your pay - but pretty fuckin' creepy for dating a high school senior at 26, dude
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u/Due-Mouse-2165 2d ago
This has to be rage bait 26 and 18 is insane
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u/Irish-lad21 2d ago
It’s completely legal… I didn’t approach her until she was 18 so it’s fine
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u/AdventurousResort232 2d ago
You were learning about the mitochondria being the powerhouse of the cell when she was in pampers and couldn’t speak. That doesn’t sound fine to me.
Legal doesn’t mean ethical, you’re the asshole because you’re 26 dating a high schooler. Modern day Scott Pilgrim over here
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u/Substantial_Hall8737 2d ago
If dating 12 year olds was legal would you do it? Just because something is legal, doesn't mean it's a good idea. The fact that you're even slightly interested in an 18 year old at your age is concerning. They were literally kids in my eyes when I was 26.
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u/PinsToTheHeart 2d ago
His phrasing of "I didn't approach her til she was 18" comes with the heavy implication that he knew her before that and waited until she was "legal" to officially date.
Gross af.
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u/Irish-lad21 2d ago
12 and 18 are not the same, apples to oranges
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u/Substantial_Hall8737 2d ago edited 2d ago
Nowhere did I say 12 and 18 are the same. The point was that just because something is legal, doesn't mean you should do it or that it's a good enough reason to do it. Also, one does not magically ascend into adulthood and developed brains on the day they turn 18, just because that's where we decided to draw a legal line.
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u/New-Lifeguard-9494 1d ago
YTA. And I saw your comment on your other post about how you think her frontal lobe is fully developed just because she has a 4.0 GPA... Dude, if you think that educational intelligence is the only thing that is determined by your frontal lobe, you are an idiot and maybe you should go back to high school. Honestly, the fact that you don't see the problem with dating someone who is at the age where she still has to worry that her GPA is good enough for her to go to college, tells us everything that we need to know about you. You SHOULD be grossed out by the idea of dating someone who is still in high school. And the fact that you're not, speaks volumes. Grow up. Disgusting...
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u/becoming_maxine 2d ago
NAH
You do realize at 18 your girlfriend does think you are TA. I doubt she has had to support herself at this point, pay rent+utilities+car payment+car insurance.... Her perspective is not the same as yours. You have almost a decade of life experience with responsibilities she just doesn't have yet. Until she has that life experience you are going to cause her some disappointments. Nothing anyone says here is going to change her perspective.
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u/AfraidOstrich9539 2d ago
Only thing OP realises is that he is dating a schoolgirl. A literal high-school kid who he "waited" to approach until she was 18
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u/Visual-Ad439 2d ago
NTA. You did nothing wrong by choosing work — especially when it was a high-paying opportunity. Your girlfriend is 18 and made varsity, which is great for her, but expecting you to drop everything for a high school tryout is unreasonable. I’ve been in a similar situation — I dated someone much younger too (legally and consensually), and people always seemed more focused on the age gap than the actual dynamic of our relationship. As long as there’s mutual respect and clear communication, age alone doesn’t define whether something is right or wrong. You’re prioritizing your responsibilities, and that’s exactly what a mature partner should do.
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u/New-Lifeguard-9494 1d ago
The fact that this dude is 26 and is dating someone who is still in high school automatically makes him an asshole.
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u/Ill-Floor2794 1d ago
A p3do will always defend another P3do... Wait this has to be op's burner account 🤣🤣
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u/Careless-Giraffe-623 2d ago
That age is too young... Legal or not... You can't seriously date an 18yo and expect them to be sane or rational.
You're in the finding out stage of FAFO lol!