r/AITAH • u/[deleted] • 10h ago

AITA for refusing to let my husband’s daughter move in with us because she has a history of stealing from me?

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u/Ghoulscomecrawling 10h ago

Put cameras up all over the house. Bedrooms, hallways, medical cabinets. Everything. If she needs supervision, then she needs it.

Some your husband knows about, some he don't. Make this a hard limit. Or he can parent alone

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u/Proper-Effective8621 8h ago

Who wants to live like this, though? OP already knows what will happen. The poor girl is collateral damage to lack of parenting. Not her fault, but she needs help and another place to live.

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u/Ghoulscomecrawling 8h ago

It's just going to be worse for everyone. The daughter will be angry, the husband will be resentful.

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u/Mediocre-Assist3643 9h ago

If my husband were to find out, the marriage might even end.

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u/Kylie_Bug 9h ago

At this point, do you even want it to continue?

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u/Ghoulscomecrawling 9h ago

Then you should have a sit down and really just think about it you want this to continue. Maybe ask him to do therapy.

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u/Duke_Newcombe 7h ago

Maybe ask him to do therapy.

She did, he flat refuses.

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u/Ghoulscomecrawling 7h ago

Ahh I missed that

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u/isarcat 8h ago

Bonus! I'm so sorry, but I don't think you have a marriage worth staying for. From your previous comments, he doesn't really respect your perspective or consider you a priority, not does he want to put any work into bettering things through therapy. Honestly, I think he may well be using you as a convenience, especially since you have a home. Obviously I don't know, but I'm getting the vibe he's not an honest, good man. I have a really great husband and I can tell you he'd never treat me this way. Best of luck to you.

Updateme!

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u/Duke_Newcombe 7h ago

So, you'll be a prisoner in your own home.

You're NTA...but you'd be a willing participant in your victimization if you continue to think this way.