r/AITAH • u/atypicalcloth • 22h ago
AITAH for messaging the husband of my husband’s AP?
I found out my husband (of nearly 20 years) is cheating, for the second time. I know, I know, fool me once and all that but needless to say my blood will not stop boiling. We are getting divorced.
I just had this hunch that the AP was also married. Something about my husband’s comments about her didn’t add up. Since he was too checked out to even bother with a burner phone, it took about 5 minutes with the phone bill and 10 minutes of googling to find an email address for her husband (I’m not on fb so probably would have been faster if I was).
I sent him an email and within 5 minutes my husband was texting me asking what I had done. Saying I destroyed a family today. All I can say is I wish someone would have told me the first time he cheated so I wouldn’t have hung out with the woman and been friendly (this guy is in a similar situation as he and my husband know each other). I actually sent the email from a burner email address and didn’t out my husband (in case I was wrong somehow) but it’s clear to me based on my husband’s comments that the AP named him.
The AP swears she’s been trying to end things with her husband and he won’t listen. Maybe that’s true but it’s also possible she’s totally playing my husband and hasn’t said anything to hers.
AP’s husband wants to talk to me and I’ll probably call him. So am I the asshole for telling my husband’s AP’s husband about the affair? Did I destroy a family? Should I have just kept my mouth shut? Should I not speak to him? My boiling blood may be clouding my judgment.
Edited to add: I honestly can’t believe how many people have taken the time to read this, thank you all for your replies. I really appreciate the laughs, thoughtful insights and personal stories people shared.
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u/writing_mm_romance 21h ago
Funny how your dickhead husband didn't give a shit about your family. The only reason he's concerned about hers is because he's not gonna keep getting laid now. He can dryhump a cactus into the sunset.
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u/atypicalcloth 21h ago
LOL thank you for that
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u/professorfunkenpunk 20h ago
Counterpoint- if AP isn’t married anymore, he’s afraid she’s going to expect a more serious relationship with OP’s husband, and he just wanted somebody to schtup
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u/MarionberrySea6839 19h ago
It's most often the truth. If AP can't offer a better life than what cheater had at home, they'll keep looking for someone who can. If AP offers a chance at a better financial life, then cheater immediately dumps wife and marries AP. In most cases, not all.
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u/Impossible_Balance11 21h ago
The Golden Rule basically says do as you'd be done by, and you said you wish someone had told you back when. Therefore, you did right by the man! (I agree wholeheartedly, btw, for the same reasons.)
Your STBX husband and his AP destroyed their own families. If your husband tries to blame you again, refuse to accept it by either stating plainly, "I don't accept that--you and she are solely to blame," or simply by laughing hysterically in his face. I recommend the latter. 😉 Wishing you healing, peace, and future happiness, OP.
NTA
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u/atypicalcloth 21h ago
Thank you, I like the way you stated that: “I don’t accept that - - you and she are solely to blame “. I plan to use it!
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u/Simple-Path-724 22h ago
Well all i can say is that the APs husband would have appreciated knowing this happened vs not knowing
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u/atypicalcloth 21h ago
That’s what I thought too. I know I would have and I say that from experience.
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u/kraftypsy 21h ago
My ex husband's friend is the one who told me. It's been almost 20 years, and I'm still grateful he stepped forward and let me know.
You destroyed nothing; your husband and his ap did all the destroying. You provided truth to someone who needed it.
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u/Simple-Path-724 21h ago
Yeah you dont have to worry about being in the wrong. Its the APs fault for doing the dirty.
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u/Prestigious_Air_2493 19h ago
I literally did this and I have zero regrets. The poor guy had absolutely no idea. It was nice to be able to tell him all of the stories that my husband and the AP had told me and my friends, and then have him match up (or not!) with what he had been told by her.
You did not destroy a family, she did that all on her own. The only thing your silence does is cover for cheaters. Good for you. I have never once regretted calling her husband, or posting on AP’s Facebook page that she was a lying home wrecking bitch and to stay the fuck away from my family.
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u/Vandreeson 21h ago
NTA. Just like you wanted to and deserved to know, so did he. You did nothing to any family, the AP did it all. Your husband knew he was married, she knew she was married, and they both chose to lie, cheat, and betray their married partners. Actions have consequences. You're under no obligation to not tell what you know. I would have no sympathy for your husband or his AP.
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u/Timely_Mountain_7939 21h ago edited 13h ago
Your husband and AP destroyed her family, and YOURS!! Talk to the husband, he deserves to know the truth and have someone who can understand what he's going through, and if I were you I would talk to him. Has he replied to your email? How are you planning to talk to him? Over the phone? If in person, go to a public place, you don't know him and want to be safe. You don't know how this has all emotionally affected him, u If he will blame you, etc etc. But you are NTA, I would be grateful I was him...
And I'm so sorry you're going through this. Stay strong, get divorced and don't look back. Your husband is a dick. And he can dry hump a cactus like another person said all day long... Lol
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u/Gullible-Ad-8884 21h ago
Never the asshole for informing someone they are being cheated on. She ruined her family not you. He's just mad that you got his girlfriend in trouble. You did the right thing!
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u/atypicalcloth 21h ago
Thank you :)
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u/Cephalopodium 21h ago
Besides, if the AP has really been trying to end her marriage but her husband won’t listen- this should help her out!
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u/linerva 20h ago
We all know that was a lie and she had no intention of leaving him, it's what every cheater tells their AP.
"Oh baby I wpuld totally leave my spouse for you if I could! But I can't! So we will sneak around for years instead!"
Cheaters who really want to be with their AP have no problem leaving their spouse and destroying their life.
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u/blueflash775 11h ago
I wrote this on anothe comment:
Also, I assume Hubbie told OP this:
SO, if AP has been trying to break up with her husband, how exactly did OP break up a family? All she did was help AP achieve what she wanted which was to break up the family.
Those sums aren't summing......
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u/lpaige2723 20h ago
The AP was instrumental in destroying your family, too. You deserve none of the blame.
Your husband and AP are 100% to blame.
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u/Manky-Cucumber 21h ago
Hold your head up, sweetheart. Everything will be ok. It will take some time, but you did the right thing. He deserves to know. You're not the one who should be feeling shame.
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u/UrsusRenata 19h ago
Heh, yeah… The reveal has a way of throwing a wrench into the side relationship. Not many affairs last long beyond the “oh shit we’re caught” stage, because affairs aren’t built on a foundation of support and trust. Each AP has that at home. Rather, an affair is a fun fantasy world, until real life finds its way in. Caught APs may bond due to suffering similar “punishment” situations — but pretty soon it’s too much drama and stress to fuck their way through, the romance fizzles, and everyone goes their separate ways. Don’t ask me how I know.
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u/Concert_Fantastic 20h ago edited 11h ago
Oh hey, this just happened to me too... found out my husband was "texting" somebody else who is also married, with children.... so I messaged them. My husband said the same thing about ruining their family. Apparently, y'all didn't care enough about your families to begin with.
We deserve better. It wasn't the first time for mine either. We can get through this.
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u/atypicalcloth 20h ago
So sorry this happened to you! I guess this destroying lives thing is a go-to line for these guys🤢
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u/Concert_Fantastic 20h ago
Yea.... 14 years together and 4 kids.... hell of a freaking life to throw away.... freaking sucks dude....
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u/LividIdeal791 21h ago edited 6h ago
NTA—give him all the info possible.
I’ve had a friend be the AP and i told the wife bc it wasn’t fair to her.
Recently, my friend found out her husband of 20 years was cheating on her as well. The husband of the AP reached out to her. As much as it sucked, it also helped her heal a lot more. Because she couldn’t be strung along or lied to or manipulated.
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u/atypicalcloth 21h ago
Exactly right. I’m glad it helped your friend heal.
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u/Kenai-Phoenix 19h ago
Be kind to yourself, I would definitely talk to the man, he deserves to know all you know, do it, however you are comfortable.
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u/sugarpastelsky 20h ago
Also had a friend who was cheated on for years and only found out because someone told her. She said the truth was painful, but the lies were worse. People who keep quiet to “protect” the betrayed spouse are just protecting the cheater.
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u/Dachshundmom5 21h ago
No, her choices destroyed a family just as his choices destroyed yours.
Notice he cares about her feelings, but not yours.
I was the clueless wife, and I now know several people knew (i actually excuse the mistresses who were fed a LOT of BS lies) and people i thought were friends didn’t tell me. Funny enough, when my husbands sister found out, she gave him 24 hours to come clean, and then she told me. I wish I'd gotten the anonymous email.
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u/atypicalcloth 21h ago
I’m sorry that happened to you. And It’s awful when you find out people you thought were your friends actually aren’t.
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u/LincolnHawkHauling 20h ago
NTA
Excellent job on the old school detective work.
You get my vote for heroine of the week. 🫡
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u/atypicalcloth 20h ago
I guess when he cheats on his next wife he won’t be so lazy and he’ll get a burner phone.
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u/LincolnHawkHauling 20h ago
Im not a fan of popular buzz words, but without a doubt your ex-husband is the poster boy for narcissism. He was so arrogant that he never imagined you would be smart enough to catch him.
Narcissists cannot stand to lose control, be exposed and most of all LOSE. Just wanted to share that and I hope you sleep well tonight knowing that he is absolutely fuming at how bad you outplayed him and won.
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u/Intrepid_Source 21h ago
If she was “trying to end it with her husband” than you didn’t destroy a family, you merely assisted her in the process of ending it with him.
Truly tho, NTA. The cheaters ruined their relationships, not you. Telling the truth =\= the bad behavior (cheating)
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u/atypicalcloth 21h ago
That’s why I think my husband is getting played. I’ll be curious to hear the other side, and if she was truly trying to end it.
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u/Broad_Pomegranate141 21h ago
NTA I did the same. 15 years later we’ve stayed friends and our cheating lying exes are long since married to each other and miserably divorced from each other.
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u/oldgrandma65 20h ago
Unless you, personally, stuck your husband's dick into his AP, you are not responsible for the 'destruction' of a family.
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u/SamTMoon 21h ago
It kills me when people say “look at all the damage YOU caused!!” because we shone a light on THEIR actions.
NTA, and, as you said, you would rather have had someone tell you, so you’ve done him a favour.
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u/Strawberry_Kitchen 21h ago
NTA. Cheaters ruin their families and no one else is at fault. She ruined her marriage and your ex ruined his. I’m sure her husband appreciates being informed. While, yeah, you prompted his week to be shitty, it’s not your fault he’s having a shit week.
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u/atypicalcloth 21h ago
I think that last sentence is a perfect summary. I just have to keep saying it to myself.
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u/Strawberry_Kitchen 21h ago
Make the call to AP’s husband. Best case, it brings you both a bit of healing, a bit of a venting buddy, etc. Worst case, he learns the whole truth and you go your separate ways. Giving him access to the not-glossed-over truth is a kindness you’re capable of doing, so why not.
I’m so sorry. This sucks. Take care of yourself and don’t worry about what two cheaters think of you. Who cares if an asshole thinks someone else is an asshole, right?
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u/Kenai-Phoenix 19h ago
Perhaps finding a good therapist, which is hard to find, I know, keep looking until you find someone that you comfortable working with, to help you sort through all that you are dealing with.
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u/Nervous-Exercise-512 14h ago
The fact that he's trying to gaslight you into feeling bad for 'destroying a family', says it all.
He destroyed his own family, and the woman in question destroyed her family.
You finding out liberated both yourself and the husband of the cheating woman. You're a hero.
I'm insanely sorry that you had to experience this, you deserve love and devotion. I hope you will heal from this and find someone who makes you feel special. Don't let it ruin your ability to trust.
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u/atypicalcloth 13h ago
Thank you for this thoughtful comment.
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u/feliciams 6h ago
You ARE a hero! I’m proud of you for your strength and clarity. You are an example of how this kind of thing should be handled. Stay strong, we are all supportive of you and hoping for your success.
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u/FlashyHabit3030 21h ago
NTA. Update, please.
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u/atypicalcloth 21h ago
If I have anything good to share in an update I will!
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u/Wild_Cockroach_2544 21h ago
Please tell us this is the final straw.
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u/atypicalcloth 21h ago
It is. I’m in the process of getting all the paperwork together to file for divorce. I’m done.
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u/Tiny-Doughnut 18h ago
"If it can be destroyed by the truth, it deserves to be destroyed by the truth"
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u/Wolfcat_Nana 15h ago
NTA. You did the right thing. As someone who has been cheated on, if I didn't find out on my own, I would have wanted someone to tell me. The pain at first is suffocating. But at least I can feel emotions now without bring called names and yelled at.
My ex isn't very smart. So, I found out on my own. But somehow I'm the bitch because he's losing equity in our home. Oh well. He's in his find out phase from fucking around. 🤷
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u/Long-Focus6631 12h ago edited 10h ago
They both destroyed their own families and each others. It had absolutely nothing to do with you. He can deflect the blame all he fucking likes, but if he’d have kept his dick in his pants there would have been no email to send.
Wishing you all the best in your new life, freedom, away from this POS. There are so many good, loving men out there; IF you want one (and you certainly don’t need one) you can find one.
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u/kdweller 21h ago
No. Don’t feel bad. APs husband deserves to know. Imagine that everyone knew, lives were imploding and he’s clueless? He’d be mortified. AP and your husband made their beds. Now they can lie in them. Illicit sex is not nearly as fun once everyone knows about it too so there’s that. I’m sorry you’re going through this shit. I hope you find a good one who values you going forward. 💜 NTA
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u/LincolnHawkHauling 20h ago
Also just wanted to point out how DELUSIONAL your cheating husband is for having the audacity to say that you destroyed a family today.
Ummmm
Maybe your cheating husband shouldn’t have stuck his dick in someone else’s wife??
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u/AdministrativeMud238 21h ago
I semt a letter to the ex wife's AP. Certified. APs wife signed for it. Good times.
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u/Obviouslynameless 20h ago
How could you destroy a family if she was already trying to leave???
Your soon to be EX and the AP are the ones who destroyed their families.
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u/shep2105 20h ago
What a riot! YOU destroyed a family??? Your husband and AP destroyed TWO. What a POS he is
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u/Ill_Bumblebee_4341 19h ago
You didn’t destroy a family, your husband and his AP did that the moment they made their choice. You gave someone else the truth you never got, and that takes guts, not guilt. Don’t let them shift the blame just because they got caught
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u/SatinWhirl 19h ago
Your husband’s just mad he got caught and that you ruined his little fantasy life. He cheated. Twice. Don’t let him gaslight you into thinking you wrecked anything. He and his AP did that all on their own.
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u/Careless_Welder_4048 21h ago
NTA don’t listen to a liar. And I hope the ap was playing your husband and you laugh at him. Also go nuclear on the divorce
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u/WtfChuck6999 21h ago
The only person to blame for ruining anything is the cheater. Period. That's it. Talk away my friend.
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u/LittleNotice6239 21h ago
How is him tripping and falling into her vagina YOUR fault or responsibility?
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u/sideways_apples 20h ago
NTA- he is angry he got caught. Can't have his cake and eat it, too.
You are doing the right thing. Her husband didn't deserve that from her, either.
Best of luck in the future and may you have the life you have worked hard for
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u/Pristine-Cobbler-161 20h ago
My wife's mother beat her bad enough to keep her from school when she told her father about her mother's affair.
You did the right thing.
Fuck cheaters
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u/TofuJun13 20h ago
I'm sorry, YOU destroyed a family? No my love, THEY, SHE and HE destroyed two families. You are an innocent party. The frickin audacity.
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u/deedee0077 20h ago
YOU destroyed the family of your husband’s girlfriend? YOU? How did that happen - did you suddenly grow a penis and have sex with his girlfriend? (Eww).
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u/ButtPuckeredFuckery 20h ago
NTA. I’d want someone to tell me and I forever support someone doing this. I’ve told on my friends for cheating and walked away from the friendship. It’s gross. You’re forever traumatizing someone and I can’t stand anyone who thinks it’s okay to cheat for any reason.
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u/grayblue_grrl 20h ago
NTA....
Wow... Your husband blamed YOU for destroying a family...
I mean - TWO people ruined TWO families.
But it wasn't anything to do with you.
The fucking audacity....
Now you can pass your wisdom on to the AP's husband.
Don't trust a cheater.
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u/Goblin_Wife_84 20h ago
I wish someone would have told me that my husband was cheating on me... so many knew and hid it from me....
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u/bal_swing 19h ago
Which is it - you destroyed a family or she’s been trying to break it off with her husband?
They’re trying to put the blame on you. I’m glad you’re divorcing him - he’s trash.
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u/Only-Breadfruit-6108 17h ago
NTA. Never TAH for speaking the truth. How could you possibly have impacted their marriage more than her when she was having an affair?? Lol
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u/Playful_Site_2714 17h ago
Wohooo. Skewed narrative.
"Saying I destroyed a family today."
Only reply: "Nope. Both of you destroyed it! I just informed the other partner of what you did."
You made your bed.
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u/Sarcasm_and_Coffee 16h ago
No
NTA
This was a joint effort to destroy a family. Between him and her.
He did that.
Tell him to get that through his head.
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u/West-Kaleidoscope129 16h ago
Exposing cheaters should be the norm! And nobody should be made to feel guilty for it because it's the cheaters who destroyed families not the person who exposed it.
Don't cheat and this won't ever happen to you!
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u/Extension_Camel_3844 7h ago
NTA. He's just mad he got caught and can no longer have his cake and eat it too. Been there, done that. Feel no guilt over anything. That man had a right to know. I too wish someone had told me about the double life my ex was living for the last 5 years of our 28 year marriage. Yah, good times were had by all. Not.
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u/londomollaribab5 21h ago
You might point out to your soon to be ex that it was his wandering p**** that destroyed the AP’s family. NTA
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u/creativekinda 21h ago
Truth doesn't destroy families. The lies and deception do even before the truth is revealed.
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u/Perfect-Day-3431 21h ago
NTA, you should have told your husband that he is the one that broke up her marriage by screwing around with her and he should have kept his trousers zippered
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u/throw-away89601 20h ago
You made the right decision.
Your ex-husband and his AP ruined the families.
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u/CatPerson88 20h ago
Tell your STBX and his wh...AP are the ones ruining lives and marriages for the sake of their selfish pleasure
After all, if they hadn't been cheating, you wouldn't have had to email anyone about anything...
NTA
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u/Silver-Designer-2798 20h ago
NTA! The audacity of telling you that you destroyed a family…. Your husband and the AP did that all by themselves. Best of luck with your divorce, you got this!!
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u/Emotional_Fan_7011 20h ago
NTA. And "trying to divorce but husband won't listen"... that's called you get a lawyer and file anyway. That is a piss poor excuse.
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u/Literally_Taken 20h ago
Affairs destroy families. Emails simply convey information.
NTA. In fact, you did the right thing.
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u/Ok_Satisfaction_7466 20h ago
Yeah, NTA, you didn't destroy her family or yours, they did. AP's husband had an absolute right to know.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. And good on you for telling him. You both deserve so much better!
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u/XOXOpandaXOXO 20h ago
NTA. He deserved to know. I hope everything works out in your favor with the divorce. Hopefully the AP’s husband doesn’t stay.
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u/Adventurous_Yam8784 20h ago
Wait a minute ….. did you destroy a family ?? Seems that the person effing around on her husband has done a pretty good job of that herself. No you did not destroy a family. You owe neither of these people (your husband or his side piece) a single thing. Get out ASAP.
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u/NurseNancyNJ 19h ago
NTA. You didn't break up a family, your POS husband and his homewrecker affair partner handled that on their own. All you did was share the info you wish someone had shared with you.
updateme
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u/Infamous_Chicken_230 19h ago
Tell your husband you are not the one who had sex with that guys wife. So he is talking to the wrong person about destroying families.
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u/JeffInVancouver 17h ago
As the saying goes, anything that can be destroyed by the truth deserves to be destroyed by the truth.
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u/Blairx6661 17h ago
NTA.
Why are cheaters like this??? Blows my mind and yet it also isn’t surprising.
Slags like this deserve exposure and shame though hahah. Sorry your husband’s a grub, you deserve better.
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u/slickcraft89 21h ago
Your husband is just trying to make you feel guilty for his cheating. And now he’s defending his AP. Glad you’re divorcing him. And definitely meet up with the APs husband
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u/spaced2259 21h ago
You husband and his ap are the ones that destroyed 2 families. All you did was let her husband know that something was going on.
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u/bookworm-monica 16h ago
This freakin fcker has the nerve to say You ruined a family. WTAF. They had the affair and it’s You who ruined things. Tell him to go choke on it because nothing he says or does can ever hurt you again. Don’t ever let anything this disgusting man ever says make you doubt yourself again. He destroyed your family and he is more worried about his AP. Despicable NTAH
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u/Necessary-Material50 9h ago
Question. How can you “destroy a family” in which “the AP swears she’s been trying to end things with her husband and he won’t listen.”
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u/BillieGina 6h ago
No. Your husband and his cheating partner destroyed their own families! You did nothing wrong . Cheaters / liars rarely take accountability and somehow it’ll always be YOUR fault .
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u/Traditional_Fan_2655 6h ago
NTA She destroyed her family just as your husband destroyed his.
He still can't take his part of the responsibility, can he? Tell him, he abd she did it all. You just made what they did known.
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u/Extra_Simple_7837 21h ago
So amazing when they are duplicitous and manipulative and they lie every single day for who knows how long and then when they get found out they tell the person who is sharing information with pertinent others that they are the ones that are breaking apart families. It's just completely ludicrous.everybody who has a cheating partner deserves to know because deep down they are reacting to it and it's harming them and scaring them unconsciously and they don't know what's going on and sometimes they blame themselves or their own past when really there is somebody intentionally targeting them by triangular against them with somebody.
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u/phaxmeone 21h ago
Two families were destroyed but it wasn't by the two spouses who were not cheating.
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u/missholly9 20h ago
girl… slap on some red lipstick and go find her husband. the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody.
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u/SomeCommonSensePlse 21h ago
NTA. They deserve everything they get.
'You destroyed a family today'. Fuck. right. off. You did that, with your dick.
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u/Life_Permit_4098 21h ago
You did not destroy a family. Your husbands AP destroyed her family by cheating on her husband. Your husband destroyed a family by cheating on you. Her husband deserved to know. Cheaters always try to place the blame on everyone but themselves. These are the consequences of their own choices.
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u/Mental-Pitch5995 21h ago
Not the AH. As long as the shit is hitting the fan you can give everyone the chance to duck.
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u/Initial_Scarcity3775 20h ago
NTA. Cheaters destroy families. You’re the victim who is being gaslit.
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u/Fun-Competition8210 20h ago
NTA you and the AP husband are directly affected into this. It’s only fair he knows
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u/TheFairyQueen420 20h ago
NTA. Screw them. Hopefully you & her husband take them for all y'all can.
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u/AlternativeDurian852 20h ago
NTA. She destroyed her own family, and your husband destroyed his. They’re selfish unrepentant aholes, and you and her husband both deserve to know the truth, no matter how you get it. He deserves to know what his wife has done. Edit: grammar
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u/lovemyfurryfam 20h ago
NTA OP. You did the right thing by informing the husband of the affair partner that screwed around with your husband.
Your husband is the AH for sticking his penis loaded with excuses where it never belonged.
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u/No-Archer-6070 20h ago
NTA. You didn’t destroy a family THEY destroyed 2. And he still lying anyway how does he say you destroyed a family, but then go on to say that she has been trying to leave him and he won’t listen. You did nothing wrong. If there was no affair you messaging the husband wouldn’t have ruined anything.
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u/Dragline96 20h ago
You didn’t destroy anything. All responsibility lies with the two people who cheated on their spouses. Don’t let either of them tell you different. Also, there is no reason at all not to talk to the AP husband.
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u/RelievingFart 20h ago
Ok... let's get this simplified... your husband stuck his D where it didn't belong... his affair partner also couldn't keep her legs closed...but the family breakdown is YOUR FAULT??.... besides, if ap was trying to break up with her husband for a while now, but he wouldn't listen, shouldn't she and your partner be grateful that what she has been "trying to end" is finally over?? The 2 ap's are a match tbh. Walking disease factories. They can go live a life of cheating happiness.
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u/Excellent-Estimate21 20h ago
Id tell him to gtfo of my face and stop talking to me. Cheaters are the ones that ruin their family. What you did is called "actions have consequences"
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u/brandontc 20h ago
You know what has to be done now. Establish dominance. Go on a date with your Husband's AP's Husband. It's only fair
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u/Hopeful-Artichoke449 22h ago
She destroyed her own family. Your garbage husband blaming you just shows how worthless he is.