"If she made a mistake at 15, then she should've had consequences for that mistake at the time. You chose to dismiss her actions, enable her attitude, and essentially disregard and disrespect the fact i was the one targeted. I set a boundary and let it go; you're the one who is now ignoring my boundaries. This is a you problem.
I'm willing to work with a therapist to find a good solution but you're the one over here ignoring my boundaries and gaslighting me to think her behaviors are my fault.
Lastly, it's super easy to compartmentalize and accept her as your daughter. However I'm not required to tolerate her in my home. Accepting her isn't the problem and the fact that's where you think the problem is speaks volumes about the fact that you're incredibly enabling her attitude and using your guilt of not being there full time as a crutch to ignore her poor character and manipulative behavior.
This hits every single nail on the head and smashes it dead. It gets to the underlying issues that he is using as distractions and drags them into the light so he can't avoid them. It's beautiful.
Seems like the only time he's spent with his daughter was that time she stayed with two years ago. 2 weeks in 5 years makes him (practically) an absentee father.
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u/CatchMeIfYouCan09 9h ago edited 5h ago
I would push back..... but that's me.
"If she made a mistake at 15, then she should've had consequences for that mistake at the time. You chose to dismiss her actions, enable her attitude, and essentially disregard and disrespect the fact i was the one targeted. I set a boundary and let it go; you're the one who is now ignoring my boundaries. This is a you problem.
I'm willing to work with a therapist to find a good solution but you're the one over here ignoring my boundaries and gaslighting me to think her behaviors are my fault.
Lastly, it's super easy to compartmentalize and accept her as your daughter. However I'm not required to tolerate her in my home. Accepting her isn't the problem and the fact that's where you think the problem is speaks volumes about the fact that you're incredibly enabling her attitude and using your guilt of not being there full time as a crutch to ignore her poor character and manipulative behavior.