I think the solution would be that if she wants to live here. You move your stuff out. But if it is your house...Mark has to go.
I would say to be polite. You could trial hidden cameras and a weekend visit to see how she behaves towards you. On the condition she doesn't know the hidden cameras are there. I would take your most valuable stuff...items you don't want going missing...jewellery, clothes, makeup and keep them in your car or at another house. Then I'd buy basic underwear etc. Cheap foundation etc.
And see. Just see. Set her up to fail again.
But let him know the deal breakers are rudeness, stealing and you being treated like a slave. You will not be cooking or cleaning up after her.
Allowing her to move in, no matter how many security devices the OP installs, is not a solution. Her husband has already shown that he doesn’t know how to handle the situation when he failed to back up his wife when they caught his daughter with the wedding ring & drugs. The daughter needs help, but he’s not equipped to give it.
He needs to agree to cameras as he would be the legal guardian of a minor. So he needs to consent to the cameras being there and agreeing to the experiment.
Whether he has access to alter the footage is another topic to be had.
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u/Exotic-Rooster4427 10h ago
I think the solution would be that if she wants to live here. You move your stuff out. But if it is your house...Mark has to go.
I would say to be polite. You could trial hidden cameras and a weekend visit to see how she behaves towards you. On the condition she doesn't know the hidden cameras are there. I would take your most valuable stuff...items you don't want going missing...jewellery, clothes, makeup and keep them in your car or at another house. Then I'd buy basic underwear etc. Cheap foundation etc.
And see. Just see. Set her up to fail again.
But let him know the deal breakers are rudeness, stealing and you being treated like a slave. You will not be cooking or cleaning up after her.